mkawa's starter kit is probally the best
if some things are too expensive Im sure you can sell the stuff you don't need
except you can't solder SMD with it.... well I guess you could but it would be a right pain - easier to use hot air.
solder: don't use lead free it's nasty, i use 60/40, some people like kester which is I think 63/37 (about that) - I tend to use 0.8 or 1mm (I have 500g of each
) thickness.
Solder wick is a must, I use the same stuff all the time but you might not be able to get it over there, it's all much of a muchness though I have read that the radioshack one is not so good (but I have never used it myself)
My hot air station is a cheapie, but so far hasn't let me down, and I have used it quite alot. I have a decent 35w digital soldering station (I really, really, don't think you need more load than this for working with leaded solder) and i have a 70w vacuum powered desoldering station (you probably won't need this, and it's expensive).
I think my air station is called Atten 858D+ - like I say it's a cheapie, but I have used it for SMD work on at least 15 boards I would of thought, and I use it for reflowing electronics (mainly gpu's). You probably don't need a heat controlled station. and you can easily get everything you need for under $200. I do plan on getting a better air station as I am doing more and more work but for the occasional user that station is fine.
for doing a dox I don't think you would need a flux pen, I mean they are good to have about, but you might benefit from having actual flux for that. I only really use pens for doing controllers with tiny legs. PCB cleaner is nice to have about as well, as flux goes nasty and yellow when it's burnt, won't show up that much on the blue dox pcb, but where the yellow build up happens it looks a bit like you have melted the pcb until you clean it off.
FWIW: I built/modded a huge number of boards using an iron that cost me less than £5