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http://geekhack.org/member.php?14046-keyboardlover
I'm devoid of humor at this point :(
I didn't mention that I've been financially wiped out. Retirement is 100% gone, my business is dead, I'm scraping by for the next 90 days just to get back to zero, not sure what after that. I can maybe rebuild by January if nothing further derails me.
Need an opportunity.
"hacked your email account"? Does that even happen without social engineering, an inside connection, or someone using "password" as his password??
Sorry to hear of your woes. I hope you are able to recover soon.
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I mean, "hacked your email account"? Does that even happen without social engineering, an inside connection, or someone using "password" as his password?? I'm just curious to know what the weak points are and how one might prevent such craziness.
On the bright side, you are living in one of the best places in the world. :-D
Sorry to hear of your woes. I hope you are able to recover soon.
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I mean, "hacked your email account"? Does that even happen without social engineering, an inside connection, or someone using "password" as his password?? I'm just curious to know what the weak points are and how one might prevent such craziness.
On the bright side, you are living in one of the best places in the world. :-D
input nirvana: Karma doesn't exist.
Hey, if I can start sleeping more than 6 hours a night and get income greater than my expenses....I'll be in a much better spot, will start thinking more clearly, and make plans again.
And maybe people won't shun me and my black cloud!!!! Check this thing out! Huge, isn't it??
Holy **** TexasFlood, you're stalking me too!
Throwing it out there:
I'm very open to participating in a start up, or other endeavors. You can PM me if you like. I'm located 1.5 hours south of San Francisco, but will be moving very shortly.
This whole story will be part of your past tomorrow and you will see that life has something nice waiting for you.
^ Dibs on the right one.
Maybe she got some closure from this.
(I was looking pretty good that day, was gonna hit on a very sharp looking blonde attorney with a cute little black dress...and stalker was looking rather horrid)
when it's drunk..
P.S. If the stalker was a man, I would have put it in a body bag by now and dug a shallow hole in the desert.
Congrats on the new lease on life input nirvana! I'm particularly interested in your escaping from the hole. Got any suggestions for quick, legal money making? The tax man is coming to take it all away! :-o
The fat-ugly-white hill trash-disgusting-freak-pathetic-drama filled-embezzeling-crappy bookeeper-parasitic-tick-stalker called my phone yesterday. I'm re-compiling EVERYTHING and going to courthouse Monday am to get this **** to stop. I have as much as I can so I can go on the offensive for a possible harassment suit. Restraining order is about all I can try to do again.
I've done this:
-job changed
-moved
-locked down credit access/reporting with 2 different and expensive services for track record and legal action if it tries to access my credit.
-changed bank accounts
-changed email addresses
-contacted state/fed agencies re: taxes/misc biz filings
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-about to change phone number
-can't do much about internet stalking, name is out there, it's out there (can't use any social media personal or professional with an internet stalker)
WHAT THE HELL ELSE DO I NEED TO DO? Let me know if there is something else.
I actually felt sorry for it for a few months because it's so sad, empty and completely worthless at all levels. But not anymore. This is getting downright scary. Time to elevate the level of personal protection.
Priorities.
LOL!!!
But, in principle...does that make a difference? Obviously in the real world it does, but having sex doesn't give your life over to someone. It's just sex.
At this point I don't feel anything I do will "stop" its insane obsession. It lives in some weird unrealistic dream world it seems. Until it has something better/more time consuming in its own pitiful existence it would seem I'm the focus and blame of its problems. It seems to think there is some 'tie' since I was nice to it. I just don't know/understand the whole thing. That's the scary part...it doesn't make ANY sense. I just want to ignore it, so if I can be in a position of not being aware of its obsession, I'm comfortable with that. Ignorance is bliss. I don't want to be inconvenienced anymore, give it any further attention. And, to a certain point, I can distance myself from it and the problem it's trying to create and consider it the equivalent of junk mail/spam/traffic/nasty bowel movement. Forget about it. It happens, don't give it any attention/effort. It'll pass just like a bad day. Especially if I can reduce it to internet hassle.
If it doesn't send a text or whatever, I never think about it. It has that little meaning in my life. It's of no consequence.
As far as me being eradicated...I'm comfortable with my life and who/what I am. Any of us can go at any time. I'm prepared. But, should something make an attempt, I'll do everything I can do eliminate it first. Obviously. I consider that entertainment. Eat or be eaten. I'm good with that.
I didn't dehumanize it, the creature has dehumanized itself already. I have no regrets. I am on the defensive, I want to be left alone, this is my right, there are no actions of contact on my part since before the restraining order court date months ago. I know it wants contact to somehow legitimize itself, bet I will NEVER address it again. It is of NO consequence or importance in my life at any level, even if I die as a result from carrying this point of view.
I'm responsible only because I gave it the time of day and attempted to be somewhat supportive of its issues because I felt sorry for it...until I realized it created the issues and accepts no responsibility for the disastrous results, at which point I backed away. Can't help something that doesn't help itself. I was never the one pushing forward. It saw an open, friendly door, and latched on like a cancerous barnacle.
My active approach will be through legal channels only. I find this whole mess disgusting, unfair, scary, and I try to put it out of my mind (very successfully most of the time I might add). Somehow it sounds like you feel I bear more responsibility than I feel I do. I understand that, it seems 'everything can be talked out and solved'. This is not the case here. This is an incomplete, obsessive personality that only has one outcome in it's mind. Period. There's no reasoning with that. I need legal protection, and documented. After that, whatever it does, is for the history books. Life is short and I won't contribute to the uglification in my life.
Maybe this is a bit more extreme than what others have gone through. I've heard of it, but never paid much attention. I'm sharing this because it is such a crazy and impossible situation with virtually no possible 'win'.
Be careful out there.
Hahaha! I'd LOVE to see THAT immaculate conception-devil-baby pop out! That would prove the extent of the lies.I think you have me confused, I completely understand your mentality.
I'm sorry you have a similar nasty issue. I can tell it's substantially different than mine...you obviously had a 'relationship'...hence your lack of understanding with my confusion and frustration. The actions I'm seeing are like that of a jilted long term lover. Totally crazy.
Someone said this to me, and I think I'm going to listen: "It's only as much of a problem as you allow it to be." I guess if I take the stand that I disavow and ignore, basically pokerface it...at least it won't occupy my time/energy and at some point it will end. The more I acknowledge it (good or bad), legitimizes it and the more impact it can have on the world around me. A couple more actions on my part to distance, change, insulate, and protect, plus time...and pokerface it is. The truth is I'll forget about it like a rash once it's gone.
I'm not buying drama, so no point in someone trying to sell it to me.
This honestly seems like something you can go to a medical professional with, and get her declared mentally ill..
This honestly seems like something you can go to a medical professional with, and get her declared mentally ill..
I see you didn't read the whole thread, the story goes, the stalker female is already on pills, on/off her whole life.
This honestly seems like something you can go to a medical professional with, and get her declared mentally ill..
I see you didn't read the whole thread, the story goes, the stalker female is already on pills, on/off her whole life.
No, I understand pills. This is destructive behaviour and is endangering other people. That is something totally different than depression/bipolarism/OCD.
She could probably be committed if you file a police report saying a mentally ill woman broke into your house/stole your financial information/is running amuk with your SSN
Seriously, you're being way too passive with this. There are so many more outlets to explore.
I had the police involved. The proof it stole anything wasn't all clearly there, but I now have texts printed out admitting to being in my house, while threatening me. I initially wasn't going to go down that path, but now my feeling sorry is changing to anger and frustration.
As far as the financial portion, that has been dealt with, mostly.
It's the harassment that is the issue now.
I hope that things can clear up for you IN. I really really do. We are here for your support... at least I am.
On a note to hopefully cheer you up, what do you get when you get when you add a potato to a penis?---A ****-Tater!
I had the damn thing arrested.
The stalking is part obsession, part retribution. The messages vacillate wildly between wanting to be amicable to anger over what happened. Depends on time of day/drunk or not when sending.
I'm having to produce quite a bit for the DA, who is pressing the charges. After this happened, I was wiped out and started working 65 hours a week out of town, so many details had to be delayed. Then, I was falsely accused of doing ALL the things that were done to me...which is now shown to not be the case, but took some major emotional energy to deal with.
This whole experience has been emotionally, financially, and patience draining. Initially I was fired up to solve this, but dealing with the slow wheels of the system was very frustrating, as a result at this point I've become somewhat passive...I've had to put food on the table and a roof over my head...it's been a struggle. Maybe you can see why I want to walk away at this point, be left alone, and start over. I'm exhausted. I can't have a real relationship with someone with garbage like this polluting my life, I can't really relax/feel secure. I get a text and my anxiety level shoots up. On a personal level I really need a closing action, then my healing and time can begin. It doesn't feel much different than the time this started....I need to resolve this and move forward. The posting the last day or so has really made it clear to me that somehow, some way this needs to either be ended or put away in a place it doesn't have such an effect on me. Life is so short, in the end none of the stupid things that happen mean anything and it's a sad waste of life to spend dealing with it. It's sad.
Also, understand...justice costs money and time and energy and can be very unpleasant. I'm short on all, and it's been extremely unpleasant. I won't mention the incredibly scary thoughts that have gone through my head, alone, late at night when I couldn't sleep, with all the windows in my house screwed permanently shut. The thoughts of failing, not being able to pay what I owe to everybody, the realization I was less than 30 days from being homeless, carless, losing all my 'stuff', businesses being mad at me, destroyed credit. I actually went 24 hours hungry. Yea, that was rough. The thoughts I had in my head were not thoughts anyone should have, I was surprised I would have those types of thoughts. That's the entire reason why I had started this thread, to bring a level of awareness and maybe at one tiny level that may help someone in some way. So they don't think or do what was in my head. Nothing in the world is worth that. Being a victim sucks.
My path:
After 24 hours being hungry:
An out of state friend ordered me $50 of home delivery pizza that lasted 3 days. Then:
I borrowed $40 for gas/food from a brand new co-worker the first week. Then:
I took an advance after a week of work. Then:
I sold my Datahand/equip. immediately for the discount price of $1200. Then:
I got my first paycheck.
Sadly, the emergency job I took didn't pay enough for me to 'make it' and I worked 12 hours daily, 6 days a week just to stop sliding down.
I'm still juggling bills, behind with everything, selling things, reduced all spending/overhead to below minimum.
I went from a 6 figure income to begging for food. The penthouse to the outhouse. I'm way past the humiliation. It was survival. Would have been a tough change to try and earn income without the benefit of a safe place to sleep, shower, poop, and regroup daily. How would I have been able to do a good job at anything? I'm sure if I had lost the roof over my head, the rebuilding wound be greatly delayed and much more difficult. I live in a small tourist town, not a lot of easy opportunities to jump into. Even though it was a beautiful life in such a great place, the lack of potential depth has caused me to rethink, and as a result, move to the big city for greater opportunity/more contacts should anything take a dip for the worse in the future.
I just don't want anyone else to suffer with the horrific and frightening state of mind I had for a few weeks. I will take another 6 months to grow and heal past that nasty, scary time.
EDIT:
In short, this has been far more about my immediate mental health and overall survival, than anything else. If I can be ok today, then I can pursue the past crime more aggressively with the DA. If I'm completely devastated, not much satisfaction if I'm homeless, no phone, etc. Priorities.