I ordered some replacements from wasd, but in the meantime I was able to get mine to work. In the end, it required four different mods:
1) File the plate slots in the stabilizers out to 1.6-ish mm. One of them was like 1.4mm and they were bending inward.
2) File the cap inserts down some to slide more easily in the stabilizers
3) Bend the wires so that the bump on the long side was shallower, so they didn't scrape on the inside of the caps
4) Carve the insides of two of the caps, which were from this set
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07HK92NB7/ -- they were so badly molded and warped that they were rubbing against even the re-bent wires
(I tried different keys without at least one of these steps, and they all felt squishy and crappy until I'd completed all four.)
Having done all that, my stabilized keys feel allllmost like the rest of my keys. Certainly good enough to serve me until I've gotten my replacements from wasd. Thanks for all your help with troubleshooting this, I'm so much happier with how my board feels than I was a couple of days ago.