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Title: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: dante on Mon, 10 March 2014, 18:17:47
I'm always in my head ... finding it hard to make BroFriends or someone I can click with IRL.

Yes, I know this isn't Craigslist...  :))
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: rowdy on Mon, 10 March 2014, 18:25:06
Don't try to be someone you're not just to please someone else.

Be yourself, and the right people will gravitate towards you.

:)
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: IvanIvanovich on Mon, 10 March 2014, 18:34:44
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Have problem making new friends? ...it's easy if you have a big enough printer.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: demik on Mon, 10 March 2014, 18:35:23
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Have problem making new friends? ...it's easy if you have a big enough printer.

so many sexual predators!
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: SpAmRaY on Mon, 10 March 2014, 18:36:02
Don't try to be someone you're not just to please someone else.

Be yourself, and the right people will gravitate towards you.

:)

^^ Someone told me something similar recently!

I don't really have time for friends IRL so that's part of why I come to geekhack.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: IvanIvanovich on Mon, 10 March 2014, 18:36:23
Do they rub you the wrong way?
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: rowdy on Mon, 10 March 2014, 19:25:09
Do they rub you the wrong way?

And what type of oil do they use?
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: demik on Mon, 10 March 2014, 19:27:17
Don't try to be someone you're not just to please someone else.

Be yourself, and the right people will gravitate towards you.

:)

Well, being an introvert makes that a little difficult.

I had 3 friends I'd consider "good" friends. But then I stopped going out with them and we lost touch. It's hard to find friends when you rather be at home.

Such is life though!
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Novus on Mon, 10 March 2014, 19:35:38
Don't be an introvert then.
Problem solved.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Computer-Lab in Basement on Mon, 10 March 2014, 19:37:31
Don't be an introvert then.
Problem solved.


If only it were that simple...
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: rowdy on Mon, 10 March 2014, 19:41:45
Don't be an introvert then.
Problem solved.


If only it were that simple...

Just update the personality subroutine?
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Computer-Lab in Basement on Mon, 10 March 2014, 19:44:07
Don't be an introvert then.
Problem solved.


If only it were that simple...

Just update the personality subroutine?


Or turn off your emotion chip and never have to be nervous in front of people again...

Wait, wrong ST character...
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: noisyturtle on Mon, 10 March 2014, 19:44:26
I haven't had any friends for about 6 years. Don't sweat it, I'm pretty sure adult life is supposed to be isolating and miserable.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Elrick on Mon, 10 March 2014, 20:29:16
I haven't had any friends for about 6 years. Don't sweat it, I'm pretty sure adult life is supposed to be isolating and miserable.

Geez, you need to get out or you will become alone for the rest of your life.  Don't be a future pedo or creep hanging around forums looking to pick up children for 'friendship'.  Not nice and it may harm any chances for you to ever getting laid by the opposite sex (presuming you don't fancy the same sex).

Real life is way better than being stuck in front of an LCD screen, sure you might make mistakes but you learn from them and carry on.

Time to man-up and create the life you want instead of fantasizing about what it might be like........ too many here do that already  ;D .
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: iri on Tue, 11 March 2014, 03:45:59
Hallo!

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Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Belfong on Tue, 11 March 2014, 03:52:38
When you are married and have children, you probably have no time for friends. It's no difference.. LOL!
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Badwrench on Tue, 11 March 2014, 04:13:06
When you are married and have children, you probably have no time for friends. It's no difference.. LOL!

Nope, you have to make the time.  Lucky for me, my S.O. is good at planning get togethers with friends and family. 
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: paicrai on Tue, 11 March 2014, 07:23:09
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Have problem making new friends? ...it's easy if you have a big enough printer.
looks like craigslist
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: type.n on Tue, 11 March 2014, 18:21:39
Jesus will be anybody's bro!
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: StylinGreymon on Tue, 11 March 2014, 18:31:09
I haven't made a friend since high school.
I'm not even sure how to go about it, anymore.

The handful of friends I have now know they're stuck with me for life.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Belfong on Tue, 11 March 2014, 20:29:58
I have friends whom I know since 7 years old. We still meet up once a while. But I didn't keep in touch with any of the friends I made in University. Then when I come to work, I knew a bunch of awesome people whom I became close friends with and we still keep in touch. In total though, it's just a handful. Sad. But we are deviating from the topic. He's talking about a mate..
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: demik on Tue, 11 March 2014, 20:48:13
Jesus will be anybody's bro!

no i wont
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Input Nirvana on Tue, 11 March 2014, 22:28:03
Jesus will be anybody's bro!

no i wont

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
Only a select few.

This thread has some scary-sad overtones. No way to be healthy sitting in front of a monitor. That's just sad. Happiness is relative, and I say do what makes you happy.

Let me ask you introverts this:
Someone looks you dead in the eye, has a huge smile, says "Hi!" and is genuinely being affable and friendly. Is this uncomfortable, scary, unwanted? If so, this is definitely a problem with your value system.
Or, is it the fear/concern that when you go out and interact that no one will be friendly, like you, do things with you, love you? That's a phobia (irrational fear).

It's not your business what someone thinks of you.
Yes, it's nice to be liked, but it's not important to have peoples approval. At some point ya gotta stand on your own. Stand short or stand tall, but ya gotta stand. Find what works for you, but I can tell you this with absolute conviction: You only get out what you put in. So you want something? Now you know what you need to do to get it, and it's not guaranteed that you will get it. If you don't play, you can't win. And for what it's worth…it's a numbers game. VOLUME to sift through the MASSES to find what will be a good fit. You're not that special, one-of-a-kind person that there is no match for. It's out there, but you prolly won't bump into them in front of your 'outer, at Starbucks, or next to you at work (but it could happen). And once you do it, it becomes easier. The worst that can happen is that you'll get no measurable result that you're happy with, but you won't go backwards…you'll get better at it, and then you won't be writing sad posts on GH. You'll be buying too many keyboards and other stupid ****, but you'll be living and living on your own happier terms.

Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: davkol on Wed, 12 March 2014, 15:30:23
introverted != shy/anxious
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Lanx on Wed, 12 March 2014, 15:50:37
the thing is...

how do you meet ppl?

you can meet your neighbors, and POSSIBLY get along with them.

however, neighbors are like your parents, you don't get to choose either.

also neighbors are dependent are your lifestyle of choice.

i currently am living in an apt with my wife, i am most likely NOT going to find a neighbor who is going to talk to me about mowing his ****ing lawn.

then it's the "semi frequent" spots, most probably it'll be a "gym buddy" usually it's someone you just say "hey you done with this? thanks my name is lanx btw, i've seen you around" your not picking him up, just starting conversation.

also, your "gym buddy" is probably going to be about your same body type, again YOUR NOT picking him up, but if you're bmi is around 20 (not fat, not skinny) you are NOT going to go make friends with the "grunter" (you know who this is). (i actually have made friends with the extreme grunter's but that was cuz they talked to me about tech stuff once in a while cuz they knew i was "the guy" since i told some ppl around my gym stuff to buy, like portable bluetooth headsets and etc...)

again what do you frequent weekly?

hell it could be as holy as church or as depressing as AA meetings.

you want a friend? find a person with similar interests, try meetup.com it's really great for ppl in cities. (i haven't used it but my friends have for networking and to actually make friends with similar interests)
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: SpAmRaY on Wed, 12 March 2014, 15:57:48
the thing is...

how do you meet ppl?

you can meet your neighbors, and POSSIBLY get along with them.

however, neighbors are like your parents, you don't get to choose either.

also neighbors are dependent are your lifestyle of choice.

i currently am living in an apt with my wife, i am most likely NOT going to find a neighbor who is going to talk to me about mowing his ****ing lawn.

then it's the "semi frequent" spots, most probably it'll be a "gym buddy" usually it's someone you just say "hey you done with this? thanks my name is lanx btw, i've seen you around" your not picking him up, just starting conversation.

also, your "gym buddy" is probably going to be about your same body type, again YOUR NOT picking him up, but if you're bmi is around 20 (not fat, not skinny) you are NOT going to go make friends with the "grunter" (you know who this is). (i actually have made friends with the extreme grunter's but that was cuz they talked to me about tech stuff once in a while cuz they knew i was "the guy" since i told some ppl around my gym stuff to buy, like portable bluetooth headsets and etc...)

again what do you frequent weekly?

hell it could be as holy as church or as depressing as AA meetings.

you want a friend? find a person with similar interests, try meetup.com it's really great for ppl in cities. (i haven't used it but my friends have for networking and to actually make friends with similar interests)

I just looked at meetup, only group around here is a group of preppers.... :eek:
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: esoomenona on Wed, 12 March 2014, 16:22:47
Geez, you need to get out or you will become alone for the rest of your life.  Don't be a future pedo or creep hanging around forums looking to pick up children for 'friendship'.  Not nice and it may harm any chances for you to ever getting laid by the opposite sex (presuming you don't fancy the same sex).

What the **** type of stupid homophobic **** are you on? If you sit in front of a computer, you automatically become a pedo and a creep? And then, your only option is being gay, because women won't sleep with you? Are you really this ****ing dense? I see a lot of the **** you say, and it's obviously garbage, but I'm actually starting to think there's something seriously wrong with you.

The reality is this world is tremendously diverse. You COULD be a creep and a pedo, and find a women who's into that. And I'm sure there are just as many gay men and women who hate creeps and pedos as anyone else. Why don't you try using that little thing between your ears before you open your mouth?
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: iri on Wed, 12 March 2014, 16:34:07
wow, this esoomenona is so homophobic.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Lanx on Wed, 12 March 2014, 17:14:53
I just looked at meetup, only group around here is a group of preppers.... :eek:

that says a lot about your town... must be the town everyone flocks to when **** hits the fan!

preppers are freaky yo, i mean i have a BOB(but out bag) but it's just a tiny backpack with like a minor first aid kit, a multitool and pen/paper... serious preppers decide to take a .22 gun cuz that ammo will be more readily available, crazzies.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: davkol on Wed, 12 March 2014, 17:57:04
again what do you frequent weekly?

you want a friend? find a person with similar interests, try meetup.com it's really great for ppl in cities. (i haven't used it but my friends have for networking and to actually make friends with similar interests)

Assuming people have mainstream interests.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Input Nirvana on Wed, 12 March 2014, 23:49:04
again what do you frequent weekly?

you want a friend? find a person with similar interests, try meetup.com it's really great for ppl in cities. (i haven't used it but my friends have for networking and to actually make friends with similar interests)

Assuming people have mainstream interests.

Any time you partake in activities that you enjoy/have interest in, you can have the opportunity to meet people that share that interest. It's a strong common bond in mate as well as friends. I dated a famous porn spanking "star". She was an awesome and fun loving girl as any, very warm and down to earth, that has a need to be spanked hard fetish since she was a child. As a result? She is very attractive, and wound up working as a model in the adult industry, and has many friends that share the same (spanking) fetish interests. Many are totally different people than her, but that one or two common interests made for some very decent friendships that last years. An interesting example, but I thought it applied here. No one is a one-of-a-kind person. There are more…just gotta make effort to sift through to find them. Efforts will be rewarded, like panning for gold. Simple math with a twist.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: iri on Thu, 13 March 2014, 05:29:58
again what do you frequent weekly?

you want a friend? find a person with similar interests, try meetup.com it's really great for ppl in cities. (i haven't used it but my friends have for networking and to actually make friends with similar interests)

Assuming people have mainstream interests.

Any time you partake in activities that you enjoy/have interest in, you can have the opportunity to meet people that share that interest. It's a strong common bond in mate as well as friends. I dated a famous porn spanking "star". She was an awesome and fun loving girl as any, very warm and down to earth, that has a need to be spanked hard fetish since she was a child. As a result? She is very attractive, and wound up working as a model in the adult industry, and has many friends that share the same (spanking) fetish interests. Many are totally different people than her, but that one or two common interests made for some very decent friendships that last years. An interesting example, but I thought it applied here. No one is a one-of-a-kind person. There are more…just gotta make effort to sift through to find them. Efforts will be rewarded, like panning for gold. Simple math with a twist.
that's precisely why we have an internet community for zoophiles.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Lastpilot on Sat, 15 March 2014, 00:28:56
introverted != shy/anxious
Agreed.


Efforts will be rewarded, like panning for gold. Simple math with a twist.
It's like panning for gold when each time you don't find gold somebody shoots you in the foot. Or you shoot them in the foot. Something like that. But yes. Finding a good relationship is a long and arduous journey. Keeping that relationship healthy is more work. But it's worth it. :D

I heard a good quote once. "Happiness is only real when shared." So true!
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: ideus on Sat, 15 March 2014, 00:50:06
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Have problem making new friends? ...it's easy if you have a big enough printer.


Where I can get such a big printer? mm, If I need a group of friends I should get a super large format one?  :-[
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Lanx on Sat, 15 March 2014, 02:50:31
i'm going on yet another "play date"... see if you have a wife, she will (unless she's an introvert) meet lots of other females, usually these other females have some sort of boyfriend/husband. so far i've liked 2, out of 30?, and when i say liked, they were next on my groomsman list. but all these other guys... eh.

i mean i've got a lot of "**** to talk about" topics with these guys... but imo these are pretty bad (cuz you can't excuse yourself... and you're almost kind of forced to like each other since the wives get along).

she doesn't do this for my benefit and i'm sure the friend doesn't for her SO, either... it's just that the girls think "why not all just hang out".
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Novus on Sat, 15 March 2014, 03:02:26
As an extroverted introvert, I can say that in general extroverts don't have many real friends and introvert find their few real friends annoying.
 :)) :)) :)) :)) :))
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: iri on Sat, 15 March 2014, 03:08:13
stereotypes, stereotypes.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Novus on Sat, 15 March 2014, 03:47:03
The best kind
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Malphas on Sat, 15 March 2014, 07:27:06
Get a job where you're constantly around other guys for long periods of time, with dead periods. e.g. an oil rig, a ship, the armed forces.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: noisyturtle on Sat, 15 March 2014, 21:42:49
My roommate has a bunch of friends over tonight and they're all playing D&D and drinking beer in the living room, laughing and having a grand time. I asked if I could join and he just said he didn't want me to play. Now I've just been sitting in my room all day, feeling isolated and rejected.

It's bull**** that something that would've upset me as a child upsets me almost just as much as an adult, and it really caught me off guard how ****ty this situation made me feel. Life sure is ****ing stupid sometimes.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Wildcard on Sat, 15 March 2014, 21:50:02
My roommate has a bunch of friends over tonight and they're all playing D&D and drinking beer in the living room, laughing and having a grand time. I asked if I could join and he just said he didn't want me to play. Now I've just been sitting in my room all day, feeling isolated and rejected.

It's bull**** that something that would've upset me as a child upsets me almost just as much as an adult, and it really caught me off guard how ****ty this situation made me feel. Life sure is ****ing stupid sometimes.

You should join us for movie night :)

Here's the link to the movie stream here (http://www.livestream.com/chronic_cinema)
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Malphas on Sat, 15 March 2014, 21:59:13
My roommate has a bunch of friends over tonight and they're all playing D&D and drinking beer in the living room, laughing and having a grand time. I asked if I could join and he just said he didn't want me to play. Now I've just been sitting in my room all day, feeling isolated and rejected.

It's bull**** that something that would've upset me as a child upsets me almost just as much as an adult, and it really caught me off guard how ****ty this situation made me feel. Life sure is ****ing stupid sometimes.

I hope you called him on being a total ****. Unless there's something terribly wrong with you that made his behavior understandable.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: ideus on Sat, 15 March 2014, 22:02:38
My roommate has a bunch of friends over tonight and they're all playing D&D and drinking beer in the living room, laughing and having a grand time. I asked if I could join and he just said he didn't want me to play. Now I've just been sitting in my room all day, feeling isolated and rejected.

It's bull**** that something that would've upset me as a child upsets me almost just as much as an adult, and it really caught me off guard how ****ty this situation made me feel. Life sure is ****ing stupid sometimes.

I hope you called him on being a total ****. Unless there's something terribly wrong with you that made his behavior understandable.


Something terrible wrong? what do you mean?
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Novus on Sat, 15 March 2014, 22:03:48
My roommate has a bunch of friends over tonight and they're all playing D&D and drinking beer in the living room, laughing and having a grand time. I asked if I could join and he just said he didn't want me to play. Now I've just been sitting in my room all day, feeling isolated and rejected.

It's bull**** that something that would've upset me as a child upsets me almost just as much as an adult, and it really caught me off guard how ****ty this situation made me feel. Life sure is ****ing stupid sometimes.

I hope you take a **** on him and then move out.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: noisyturtle on Sat, 15 March 2014, 22:04:33
My roommate has a bunch of friends over tonight and they're all playing D&D and drinking beer in the living room, laughing and having a grand time. I asked if I could join and he just said he didn't want me to play. Now I've just been sitting in my room all day, feeling isolated and rejected.

It's bull**** that something that would've upset me as a child upsets me almost just as much as an adult, and it really caught me off guard how ****ty this situation made me feel. Life sure is ****ing stupid sometimes.

I hope you called him on being a total ****. Unless there's something terribly wrong with you that made his behavior understandable.

I haven't said anything yet because they are still playing, but I do plan on telling him it was a ****ty thing to have done. He's not a bad dude, I don't know if he even thought about it.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: CPTBadAss on Sat, 15 March 2014, 22:06:48
again what do you frequent weekly?

you want a friend? find a person with similar interests, try meetup.com it's really great for ppl in cities. (i haven't used it but my friends have for networking and to actually make friends with similar interests)

Assuming people have mainstream interests.

Lmao, we're all on Geekhack talking aren't we? Not exactly mainstream mang.

Any time you partake in activities that you enjoy/have interest in, you can have the opportunity to meet people that share that interest. It's a strong common bond in mate as well as friends. I dated a famous porn spanking "star". She was an awesome and fun loving girl as any, very warm and down to earth, that has a need to be spanked hard fetish since she was a child. As a result? She is very attractive, and wound up working as a model in the adult industry, and has many friends that share the same (spanking) fetish interests. Many are totally different people than her, but that one or two common interests made for some very decent friendships that last years. An interesting example, but I thought it applied here. No one is a one-of-a-kind person. There are more…just gotta make effort to sift through to find them. Efforts will be rewarded, like panning for gold. Simple math with a twist.

TL:DR - InputNirvana is into spanking. Way too much info bro.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: iri on Sun, 16 March 2014, 00:02:38
My roommate has a bunch of friends over tonight and they're all playing D&D and drinking beer in the living room, laughing and having a grand time. I asked if I could join and he just said he didn't want me to play. Now I've just been sitting in my room all day, feeling isolated and rejected.

It's bull**** that something that would've upset me as a child upsets me almost just as much as an adult, and it really caught me off guard how ****ty this situation made me feel. Life sure is ****ing stupid sometimes.

I hope you take a shot on him and then move out.
Title: Re: Any introverted peeps have problems finding your BroMate?
Post by: Input Nirvana on Sun, 16 March 2014, 00:03:54
again what do you frequent weekly?

you want a friend? find a person with similar interests, try meetup.com it's really great for ppl in cities. (i haven't used it but my friends have for networking and to actually make friends with similar interests)

Assuming people have mainstream interests.

Lmao, we're all on Geekhack talking aren't we? Not exactly mainstream mang.

Any time you partake in activities that you enjoy/have interest in, you can have the opportunity to meet people that share that interest. It's a strong common bond in mate as well as friends. I dated a famous porn spanking "star". She was an awesome and fun loving girl as any, very warm and down to earth, that has a need to be spanked hard fetish since she was a child. As a result? She is very attractive, and wound up working as a model in the adult industry, and has many friends that share the same (spanking) fetish interests. Many are totally different people than her, but that one or two common interests made for some very decent friendships that last years. An interesting example, but I thought it applied here. No one is a one-of-a-kind person. There are more…just gotta make effort to sift through to find them. Efforts will be rewarded, like panning for gold. Simple math with a twist.

TL:DR - InputNirvana is into spanking. Way too much info bro.

I'm not into spanking, I'm into keyboards :)

Spanking porn star: We went out briefly but transitioned into friends. A very interesting and multifaceted individual. I thought the example is relevant to the severely introverted/isolated peeps looking to find friends. But yes, I yap a lot.