You guys are so weird. I've come to the conclusion that all the world is crazy, and I'm the only sane one.
PBT is slippery, and ABS is grippy. Truth.
Haven't any of you guys (those of you who play piano) ever played on a really old piano with true ebony and ivory keys, and your fingers slipped off of them because they were too dry and you couldn't get a grip? PBT is like that, to me.
The sandyness you are referring to does make a lot of sense to me, but this feeling is not the same in every set of PBT keycaps. I think it is caused by the surface texture, and I feel it a bit in one set (qtan's black pbt) but not really in another (imsto thick pbt, which is slightly more smooth). A lot of confusion probably comes from the fact that what you are feeling has more to do with the production process of the keys, than it does with the actual material they are made from.
Since I made my post in this thread in the beginning of march, I have tried yet another set of PBT keycaps, while keeping abs keycaps on my other keyboard. Once I got more used to the surface texture on Qtan's set (KBC), the "sandyness" stopped bothering me. However, I am still not sold on it.
Currently ordering a full set of GMK double shot ABS keycaps (oh how my wallet hurts). Once I get them I will compare these as well. Eventually I will have too many spare keycaps and sell at least two sets. I wonder which will be the ones that I like most.
EDIT: After going back and forth I finally settled on what my preferences are
-I do not like Cherry profile over OEM (though they are fine).
-Since thick PBT from imsto comes in Cherry profile, I prefer the thin OEM PBT sets by KBC and Vortex that I have.
-After switching completely from ABS to PBT, ABS now feels worse. Could be caused by just being used to a slightly different feel.
-I am sad, because the double shot ABS cherry profile sets are some of the best looking available. I wanted to prefer these over everything else, but that is not what happened.