http://www.gonskeyboardworks.com/10-stabilizers
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Those all say pcb mount. I will be hand wiring the matrix and won't have a pcb, will those still work? also those all look like they have wires?
I'm not sure what you mean by non-wire stabilizers? All stabilizers have wires. Cherry plate mount stabs have the wire hidden under the plate.
ahhh ok, that makes sense then. Sorry I am a total noob
No need to be sorry for being a noob. We all were, at one point.
What you are looking for are called Cherry plate mount stabilizers, or "MX Leveling Mechanism Kit." Cherry part numbers to search for are G99-0224, G99-0225, G99-0226, or G99-0379, depending on the size of the wire you need. Or you can always bend your own wire to spec, and use any of those kits.
When you create your switch mounting plate, you want to use the plain square holes for your switches. And use Cherry (only) stabilizer holes, if you never plan to use Costar stabilizers.