Looks around ... Um, am I in the right forum?
Respect yourself, so you can live up to your personal truth. Do you have a gut feeling on what to do? Act on it.
Find a reason to break up and keep new girl?Or keep both till I find a reason to break up with one of them or they eventually find out and I get double****
Would like serious answers
she will find out eventually and wonder why you haven't told her.WONDER
This.Find a reason to break up and keep new girl?Or keep both till I find a reason to break up with one of them or they eventually find out and I get double****
Would like serious answers
This new girl is a reason to break up with the old one. Relationships are built on trust. You have to tell the new girl about your current girlfriend AS SOON AS POSSIBLE otherwise she will find out eventually and wonder why you haven't told her.
The current girl will eventually find out about the new girl. If she asks "where did they meet?" and she is told the truth, she will know you cheated on her and she will not be happy.
In order, you need to:
1. Tell the new girl about your current girlfriend. Tell her you have a girlfriend. Tell her your feelings towards her. She will either say: "that's ok, I will wait" or she will run to the hills.
2. Tell your current girl about the new girl. TELL HER EVERYTHING. She will either say "**** you I can't believe you cheated on me" and run away. Or she will say "that's OK I forgive you." If she says the latter, she is madly in love with you.
TL;DR - tell them both the truth. You may lose one, both or none of them, but you can't start or continue a relationship on lies.
Here's a thought - if you liked the first girl enough you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.
Here's a thought - if you liked the first girl enough you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.
It's all about the dopamine brother. (http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm) The new girl is doping your brain up. Your steady girlfriend is (hopefully) releasing some oxytocin in your noggin.
You gotta look past the hormone side determine a couple things:
What do you want? To meet the girl you want to marry some day or just to have some fun right now and work on yourself?
If it's meet the girl you are going to marry, then you have to look past the hormones at the character of the person and see who you could more comfortably build a life with.
If it's just have fun then you will and should be bouncing relationships because you can keep things light. Bonus: new relationships trigger dopamine again in your brain.
Either way, honestly I think you should end it with your current girl because you cheated and even if she never knows: 1. It shows you aren't really committed to this girl and 2. The guilt will always be in your head as long as you are with her.
Good luck man. Sounds both exciting and painful.
(Sorry for mistakes. Typing on phone on way to work)
It's all about the dopamine brother. (http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm) The new girl is doping your brain up. Your steady girlfriend is (hopefully) releasing some oxytocin in your noggin.
You gotta look past the hormone side determine a couple things:
What do you want? To meet the girl you want to marry some day or just to have some fun right now and work on yourself?
If it's meet the girl you are going to marry, then you have to look past the hormones at the character of the person and see who you could more comfortably build a life with.
If it's just have fun then you will and should be bouncing relationships because you can keep things light. Bonus: new relationships trigger dopamine again in your brain.
Either way, honestly I think you should end it with your current girl because you cheated and even if she never knows: 1. It shows you aren't really committed to this girl and 2. The guilt will always be in your head as long as you are with her.
Good luck man. Sounds both exciting and painful.
(Sorry for mistakes. Typing on phone on way to work)
Don't blame it on the beer. That's a weak excuse.Here's a thought - if you liked the first girl enough you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.Boobs and humour and beer.Fatal.
Don't blame it on the beer. That's a weak excuse.Here's a thought - if you liked the first girl enough you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.Boobs and humour and beer.Fatal.
Made up your mind on what you are going to do?
Don't blame it on the beer. That's a weak excuse.Here's a thought - if you liked the first girl enough you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.Boobs and humour and beer.Fatal.
Made up your mind on what you are going to do?
It's all about the dopamine brother. (http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm) The new girl is doping your brain up. Your steady girlfriend is (hopefully) releasing some oxytocin in your noggin.
You gotta look past the hormone side determine a couple things:
What do you want? To meet the girl you want to marry some day or just to have some fun right now and work on yourself?
If it's meet the girl you are going to marry, then you have to look past the hormones at the character of the person and see who you could more comfortably build a life with.
If it's just have fun then you will and should be bouncing relationships because you can keep things light. Bonus: new relationships trigger dopamine again in your brain.
Either way, honestly I think you should end it with your current girl because you cheated and even if she never knows: 1. It shows you aren't really committed to this girl and 2. The guilt will always be in your head as long as you are with her.
Good luck man. Sounds both exciting and painful.
(Sorry for mistakes. Typing on phone on way to work)
LOLOL.. Someone's been reading NoFap ?
hahaha..
YES, it's all about dopamine.. EVERYTHING in this world is about dopamine..
So Greath's point is that Regardless of how faithful the OP intended to be.. Biologically, more and specifically NOVEL females will ALWAYS be an attractive proposition.
It's all about the dopamine brother. (http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm) The new girl is doping your brain up. Your steady girlfriend is (hopefully) releasing some oxytocin in your noggin.
You gotta look past the hormone side determine a couple things:
What do you want? To meet the girl you want to marry some day or just to have some fun right now and work on yourself?
If it's meet the girl you are going to marry, then you have to look past the hormones at the character of the person and see who you could more comfortably build a life with.
If it's just have fun then you will and should be bouncing relationships because you can keep things light. Bonus: new relationships trigger dopamine again in your brain.
Either way, honestly I think you should end it with your current girl because you cheated and even if she never knows: 1. It shows you aren't really committed to this girl and 2. The guilt will always be in your head as long as you are with her.
Good luck man. Sounds both exciting and painful.
(Sorry for mistakes. Typing on phone on way to work)
LOLOL.. Someone's been reading NoFap ?
hahaha..
YES, it's all about dopamine.. EVERYTHING in this world is about dopamine..
So Greath's point is that Regardless of how faithful the OP intended to be.. Biologically, more and specifically NOVEL females will ALWAYS be an attractive proposition.
Honestly no. Psych 101 class maybe 10 years back when I was in college. Paid a lot of attention because I figured if I was getting these emotions, I wanted to know the causes.
Now I'm genuinely curious about what not jerkin' the gerkin' has to do with dopamine/oxytocin though.
Girls are gross - why aren't you dating boys?
Girls are gross - why aren't you dating boys?
Osi, you might be gay..
cuz think about it, EVEN if that was just a troll comment... to have your "first" thought lean in such a direction means there's a strong neural connection between your understanding of "relationships" and "homosexuality"
Girls are gross - why aren't you dating boys?
Osi, you might be gay..
cuz think about it, EVEN if that was just a troll comment... to have your "first" thought lean in such a direction means there's a strong neural connection between your understanding of "relationships" and "homosexuality"
There is nothing wrong with being a homosexual. Honestly I can't believe you said that--even after that fantastic summer we spent together in 2012
whynotboth.jpg
Girls are gross - why aren't you dating boys?
Osi, you might be gay..
cuz think about it, EVEN if that was just a troll comment... to have your "first" thought lean in such a direction means there's a strong neural connection between your understanding of "relationships" and "homosexuality"
There is nothing wrong with being a homosexual. Honestly I can't believe you said that--even after that fantastic summer we spent together in 2012
Where did I mention there's something wrong with being a homosexual..
WHERE..
Chillax...
Girls are gross - why aren't you dating boys?
Osi, you might be gay..
cuz think about it, EVEN if that was just a troll comment... to have your "first" thought lean in such a direction means there's a strong neural connection between your understanding of "relationships" and "homosexuality"
There is nothing wrong with being a homosexual. Honestly I can't believe you said that--even after that fantastic summer we spent together in 2012
Where did I mention there's something wrong with being a homosexual..
WHERE..
Chillax...
Oh - apologies - <3
The truth is you already know what you want. You don't need to figure it out.
It is all about being honest enough to admit it to yourself and act on it.
You are not a victim of either girls reaction, but your own fears and self-judgement.
Choose to love yourself, and be an example to others to do the same.
i mean if they were to live all of 3 on the same condo that would save a lot of money.whynotboth.jpg
Depends on how much gas money the OP has available and is willing to dedicate to his infidelity..
Travel costs, both in Time, and road fee are higher for non-exclusive arrangements.
i mean if they were to live all of 3 on the same condo that would save a lot of money.whynotboth.jpg
Depends on how much gas money the OP has available and is willing to dedicate to his infidelity..
Travel costs, both in Time, and road fee are higher for non-exclusive arrangements.
The truth is you already know what you want. You don't need to figure it out.
It is all about being honest enough to admit it to yourself and act on it.
You are not a victim of either girls reaction, but your own fears and self-judgement.
Choose to love yourself, and be an example to others to do the same.
This is more of a "Brag Thread" ... Our advice to the OP is irrelevant.. He's gonna do what he's gonna do.
I post because I enjoy the analysis..
The truth is you already know what you want. You don't need to figure it out.
It is all about being honest enough to admit it to yourself and act on it.
You are not a victim of either girls reaction, but your own fears and self-judgement.
Choose to love yourself, and be an example to others to do the same.
This is more of a "Brag Thread" ... Our advice to the OP is irrelevant.. He's gonna do what he's gonna do.
I post because I enjoy the analysis..
Oh I see.
I post because I enjoy sharing my perspective.
That's still only having half a testicle...Probably gonna be either telling my current girlfriend what is going on straight up,without babe I made a mistake bs or just be an ******* so that the current girl kicks me without feeling guilt.Will keep one of them in the shadows,most likely the new one will never learn about my current relationship in other words the relationship I had while I made out and banged her and I could tell her she was my ex if she asks but it didn't work out and we stopped dating a bit ago before I met her.Can't lose both.The easiest way if I want to keep current one and kick the new one is to just tell her she was my one night stand or I dont think it will work.Don't blame it on the beer. That's a weak excuse.Here's a thought - if you liked the first girl enough you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.Boobs and humour and beer.Fatal.
Made up your mind on what you are going to do?
So this popped up in my mind,what if the new girl had something going on back here and I find out I was her hump and dump and friendly chat.How should I ask her to be sure this thing between us will stay as is. Also reasons to break up with current girl? Tbh I was feeling really pressured and that I was wasting my time with her in most of the cases,but yeah we had some fun times.I actually had the chance to even end it yesterday.If I ignore her a bit we will just argue and then I can tell her I cant deal with this or I cant put up with your behavior all this time and ciao . Give me back my crocs and kiss your dog for meHow old are you? 15?
So this popped up in my mind,what if the new girl had something going on back here and I find out I was her hump and dump and friendly chat.How should I ask her to be sure this thing between us will stay as is.
Also reasons to break up with current girl? Tbh I was feeling really pressured and that I was wasting my time with her in most of the cases,but yeah we had some fun times.I actually had the chance to even end it yesterday.If I ignore her a bit we will just argue and then I can tell her I cant deal with this or I cant put up with your behavior all this time and ciao . Give me back my crocs and kiss your dog for me
You know what you have to do. Give them both the D.
So this popped up in my mind,what if the new girl had something going on back here and I find out I was her hump and dump and friendly chat.How should I ask her to be sure this thing between us will stay as is.
You ask her on a date.Also reasons to break up with current girl? Tbh I was feeling really pressured and that I was wasting my time with her in most of the cases,but yeah we had some fun times.I actually had the chance to even end it yesterday.If I ignore her a bit we will just argue and then I can tell her I cant deal with this or I cant put up with your behavior all this time and ciao . Give me back my crocs and kiss your dog for me
Don't try to start some **** between you. Just tell her "I'm sorry, but I don't think this is working. I don't want to date anymore." You don't need to blame her. You don't need to explain things. She needs to know you don't like her in that way, try to put her down easy, and that's all the complexity it needs. It's not difficult to do, it's just painful.
Starting a relationship based on cheating is a dumb idea.
Trying to make her stop the relationship, so you aren't the "bad guy" is really dumb.
Staying in your current relationship even if you're not happy with it is really really dumb.
relationship doesn't necessaryly means procreation.Starting a relationship based on cheating is a dumb idea.
Trying to make her stop the relationship, so you aren't the "bad guy" is really dumb.
Staying in your current relationship even if you're not happy with it is really really dumb.
He didn't really say he started a relationship..
Even if he was with the first female for an -extended- period of time..
There is no indication that he's in it for the long-term procreation agreement.
relationship doesn't necessaryly means procreation.Starting a relationship based on cheating is a dumb idea.
Trying to make her stop the relationship, so you aren't the "bad guy" is really dumb.
Staying in your current relationship even if you're not happy with it is really really dumb.
He didn't really say he started a relationship..
Even if he was with the first female for an -extended- period of time..
There is no indication that he's in it for the long-term procreation agreement.
procreation=/= ****.relationship doesn't necessaryly means procreation.Starting a relationship based on cheating is a dumb idea.
Trying to make her stop the relationship, so you aren't the "bad guy" is really dumb.
Staying in your current relationship even if you're not happy with it is really really dumb.
He didn't really say he started a relationship..
Even if he was with the first female for an -extended- period of time..
There is no indication that he's in it for the long-term procreation agreement.
? hmm.. ?
well let's not argue the terms..
but,
I'm under this impression
Relationship- procreative contract signed (Now) or (Future)
Friendship- Casual appeasement of proximal drives
procreation=/= ****.relationship doesn't necessaryly means procreation.Starting a relationship based on cheating is a dumb idea.
Trying to make her stop the relationship, so you aren't the "bad guy" is really dumb.
Staying in your current relationship even if you're not happy with it is really really dumb.
He didn't really say he started a relationship..
Even if he was with the first female for an -extended- period of time..
There is no indication that he's in it for the long-term procreation agreement.
? hmm.. ?
well let's not argue the terms..
but,
I'm under this impression
Relationship- procreative contract signed (Now) or (Future)
Friendship- Casual appeasement of proximal drives
Even when you're in **** only relationship, you're in a relationship but you won't procreate.
Be very careful about giving up something that might last for something that feels good right now. If you know that your current relationship isn't the best for you, I would consider breaking it off. Otherwise you have to consider that you really don't know this new girl very well yet.
In any case you need to be honest with both of them because they will probably find out (especially if you break it off with existing gf).
Here's a thought - if you liked the first girl enough you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.+1
Here's a thought - if you liked the first girl enough you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.+1
Lol true true. I guess it is pretty much the standard answer, but it's real. I've been on the receiving end of this and it's just a sucky situation for everyone.Be very careful about giving up something that might last for something that feels good right now. If you know that your current relationship isn't the best for you, I would consider breaking it off. Otherwise you have to consider that you really don't know this new girl very well yet.
In any case you need to be honest with both of them because they will probably find out (especially if you break it off with existing gf).
That's the same thing as saying Don't quit your job to do heroin..
Everyone knows you shouldn't..
But he doesn't have a job.. He's merely trading heroin for crack.. Both of which he's already doing. The trade here is A slightly longer sustained high, vs quick pace high.
Lol true true. I guess it is pretty much the standard answer, but it's real. I've been on the receiving end of this and it's just a sucky situation for everyone.Be very careful about giving up something that might last for something that feels good right now. If you know that your current relationship isn't the best for you, I would consider breaking it off. Otherwise you have to consider that you really don't know this new girl very well yet.
In any case you need to be honest with both of them because they will probably find out (especially if you break it off with existing gf).
That's the same thing as saying Don't quit your job to do heroin..
Everyone knows you shouldn't..
But he doesn't have a job.. He's merely trading heroin for crack.. Both of which he's already doing. The trade here is A slightly longer sustained high, vs quick pace high.
I can't be the only one thinking this, but the OP seems like a selfish, gloating *******. [Insert quasi-scientific rationalization about dopamine, evolution, genetics, etc. here. They are all probably valid, but I don't care about your dopamine rush or your procreation. In fact, I'd personally prefer of people with this type of self serving attitude did not pollute the gene pool or pass along those attitudes.]
My suggestion, man up and tell them both the truth. Then grow the **** up and think about someone other than you and your penis the next time you're in finding yourself in a similar situation.
I can't be the only one thinking this, but the OP seems like a selfish, gloating *******. [Insert quasi-scientific rationalization about dopamine, evolution, genetics, etc. here. They are all probably valid, but I don't care about your dopamine rush or your procreation. In fact, I'd personally prefer of people with this type of self serving attitude did not pollute the gene pool or pass along those attitudes.]
My suggestion, man up and tell them both the truth. Then grow the **** up and think about someone other than you and your penis the next time you're in finding yourself in a similar situation.
I understand the differences I simply don't care about them.I can't be the only one thinking this, but the OP seems like a selfish, gloating *******. [Insert quasi-scientific rationalization about dopamine, evolution, genetics, etc. here. They are all probably valid, but I don't care about your dopamine rush or your procreation. In fact, I'd personally prefer of people with this type of self serving attitude did not pollute the gene pool or pass along those attitudes.]
My suggestion, man up and tell them both the truth. Then grow the **** up and think about someone other than you and your penis the next time you're in finding yourself in a similar situation.
No need to get your jimmies all rustled.
I don't think anyone said what Nikelu did was a good thing (outside of tp4... I have trouble understanding him in general). He asked for advice. Most of us tried to give it. There is a big difference between an explanation and an excuse, and no one was saying what Nikelu did was justifiable. Just an explanation of it happened, here is why he feels the way he does, and how to move forward.
This is not about cost, it's choice to perform said actions. Our would you prefer to imply that poor people are inherently and by necessity more self concerned? I think that is a gross over simplification and removes accountability for ones actions. You're responsible for where you stick your ****.
I understand the differences I simply don't care about them.I can't be the only one thinking this, but the OP seems like a selfish, gloating *******. [Insert quasi-scientific rationalization about dopamine, evolution, genetics, etc. here. They are all probably valid, but I don't care about your dopamine rush or your procreation. In fact, I'd personally prefer of people with this type of self serving attitude did not pollute the gene pool or pass along those attitudes.]
My suggestion, man up and tell them both the truth. Then grow the **** up and think about someone other than you and your penis the next time you're in finding yourself in a similar situation.
No need to get your jimmies all rustled.
I don't think anyone said what Nikelu did was a good thing (outside of tp4... I have trouble understanding him in general). He asked for advice. Most of us tried to give it. There is a big difference between an explanation and an excuse, and no one was saying what Nikelu did was justifiable. Just an explanation of it happened, here is why he feels the way he does, and how to move forward.
I did give him advice, just not fluffy everything is ok advice.
I understand the differences I simply don't care about them.I can't be the only one thinking this, but the OP seems like a selfish, gloating *******. [Insert quasi-scientific rationalization about dopamine, evolution, genetics, etc. here. They are all probably valid, but I don't care about your dopamine rush or your procreation. In fact, I'd personally prefer of people with this type of self serving attitude did not pollute the gene pool or pass along those attitudes.]
My suggestion, man up and tell them both the truth. Then grow the **** up and think about someone other than you and your penis the next time you're in finding yourself in a similar situation.
No need to get your jimmies all rustled.
I don't think anyone said what Nikelu did was a good thing (outside of tp4... I have trouble understanding him in general). He asked for advice. Most of us tried to give it. There is a big difference between an explanation and an excuse, and no one was saying what Nikelu did was justifiable. Just an explanation of it happened, here is why he feels the way he does, and how to move forward.
I did give him advice, just not fluffy everything is ok advice.
Outside of saying "good luck man," neither did I. Nor did most of the people in the thread. Show me where anyone (again outside of tp4) gives him "fluff everything is ok advice." Most of the content in here is pretty apathetic, including my statements about how new love releases dopamine which for some reason you seem to have taken offense to.
Are you simply upset that people aren't berating Nikelu for cheating?
I understand the differences I simply don't care about them.I can't be the only one thinking this, but the OP seems like a selfish, gloating *******. [Insert quasi-scientific rationalization about dopamine, evolution, genetics, etc. here. They are all probably valid, but I don't care about your dopamine rush or your procreation. In fact, I'd personally prefer of people with this type of self serving attitude did not pollute the gene pool or pass along those attitudes.]
My suggestion, man up and tell them both the truth. Then grow the **** up and think about someone other than you and your penis the next time you're in finding yourself in a similar situation.
No need to get your jimmies all rustled.
I don't think anyone said what Nikelu did was a good thing (outside of tp4... I have trouble understanding him in general). He asked for advice. Most of us tried to give it. There is a big difference between an explanation and an excuse, and no one was saying what Nikelu did was justifiable. Just an explanation of it happened, here is why he feels the way he does, and how to move forward.
I did give him advice, just not fluffy everything is ok advice.
Outside of saying "good luck man," neither did I. Nor did most of the people in the thread. Show me where anyone (again outside of tp4) gives him "fluff everything is ok advice." Most of the content in here is pretty apathetic, including my statements about how new love releases dopamine which for some reason you seem to have taken offense to.
Are you simply upset that people aren't berating Nikelu for cheating?
Why ya'll mad.. it is what it is.. we figure out WHY it is, then we move on..
Emotions guide us.. but they must not supersede our logic..
I understand the differences I simply don't care about them.I can't be the only one thinking this, but the OP seems like a selfish, gloating *******. [Insert quasi-scientific rationalization about dopamine, evolution, genetics, etc. here. They are all probably valid, but I don't care about your dopamine rush or your procreation. In fact, I'd personally prefer of people with this type of self serving attitude did not pollute the gene pool or pass along those attitudes.]
My suggestion, man up and tell them both the truth. Then grow the **** up and think about someone other than you and your penis the next time you're in finding yourself in a similar situation.
No need to get your jimmies all rustled.
I don't think anyone said what Nikelu did was a good thing (outside of tp4... I have trouble understanding him in general). He asked for advice. Most of us tried to give it. There is a big difference between an explanation and an excuse, and no one was saying what Nikelu did was justifiable. Just an explanation of it happened, here is why he feels the way he does, and how to move forward.
I did give him advice, just not fluffy everything is ok advice.
Outside of saying "good luck man," neither did I. Nor did most of the people in the thread. Show me where anyone (again outside of tp4) gives him "fluff everything is ok advice." Most of the content in here is pretty apathetic, including my statements about how new love releases dopamine which for some reason you seem to have taken offense to.
Are you simply upset that people aren't berating Nikelu for cheating?
Here's a thought - if you liked the first girl enough you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.+1
I meant no offense to you. All of my comments in that reply are explicitly about my initial post. I was just stating that I chose to disregard the differences.
My comments about fluff advice were not aimed at any other comment, simply a reflection on my own.
Not mad tp4, when I mentioned you I'm simply stating I don't always follow the logic of your similes. I don't like similes when dealing with emotions in general though because I think they make things cloudy as often as they clear things up.
=4Here's a thought - if you liked the first girl enough you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.+1
+3
This is not about cost, it's choice to perform said actions. Our would you prefer to imply that poor people are inherently and by necessity more self concerned? I think that is a gross over simplification and removes accountability for ones actions. You're responsible for where you stick your ****.
Yes it is about cost..
Everything has a cost.....
You're responsible for where you put it, but if your opportunities are limited, because you have no resources.. ala OP.. the RATIONAL decision as a $0 income male is to put-it-everywhere he can..
It makes perfect sense..
And with regards to "sexual" responsibility.. It certainly used to be a problem, we needed monogamous arrangements to secure population growth and rearing..
THAT IS NOT a problem today.. Sex no longer needs the stringent "moral" regulation it once did.
We've exceeded the need for it.
this is not a dating site**** i've been asking everyone out on dates
This is not about cost, it's choice to perform said actions. Our would you prefer to imply that poor people are inherently and by necessity more self concerned? I think that is a gross over simplification and removes accountability for ones actions. You're responsible for where you stick your ****.
Yes it is about cost..
Everything has a cost.....
You're responsible for where you put it, but if your opportunities are limited, because you have no resources.. ala OP.. the RATIONAL decision as a $0 income male is to put-it-everywhere he can..
It makes perfect sense..
And with regards to "sexual" responsibility.. It certainly used to be a problem, we needed monogamous arrangements to secure population growth and rearing..
THAT IS NOT a problem today.. Sex no longer needs the stringent "moral" regulation it once did.
We've exceeded the need for it.
Eh... If you have $0 it would be fiscally irresponsible to sew your wild oats in multiple wombs and thereby increase chances of creating another mouth to feed.
It's not even about morality, he's going to create an inherently disfavorable response by his actions that can make each of the girls quite unhappy. If you wish to relate it to dopamine levels, theirs will be negatively impacted.
We are not Ferengi, we are human, so the issue is much more involved than simple cost. Yes there is a cost to everything, but humans are complex creatures that need to be responsible for their own actions.
I didn't.This is not about cost, it's choice to perform said actions. Our would you prefer to imply that poor people are inherently and by necessity more self concerned? I think that is a gross over simplification and removes accountability for ones actions. You're responsible for where you stick your ****.
Yes it is about cost..
Everything has a cost.....
You're responsible for where you put it, but if your opportunities are limited, because you have no resources.. ala OP.. the RATIONAL decision as a $0 income male is to put-it-everywhere he can..
It makes perfect sense..
And with regards to "sexual" responsibility.. It certainly used to be a problem, we needed monogamous arrangements to secure population growth and rearing..
THAT IS NOT a problem today.. Sex no longer needs the stringent "moral" regulation it once did.
We've exceeded the need for it.
Eh... If you have $0 it would be fiscally irresponsible to sew your wild oats in multiple wombs and thereby increase chances of creating another mouth to feed.
It's not even about morality, he's going to create an inherently disfavorable response by his actions that can make each of the girls quite unhappy. If you wish to relate it to dopamine levels, theirs will be negatively impacted.
We are not Ferengi, we are human, so the issue is much more involved than simple cost. Yes there is a cost to everything, but humans are complex creatures that need to be responsible for their own actions.
Infertility (OP shooting blanks)
Sudden infant death syndrome
Sudden fetal death
Falling down the stairs
Abortion
You can't make the statement with certainty that the OP's precarious activity will lead to children..
And even if it does lead to Children..
You can't say for certain that the kids won't become upstanding citizens in the future.
What if the OP had a gene for reduced cancer risk of some sort.. We wouldn't know this either..
There is no CERTAIN bad action.. The choice to be responsible is as arbitrary as it is to be irresponsible.
WE know that the Best Odds of a CERTAIN way of life may be H, but a percentage of pursuit for alternative J, should be tolerated, because complete uniformity and control is IMPOSSIBLE, with astronomical organizational costs.
=4Here's a thought - if you liked the first girl enough you wouldn't have fallen for the second one.+1
+3
I didn't.This is not about cost, it's choice to perform said actions. Our would you prefer to imply that poor people are inherently and by necessity more self concerned? I think that is a gross over simplification and removes accountability for ones actions. You're responsible for where you stick your ****.
Yes it is about cost..
Everything has a cost.....
You're responsible for where you put it, but if your opportunities are limited, because you have no resources.. ala OP.. the RATIONAL decision as a $0 income male is to put-it-everywhere he can..
It makes perfect sense..
And with regards to "sexual" responsibility.. It certainly used to be a problem, we needed monogamous arrangements to secure population growth and rearing..
THAT IS NOT a problem today.. Sex no longer needs the stringent "moral" regulation it once did.
We've exceeded the need for it.
Eh... If you have $0 it would be fiscally irresponsible to sew your wild oats in multiple wombs and thereby increase chances of creating another mouth to feed.
It's not even about morality, he's going to create an inherently disfavorable response by his actions that can make each of the girls quite unhappy. If you wish to relate it to dopamine levels, theirs will be negatively impacted.
We are not Ferengi, we are human, so the issue is much more involved than simple cost. Yes there is a cost to everything, but humans are complex creatures that need to be responsible for their own actions.
Infertility (OP shooting blanks)
Sudden infant death syndrome
Sudden fetal death
Falling down the stairs
Abortion
You can't make the statement with certainty that the OP's precarious activity will lead to children..
And even if it does lead to Children..
You can't say for certain that the kids won't become upstanding citizens in the future.
What if the OP had a gene for reduced cancer risk of some sort.. We wouldn't know this either..
There is no CERTAIN bad action.. The choice to be responsible is as arbitrary as it is to be irresponsible.
WE know that the Best Odds of a CERTAIN way of life may be H, but a percentage of pursuit for alternative J, should be tolerated, because complete uniformity and control is IMPOSSIBLE, with astronomical organizational costs.
I didn't.This is not about cost, it's choice to perform said actions. Our would you prefer to imply that poor people are inherently and by necessity more self concerned? I think that is a gross over simplification and removes accountability for ones actions. You're responsible for where you stick your ****.
Yes it is about cost..
Everything has a cost.....
You're responsible for where you put it, but if your opportunities are limited, because you have no resources.. ala OP.. the RATIONAL decision as a $0 income male is to put-it-everywhere he can..
It makes perfect sense..
And with regards to "sexual" responsibility.. It certainly used to be a problem, we needed monogamous arrangements to secure population growth and rearing..
THAT IS NOT a problem today.. Sex no longer needs the stringent "moral" regulation it once did.
We've exceeded the need for it.
Eh... If you have $0 it would be fiscally irresponsible to sew your wild oats in multiple wombs and thereby increase chances of creating another mouth to feed.
It's not even about morality, he's going to create an inherently disfavorable response by his actions that can make each of the girls quite unhappy. If you wish to relate it to dopamine levels, theirs will be negatively impacted.
We are not Ferengi, we are human, so the issue is much more involved than simple cost. Yes there is a cost to everything, but humans are complex creatures that need to be responsible for their own actions.
Infertility (OP shooting blanks)
Sudden infant death syndrome
Sudden fetal death
Falling down the stairs
Abortion
You can't make the statement with certainty that the OP's precarious activity will lead to children..
And even if it does lead to Children..
You can't say for certain that the kids won't become upstanding citizens in the future.
What if the OP had a gene for reduced cancer risk of some sort.. We wouldn't know this either..
There is no CERTAIN bad action.. The choice to be responsible is as arbitrary as it is to be irresponsible.
WE know that the Best Odds of a CERTAIN way of life may be H, but a percentage of pursuit for alternative J, should be tolerated, because complete uniformity and control is IMPOSSIBLE, with astronomical organizational costs.
My objection is towards the only painting the negative potential to the Op's choice.
I don't view problems in terms of "more or less".. more or less moral, more or less responsible..
I view problems in terms of "WHY"..
The only laws are the laws of nature.. Human laws can and must be allowed to bend, because they are created under the influence of incomplete information.
this is not a dating site+1
I didn't.
Infertility (OP shooting blanks)
Sudden infant death syndrome
Sudden fetal death
Falling down the stairs
Abortion
You can't make the statement with certainty that the OP's precarious activity will lead to children..
And even if it does lead to Children..
You can't say for certain that the kids won't become upstanding citizens in the future.
What if the OP had a gene for reduced cancer risk of some sort.. We wouldn't know this either..
There is no CERTAIN bad action.. The choice to be responsible is as arbitrary as it is to be irresponsible.
WE know that the Best Odds of a CERTAIN way of life may be H, but a percentage of pursuit for alternative J, should be tolerated, because complete uniformity and control is IMPOSSIBLE, with astronomical organizational costs.
My objection is towards only painting the negative potential to the Op's choice.
I don't view problems in terms of "more or less".. more or less moral, more or less responsible..
I view problems in terms of "WHY"..
The only laws are the laws of nature.. Human laws can and must be allowed to bend, because they are created under the influence of incomplete information.
Ok then, you want to discuss the laws of nature? Increased frequency of unprotected sex across multiple partners can and will encourage the propagation and distribution of sexually transmitted infections. I am not saying that the OP went in raw, but the principle still stands. I just think he's a self centered prick more concerned with ego and pleasure than legitimate social implications regardless of how rational they are. He's an idiot.
this is not a dating site+1
Why Don't we have a dating subforum..It should be a hidden forum so not everyone has to see it.
I mean..
This entire forum is filled with lonely males..
It seems like the natural next step for GH..
hahahahahahahaha
TLDR in the endSo the situation quickly here. I live in X city ,the university I got admitted is in Y city.I move there and I randomly meet a girl ,get to know her better and second time in her house we had sex.First time she had friends there too so yeah.Anyway after 5 months or so we are still together and besides couple problems and discussions we had everything seems perfect,she is really funny and ok but can be a bit tiring at times,as she wants to talk a lot on the phone when we are not together and also wants me to spend every night with her and either have sex or just sleep together like a happy couple or some ****.
I personally was a really lone wolf all the time,I enjoyed my time,I used to go to the gym and swimming pool everyday,I studied for a bit and I spent a lot of time on my pc either researching stuff I like(keyboards,PCs,fitness stuff,News,couple movies/tv shows)
Anyways,it was ok and pretty much the best relationship I had since I started dating girls and stuff.
Anyways,one week ago my family and I decide to travel to Lisbon,Portugal
I am like all the I miss you and so on,which were actually true and I even bought her couple clothes and was really happy to see her when I come back.A day goes by ( we stayed there for 4 nights) and a new group comes with us.I was pretty bored when they came because of all the usual old people and boring couples that travel together and I was amazed to see another girl near my age with this new group.Anyway we go to sleep and the next day I proceed to watch her and learn her psychology ( dont know the word in english).An hour passes and I ask her her name and you know usual stuff to break the ice ,I smile a lot ,try to be a cute guy with a pinch of humour but not too much so she doesnt think I am dumb.Anyway I learn some things about her and then proceed to ask her for a coffee while we had some free time till our guide came back.We go to the hotel to prepare and then I find her in the lobby waiting and I say lets go. So we start walking down a huge street of Lisbon towards the Trade Square or something.Meanwhile this girl is THE ****ing bestestest I have ever met,she is pretty crazy like me,has an amazing sense of humour and her sarcasm being the best I have ever encountered.I suggest to grab a beer and chill in the beach. So we grab one ,I dont usually pay the drinks but I did this time and we go to the beach.We chill ,we comment on other people I learn about her past and present ,what she likes and whatnot and she says like at one point wow man I really didnt think you were so cool at first,I totally thought you were another guy.I chilled my head on her legs then proceeded to drink my beer and stupidly got most of it in my shirt.Then I challenge her to drink some beer and she spills it too and we are lol and everybody is watching us.We walk up to grab something to eat and I get to give her a kiss somewhere in the middle and then she fking ate me alive,gosh this girl was unstoppable.And oh god did I enjoy it.I feel like heaven is on earth and she is an angel.Her cute eyes,her humour,[her boobs],everything is fcking perfect.We had sex.It was ok,I think she liked it a lot but I couldn't finish.Probably a side of my head was still thinking my girl back in my homecountry.So I tell her I fapped in the morning so she doesn't feel bad.I kiss her goodbye ,grab her facebook and then we just say goodbye or smth and we go back to our country,she comes back one day after.Thing is she lives in the same town my university is,as my other girlfriend does too.Town is smaller than pallet city and if you have to be a player (dating-wise) you have to be so so careful.What should I do?I was happy with my girl.But this girl is so fking promising.It is like having a Quickfire and then there is the other girl which is like a fkin GON or at least looks like or has the potential to be one.I don't know what to do.I really want to go for the new girl but bloody hell we had some good times with the other girl too.If I flipped a coin and said each side would be a girl,I would wish 90% of the times it fells the way the new girl is.Well there is also a possibility she may dump me/reject me in a month or so ,and I lose everything,but this is the only risk after all.
TLDR:Have a really good overall relationship with girl.Travel out for holidays,and meet a girl which I think is the best girl ever could marry her instantly or make love with her for years.Chill out with her,which leads to kissing and eventually to bed.Come back to country.Realise both girls live in the same town.Really want to have the new one but have feelings for the other one too.I really want the new girl.What to do?Find a reason to break up and keep new girl?Or keep both till I find a reason to break up with one of them or they eventually find out and I get double****
Would like serious answers
You should date the redhead.
You should date the redhead.
Reminded me of this:Show Image(http://i.imgur.com/fIVSab7.png)
You should date the redhead.
But what if they're both redheads?!?You should date the redhead.
Wait, is one of them a redhead?
My previous post is irrelevant. Just date the redhead.
But what if they're both redheads?!?You should date the redhead.
Wait, is one of them a redhead?
My previous post is irrelevant. Just date the redhead.
this is not a dating site
lol I loved that thread :))this is not a dating site
But I need help with "walking my dog".
Also tp confirmed sociopath.
this is not a dating site
But I need help with "walking my dog".
Also tp confirmed sociopath.
The op has to convince both girls into a three-some because that's the next logical step when confronted with such things 8) .
One is a redhead other is a brunette with blonde highlight or how the fk they are called but with huge boobs.Anyway turned out to be a funny thread.Will see and judge.Gonna go for a coffee with the new girl to see what she is up too.Then decide after that.After all a friendly coffee harms nobody.Anyway what cherry mx switch would I like on a pok3r.I want it to be pretty quiet tbh and I like my blues and I think I liked browns too,as I tried them in a market.Never tried linears tho.I also like some laptop keyboards you know they are really light but I dont think I would have a problem on heavy switches too.How are clears?Fatique-wise.Cause browns seem like silent blues.OR should I go linear?
The op has to convince both girls into a three-some because that's the next logical step when confronted with such things 8) .
The op has to convince both girls into a three-some because that's the next logical step when confronted with such things 8) .Show Image(http://i.imgur.com/MNASReE.gif)