Hm. I have small hands even for a girl, thin fingers, and a bit of numbness, especially when it is cold. I have used only modded MX Clears, Topre, & MX Red. The MX Red board I tried was way too light for me--either typing or gaming. Clears, pretty perfect. Topre, well, amazing, but maybe not for gaming. I'd focus on your gaming needs first, typing second, but that's my ten cents. So, maybe MX Browns?
Someone else said it: you're going to go through more than one keyboard. So much weighs into the experience: switch type, sure, but also how switches are mounted, keycaps, and the board itself. I don't know how anyone decides what's perfect for them without attending a meetup and trying out various boards. Worse yet for your wallet is the fact that you can rotate out boards/switches and have a new perfect board every week.
Consider yourself warned, and good luck!