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geekhack Community => Off Topic => Topic started by: Input Nirvana on Wed, 22 June 2011, 21:34:15

Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: Input Nirvana on Wed, 22 June 2011, 21:34:15
This topic came up today on a serious note.

Anybody have experience or direct knowledge with this? A programmer we know has a Russian "mail order" wife, and a consultant friend married a wonderful Thai girl. Anyone else with a story?
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: didjamatic on Wed, 22 June 2011, 21:53:08
I saw a guy at the mall that definitely had one... or an Escort.

But seriously there was a documentary on TV last year that was pretty good.  I'm sure you can find it.
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: Input Nirvana on Wed, 22 June 2011, 22:08:04
A large group of us were talking at lunch today and I was the only person that knew of people that had an unconventional meeting of their wives. I'm sure it's not common, but I thought it was odd I was the only person that knew people that had done that. I was wondering if anyone else here did or knew people that did this. Single guy curiosity :)
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: audioave10 on Wed, 22 June 2011, 22:11:22
Can you return them if you are not satisfied? Oh, wait...different thread...maybe.

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I've never heard of anyone in the smaller area that I live in. I would think its more prevalent in larger cities.
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: Input Nirvana on Wed, 22 June 2011, 22:19:23
Good one! lol
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: Lanx on Wed, 22 June 2011, 23:45:25
I have family that knows friends (so it's 3rd hand stories)
They basically get paid to marry.
Now, their family has to know the other family (presumably in china) this way there's the pretense of "arranged marriage"
the citizen(the one who get's paid) then goes and applies for wife/husband visa travels there and "imports" the wife/husband.
The other family buys them a house to live in, and they live in this house but live separate lives for 3 years when the "import" goes get's residency/citizenship or whatever and the citizen get's paid $50,000.

While this doesn't relate directly to mail order brides, it's a certain perspective is all i can offer.
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: Input Nirvana on Thu, 23 June 2011, 00:12:56
Wow. Depressing. :(
I suppose that people that do it well intentioned may divorce after a few years once citizenship and an easy path has been set up for them...but he 2 people I know are having families (about 4-5 years into it). On a very personal note, one of the two men said it was an "entitlement" issue, he wanted to be with someone that appreciated everything in life, rather than feel "owed" something most of the time. He's a successful yet humble, unassuming guy, so it seems to work out well.
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: Lanx on Thu, 23 June 2011, 01:28:04
Oh I'm friends with a guy, his friend (idk if it makes a difference) is polish and he got a "mail order" bride. Married right away, and for three years they were happy, hanging out, i even remember a story where she's like ordering boxes of pre-made weight watchers food for him cuz he's just getting too fat. Bought a house and everything, then when the "right time" (i think it's 3 years) came up, she filed for divorce and wanted half. I think she took the cat too. Actually now that i think about it, she wasn't a mail order bride, but rather her "work permit visa" was going to expire and i don't think the company sponsor wanted to renew it, so i guess that's how the marriage happened.
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: Input Nirvana on Thu, 23 June 2011, 01:58:02
DOH! So she left and took her ****? lolol   People can be such turds sometimes. I guess that is input!

So now I know there are others than just my two friends :)
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: noodles256 on Thu, 23 June 2011, 02:10:23
i know about male order brides

they call them grooms though
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: reaper on Thu, 23 June 2011, 02:19:32
How about we do a group buy on this so called "brides"?
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: Ascaii on Thu, 23 June 2011, 04:58:17
group buy 5: Korean keyboard babes for lonely european keyboard geeks xD

none for you, america!
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: keyboardlover on Thu, 23 June 2011, 06:48:32
Order me Taeyeon or GTFO.
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: audioave10 on Thu, 23 June 2011, 11:11:31
I wonder how much balance is left on my credit card...

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Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: Lanx on Thu, 23 June 2011, 15:56:06
Quote from: input nirvana;365892
DOH! So she left and took her ****? lolol   People can be such turds sometimes. I guess that is input!

So now I know there are others than just my two friends :)
He met another polish girl on a dating website, they both moved to san fran and are happy and getting married this year, this relationship i've actually seen (didn't see the previous one) and they do seem happy i guess. So maybe that's a +1 for dating websites.
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: Input Nirvana on Thu, 23 June 2011, 16:00:16
Quote from: audioave10;366190
I wonder how much balance is left on my credit card...

Show Image
(http://www.asian-womens.com/sitebuildercontent/sitebuilderpictures/japanese-dating.jpg)

Put in overtime at work....:)
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: Input Nirvana on Thu, 23 June 2011, 16:03:34
Quote from: Lanx;366436
He met another polish girl on a dating website, they both moved to san fran and are happy and getting married this year, this relationship i've actually seen (didn't see the previous one) and they do seem happy i guess. So maybe that's a +1 for dating websites.

It's a beautiful day here in SF, everybody here is happy today :)
Well, I hope they are in a good place together, obviously it's something he wants if he does it again :)
3 positive stories!
Title: "Mail order" brides
Post by: alaricljs on Thu, 23 June 2011, 21:20:59
Quote from: input nirvana;366442
Put in overtime at work....:)

So you know where he lives and you're gonna hang out at his place keeping an eye on things?  ;)