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Title: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Fri, 27 November 2015, 21:53:48: i just caught myself giving god tier endgame advice again, but this time i felt generous with my trillion dollar perspective.

ask away with any questions/situations for which u need coaching.

serious inquiries only
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: ghostjuggernaut on Sat, 28 November 2015, 13:12:02: How do I get you to call me on my cell phone?
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: vivalarevolución on Sat, 28 November 2015, 13:42:37: How do I move beyond keyboards?
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: PunksDead on Sat, 28 November 2015, 13:48:04: Quote from: clacktalk on Fri, 27 November 2015, 21:53:48
i just caught myself giving god tier endgame advice again, but this time i felt generous with my trillion dollar perspective.

ask away with any questions/situations for which u need coaching.

serious inquiries only

The American Business environment has fundamentally changed, following the insider trading, savings and loan scandal. Explain business ethics, and how are they applied today
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: Michael on Sat, 28 November 2015, 13:55:48: How do I win at life?
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Sat, 28 November 2015, 14:14:01: Quote from: ghostjuggernaut on Sat, 28 November 2015, 13:12:02
How do I get you to call me on my cell phone?

tough cookie question. i rarely call people because it's neither text messages nor emojis.

invite me to your house and either give me an almost correct address or live somewhere really hard to navigate that google maps is unaware of. i'll be forced to call and ask u for directions bc i'll be driving and i don't want to hit things
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Sat, 28 November 2015, 14:27:22: Quote from: vivalarevolución on Sat, 28 November 2015, 13:42:37
How do I move beyond keyboards?

there are 2 schools of thought:

1. if an idea/interest festers in your mind long enough, self-inception is imminent and you naturally end up gravitating towards that idea. everything else gradually fades away. if the idea were a keeper, it will keep you mesmerized on its own.

2. throw your money at everything that catches your attention at the earliest chance. return/resell whatever that doesn't stick. expect to lose some, if not a lot of money.

a lot of things can happen here. 1. you can corner yourself into another hobby by "investing" too much money and forcing it on yourself. 2. you can run out of money before finding anything, at which point you can legitimately declare spending money and trying things is your hobby (on top of keyboards, if you still have them). 3. you find something you really like.

of course, i'm paraphrasing
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Sat, 28 November 2015, 14:38:27: Quote from: PunksDead on Sat, 28 November 2015, 13:48:04
Quote from: clacktalk on Fri, 27 November 2015, 21:53:48
i just caught myself giving god tier endgame advice again, but this time i felt generous with my trillion dollar perspective.

ask away with any questions/situations for which u need coaching.

serious inquiries only

The American Business environment has fundamentally changed, following the insider trading, savings and loan scandal. Explain business ethics, and how are they applied today

my response may be short and not good because i'm currently on my phone at a casino restaurant and everything is too damn loud.

i'm reminded of the time my friend borrowed a couple hundred bones from me for rent

business ethics is when my friend buys a pack of cigarettes with the cash right in front of me, leaves to buy illegal molly, and doesn't pay me back for months. piece of ****
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: Steezus on Sat, 28 November 2015, 14:43:46: Quote from: clacktalk on Sat, 28 November 2015, 14:38:27

Quote from: PunksDead on Sat, 28 November 2015, 13:48:04
Quote from: clacktalk on Fri, 27 November 2015, 21:53:48
i just caught myself giving god tier endgame advice again, but this time i felt generous with my trillion dollar perspective.

ask away with any questions/situations for which u need coaching.

serious inquiries only

The American Business environment has fundamentally changed, following the insider trading, savings and loan scandal. Explain business ethics, and how are they applied today

my response may be short and not good because i'm currently on my phone at a casino restaurant and everything is too damn loud.

i'm reminded of the time my friend borrowed a couple hundred bones from me for rent

business ethics is when my friend buys a pack of cigarettes with the cash right in front of me, leaves to buy illegal molly, and doesn't pay me back for months. piece of ****

First mistake, never lend money to friends or family unless you're able to live without ever seeing it again. Money can bring the worst out in people.
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Sat, 28 November 2015, 14:48:45: Quote from: Bro Caps on Sat, 28 November 2015, 13:55:48
How do I win at life?

never give up on your vision of happiness and never ever be afraid/hesitant to change it if things change. the rest needs no explanation
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: tp4tissue on Sat, 28 November 2015, 18:53:01: Proof of you "Winning" at life..

Need References... (http://emoticoner.com/files/emoticons/onion-head/embarrassed3-onion-head-emoticon.gif?1292862502)
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Sun, 29 November 2015, 20:52:20: Quote from: tp4tissue on Sat, 28 November 2015, 18:53:01
Proof of you "Winning" at life..

Need References...
Show Image
(http://emoticoner.com/files/emoticons/onion-head/embarrassed3-onion-head-emoticon.gif?1292862502)

this question is boring

pass
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: Photekq on Sun, 29 November 2015, 20:53:04: inner circle advice previously requested;;

give
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: SpAmRaY on Sun, 29 November 2015, 21:03:25: How to get from where I am to finding my purpose and doing what I love? Because I honestly have no idea where to even start.

Also how to make friends??
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: katushkin on Sun, 29 November 2015, 21:05:09: How do I make sick bank?
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Mon, 30 November 2015, 10:24:25: Quote from: Photekq on Sun, 29 November 2015, 20:53:04
inner circle advice previously requested;;

give

if u don't care about the judgement that'll be passed to u, the most surefire way for u to get in the azn crowd is to join the appropriate cultural org on campus. the azns will think u are rly cool for being not azn and flock
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Mon, 30 November 2015, 10:41:51: Quote from: SpAmRaY on Sun, 29 November 2015, 21:03:25
How to get from where I am to finding my purpose and doing what I love? Because I honestly have no idea where to even start.

Also how to make friends??

what kind of purpose? a divine purpose that you're destined for, or a self-made purpose? regardless, self-reflection is the only mean to your end. there's always time to keep trying. steve carell got big in his late 30s. same with chris hardwick. thirty is the new twenty. they keep saying hard work and consistency will pay off, so i choose to believe them. once you figure out what you love, do it as much as you can.

to make friends, first find people you like. then show them your clacks. if you're clackless, brag about your sick magic the gathering collection. if you're magicless, you're sol : ' [
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Mon, 30 November 2015, 10:43:34: Quote from: katushkin on Sun, 29 November 2015, 21:05:09
How do I make sick bank?

have u even seen ocean's 11-13 ???????
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: tp4tissue on Mon, 30 November 2015, 17:27:32: Quote from: clacktalk on Mon, 30 November 2015, 10:43:34

Quote from: katushkin on Sun, 29 November 2015, 21:05:09
How do I make sick bank?

have u even seen ocean's 11-13 ???????

hahahahahahahahahhaahahahaahahaha

I have seen those movies.. but I feel the team I have in mind is missing the key super-model hottie who has daddy issues...

If only I had one of those.. dangg..
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: 27 on Mon, 30 November 2015, 17:31:00: Quote from: tp4tissue on Mon, 30 November 2015, 17:27:32
Quote from: clacktalk on Mon, 30 November 2015, 10:43:34

Quote from: katushkin on Sun, 29 November 2015, 21:05:09
How do I make sick bank?

have u even seen ocean's 11-13 ???????

hahahahahahahahahhaahahahaahahaha

I have seen those movies.. but I feel the team I have in mind is missing the key super-model hottie who has daddy issues...

If only I had one of those.. dangg..

You didn't mention they had to be female ;) Pick me
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: billnye on Mon, 30 November 2015, 17:33:56: Big Frank should I get a ps4 or xbox one?
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: tp4tissue on Mon, 30 November 2015, 17:37:08: Quote from: SpAmRaY on Sun, 29 November 2015, 21:03:25
How to get from where I am to finding my purpose and doing what I love? Because I honestly have no idea where to even start.

Also how to make friends??

Spam, I've recently been around many people your age.. the 40-50s with children.

I've noticed that they exhibit the same attitude as you.

I don't think it's that they lack direction or stuff to do..

I find that they are looking for a mental "high"

This high is relative.. Maybe eating lobster for the first time, that they could afford it after getting their first job was AWESOME, back in the day... but 10 years later lobster is just lobster..

At your age, you've experienced the majority of possible potential pleasures. So your "journey" in terms of ENJOYMENT is fundamentally over.. The exploration of JOY, within the HUMAN DESIGN SPECIFICATION has been completed.

We've only evolved to feel "this much" happiness..

THe only few things left which may rank slightly more exciting in terms of "feels" are hard drugs// alcohol// paid sex..

As for making friends.. This is also due to your age.. In the American environment where privacy and space is aplenty, as long as you have a job, you don't NEEEEED friends..

Friendships at a younger age was an absolute necessity for many reasons, mate selection, motivation, synergistic pursuits.

But at 50+, a salary man is really just waiting for something to kill him, there's not going to be much you haven't seen in _(some form)_.

I recently spoke to a few 60+ people as well.. They predominantly agree with life having come to a standstill at a certain age..

You can choose to do many different-things with your life.. But it will almost certainly not feel like the "high" you've had at a younger age where discovery was a frontier.
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Mon, 30 November 2015, 20:16:26: Quote from: billnye on Mon, 30 November 2015, 17:33:56
Big Frank should I get a ps4 or xbox one?

whichever one that'll reunite us in the throes of black ops 3. u do the m a t h
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: CPTBadAss on Thu, 10 December 2015, 09:25:08: A wise man once said, "I know when that keyboard pings, that can only mean one thing". But he never told me what that one thing is. Can you explain?
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Thu, 10 December 2015, 10:26:24: Quote from: CPTBadAss on Thu, 10 December 2015, 09:25:08
A wise man once said, "I know when that keyboard pings, that can only mean one thing". But he never told me what that one thing is. Can you explain?

sell it. then practice keyboard therapy by buying a skimpy dress and hitting the dance floor. whatever u do, don't ever call your ex-board on ur cellphone late night when u need its ****ty ****ing inexcusable ping good riddance
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: Oobly on Fri, 11 December 2015, 03:29:55: Quote from: CPTBadAss on Thu, 10 December 2015, 09:25:08
A wise man once said, "I know when that keyboard pings, that can only mean one thing". But he never told me what that one thing is. Can you explain?

"I need to lube the springs, but since it's so much work I'll also add some bling."

What he meant was that the board would soon either be customised to the hilt or sold.
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: Oobly on Fri, 11 December 2015, 04:33:16: Quote from: SpAmRaY on Sun, 29 November 2015, 21:03:25
How to get from where I am to finding my purpose and doing what I love? Because I honestly have no idea where to even start.

Also how to make friends??

1. http://www.findyourthingbook.com/

2. Be friendly.

On a more serious note, I think TP is incorrect.

I have found myself being frustrated with my life as it stands, with the feeling that something needs to change. I've kind of always been trying to find my "thing" and have a pretty good idea of what it is, but no idea of how to turn it into a living. I think I'm slowly starting to see a possible path to get there, though. It's still going to require doing things that I don't particularly like, even when I've "arrived", but the ratio of stuff that gives me satisfaction doing vs "sucky" stuff that I just have to do will be much higher than in my current work / home life.

It will involve starting a company, which I never really seriously considered before since I've never considered myself good with finance, marketing, sales, logistics, etc. Personally, I think I'm much more of an inventor / designer / prototyper, but in order to have the freedom to make my own ideas into products and get them to the people that want / need them I have to create the infrastructure to support it. So I have taken an entrepreneurship course, read "The Personal MBA", got to know import / export and tax laws and learnt about online selling and international transactions (since my initial products are most likely too "niche" to get enough sales only in Finland). Also watching interviews with Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, etc. It's taking big chunks of my precious free time, but I think it'll pay off in the end.

Your "thing" may not require this level of risk or commitment, though. Could just mean going back to college, learning a new trade / skill or discovering that you're already in the right job / industry. IMHO, it's very healthy to re-evaluate every few years if you're satisfied with the direction you're heading in professionally and make adjustments accordingly (realistically, too, though. In certain markets at certain times, just having a job at all is better than quitting because it doesn't quite match your "direction").

In the book I link to above, the concept of your "thing" is quite well defined (that thing you do well / easily / happily, that others can't or find difficult or tedious) and the book has pretty good advice on how to find out what it is. Often the people around you already know it more clearly than you do. As in: "I always ask SpAmRaY to do xxx for me, 'cos he's just a boss at doing that, I suck compared to him and he doesn't seem to mind". If you do something well, enjoy doing it and others are willing to pay you to do it, that's a pretty good way to make a living.

I made the mistake of allowing myself to get slotted into a job that I do reasonably well, but don't particularly enjoy. It only partially overlaps my skillset and doesn't overlap my interests. In my case, my ideal job doesn't exist, so I have to create it. Fortunately for many people, their "thing" matches an existing job / career path, but they still have to find the right company / people to work with. Also "ideal" is a bit simplistic, there are usually a range of jobs / tasks that are sub-"things" of your main thing and are quite acceptable, at least for a while.

And in the end it's also important to recognise that while external influences can help / hinder this, ultimately you're responsible for your own happiness. I think you know this already, that the internal is more powerful than the external and you can be "happy" in any circumstance, but it certainly helps if you're doing something that at least feels like the thing you are meant to be doing, what you specifically were made to be doing right now where you are. In other words, being more "completely" yourself.

In my own mind I have a "superhero" analogy for this: What makes any superhero special? It's their unique abilities and the way they use them. Everyone has unique abilities. Therefore everyone is a potential superhero. you just have to find your abilities and use them the right way.

Actually, I think I can summarise the answers for both your questions into:
1. Be yourself.
2. Be yourself.

Good luck and Godspeed on your quest, super-SpAmRaY!
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: Puddsy on Fri, 11 December 2015, 20:37:33: "Never do anything you don't want to do unless you don't know what you want to do. The best way to figure out what you want to do is to do something you hate"

that's why i'm at college

this place ****ing sucks
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: tp4tissue on Fri, 11 December 2015, 20:50:06: Quote from: TacticalStache on Fri, 11 December 2015, 20:37:33
"Never do anything you don't want to do unless you don't know what you want to do. The best way to figure out what you want to do is to do something you hate"

that's why i'm at college

this place ****ing sucks

(http://www.cute-factor.com/images/smilies/onion/efb50fe2.gif)

But all the pretty girls,, (http://www.cute-factor.com/images/smilies/onion/th_087_.gif)

Once you leave college, you will never find another congregation of pretty females like college..

If you h8 college, seriously life out here is Much much worse.
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Fri, 11 December 2015, 21:56:14: Quote from: TacticalStache on Fri, 11 December 2015, 20:37:33
"Never do anything you don't want to do unless you don't know what you want to do. The best way to figure out what you want to do is to do something you hate"

that's why i'm at college

this place ****ing sucks

let's assume that you're right, it does suck

now quit ****ing saying it sucks and go look for good times. some people are thrown into the fun in media res. some are less fortunate

let's keep assuming ****. you are in fact less fortunate. fun isn't happening to you. maybe you're ignoring it. maybe you're too lazy to meet it halfway. but no, let's assume a third fact: that everything and everyone around you sucks and this isn't your fault at all.

lean into your discomfort. branch the **** out. join an org on campus that you hopefully like. orgs encourage social activity. that's probably the easiest way to find fun. there are a lot of cool people in college. there are people who are best friend material, or at least very close friend material. the ratio is much higher in college than hs or wherever

if that doesn't work out for you, you're an ******* or something idk. lots of self-reflection/self-awareness can help you with that. i didn't become a perfect life coach overnight.
Title: Re: Life Coach Giving PROfessional STRATegieS
Post by: clacktalk on Fri, 11 December 2015, 22:24:23: Quote from: TacticalStache on Fri, 11 December 2015, 20:37:33
"Never do anything you don't want to do unless you don't know what you want to do. The best way to figure out what you want to do is to do something you hate"

that's why i'm at college

this place ****ing sucks

btw i believe in u don't let ur dreams be memes