Hmm..
Regarding the 'having to pay VAT twice', anyone in Europe now has to do that. The only method for circumventing this is to have a company in Europe make the GMK order, then that company can sell the USA (and China) orders forward. That way in Europe we would pay VAT only once, same as you in the USA. This is because no VAT is applied in B2B transactions in Europe. If the GMK packet is first sent to USA, then I'm not sure how that would go as I'm not familiar with your VAT system, but from your earlier comment I assume that double VAT would be applied.
Btw, would you be willing to bill me as a company, instead of a private customer?
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I'm going to have to get a company going at some point and I wonder if such a thing is something that you would be willing to do.