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Offline korrelate

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Re: What's Bothering You? (The thread about what is bothering you.)
« Reply #28400 on: Thu, 25 February 2021, 17:28:46 »
A couple last notes for NoisyTurtle:

1. "Best is the Enemy of Better". Maybe (of course I don't know for certain - this is just speculation) you're just not ready to be gunning for "THE" dream job, but I bet if you knew you were on your way you'd be more satisfied with yourself. Maybe instead of focusing on your dream job you focused on jobs that will look great on your resume for when you do go to apply for the dream job. What these are depends on your field - ask questions, research.

2. Consider the possibility that:
a. Something is really wrong with your resume (the folks in alumni job placement at your college might be a big help here).
b. Your resume just doesn't stand out enough (try writing competitions, try tutoring English. Get creative and purposeful here: make it obvious in your resume that you are busting your butt to be the kind of person that the dream job requires).
Both of these possibilities require you to entertain the notion that somebody may be better at something than you are. If you have a problem with (and that's not meant to sound facetious - I really don't know) then deal with it. Be thankful for any feedback you get and gracious to anybody who gives it - you'd be amazed at how far basic manners can get you. Of course some people will make frivilous comments that aren't helpful. Use them as an opportunity to practice being thankful and gracious anyway - that practice will serve you well when it comes to be truly thankful and gracious.

If you have actually sent out 450 (you've said 450 and 1000 at various points in your thread so I don't know where the hyperbole actually stops and reality starts) then either one of the above (or some variation of them) must be true b.c. I don't actually believe that the entire population of Seattle is actively conspiring to keep you down and I hope you don't either. Just realize that your dream job isn't going to gift-wrap itself for you.

Finally, be thankful for the fact that you know what your dream job is: you're really lucky in this regard. Many would probably say that that's the hard part. From what it sounds like, I'm probably older than you are and I still have no idea what that job is: I'm just glad enough when I find work that is actually challenging.

In addition to all of the above, but only as a coping method to help you get from one point to the next on your journey to your dream job, there's a comedian who's got some sage advice about happiness baked into one of his most famous tours: Dennis Leary's "No Cure For Cancer."

I'm not recommending this to sound like a smart a**, because I really do think this advice to myself frequently - it's the bit centered around the title of his new book (you'll know when you get there - I don't want to spoil it) but it's hilarious and it really is something we all need to say to ourselves when we begin letting ourselves feel overwhelmed.




I do this ^^^, and then I get on with solving the problem.


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Re: What's Bothering You? (The thread about what is bothering you.)
« Reply #28401 on: Thu, 25 February 2021, 19:15:48 »

If you have actually sent out 450 (you've said 450 and 1000 at various points in your thread so I don't know where the hyperbole actually stops and reality starts)

450 since COVID, 1k+ since graduation.

And yeah 100% agree on life is tough, but what weirds me out is how I miss out on the very basic lowest level achievements everyone else seems to achieve with no issues despite working my ass off to achieve them. It's ****in weird. Things that you would assume for any person on Earth are just givens. Guarantees like vehicle ownership, dating, having friends. Even owning a mattress has somehow eluded me for my adult life. How does someone approaching 40 never own a mattress or car? It's just weird.
Obviously yes, something is wrong with me.

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Re: What's Bothering You? (The thread about what is bothering you.)
« Reply #28402 on: Thu, 25 February 2021, 19:49:50 »
Obviously yes, something is wrong with me.
At least you're not me. Be happy about that.
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Re: What's Bothering You? (The thread about what is bothering you.)
« Reply #28403 on: Thu, 25 February 2021, 21:06:15 »
LOL. Everybody's got something wrong with them. And that's OK.

So have you had anybody else look at your resume, gotten some help from college? If you send out 50 or 100 resumes and you get no response then that means something's broken: you're sending them to the wrong people, you're using the language, something. You need feedback on your resume ASAP.

Sounds like you could also use some constructive criticism from a reliable helpful source. College job placement, some place like that. Again, go ask a librarian (several different librarians even) - you'd be amazed at the variety of services the libraries offer (and that's not all - librarians are also familiar with the services that are on offer by other agencies in the community).


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Re: What's Bothering You? (The thread about what is bothering you.)
« Reply #28404 on: Thu, 25 February 2021, 21:46:15 »

How does someone approaching 40 never own a mattress


You can get a decent mattress on Craig's List for the price of a bag of your weed.

And I strongly recommend it, getting a good night's sleep is a joy and not getting it is torture.
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Re: What's Bothering You? (The thread about what is bothering you.)
« Reply #28406 on: Fri, 26 February 2021, 01:10:28 »

If you have actually sent out 450 (you've said 450 and 1000 at various points in your thread so I don't know where the hyperbole actually stops and reality starts)

450 since COVID, 1k+ since graduation.

And yeah 100% agree on life is tough, but what weirds me out is how I miss out on the very basic lowest level achievements everyone else seems to achieve with no issues despite working my ass off to achieve them. It's ****in weird. Things that you would assume for any person on Earth are just givens. Guarantees like vehicle ownership, dating, having friends. Even owning a mattress has somehow eluded me for my adult life. How does someone approaching 40 never own a mattress or car? It's just weird.
Obviously yes, something is wrong with me.
are you searching for your dream job or just a job? i started where i am right now by drilling holes in aluminum pieces all day and now i am the IT guy at that company, pretty much as close as i can get to my dream job here, took about 5 years but got it in the end. not that you will always get that path but maybe you should not reject everything that is not your dream job (and recruiter will find a multiple years gap suspicious already when i had a 2 months gap some were suspicious and one even asked me if i went to prison in that time...)
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Re: What's Bothering You? (The thread about what is bothering you.)
« Reply #28407 on: Fri, 26 February 2021, 10:58:34 »

How does someone approaching 40 never own a mattress


You can get a decent mattress on Craig's List for the price of a bag of your weed.

And I strongly recommend it, getting a good night's sleep is a joy and not getting it is torture.

A soiled mattress?



Maybe they're waiting for gasmasks and latex to get sexy again.

The world has become a weird place.

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Re: What's Bothering You? (The thread about what is bothering you.)
« Reply #28408 on: Fri, 26 February 2021, 14:53:34 »

How does someone approaching 40 never own a mattress


You can get a decent mattress on Craig's List for the price of a bag of your weed.

And I strongly recommend it, getting a good night's sleep is a joy and not getting it is torture.

A soiled mattress?

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Re: What's Bothering You? (The thread about what is bothering you.)
« Reply #28409 on: Sun, 28 February 2021, 16:41:48 »
My birthday gift from my mom was rendered useless due to me not having a car. I thought I knew all the ways not having a car my entire adult life ruins things, but I never expected it to ruin a birthday present. It's almost all I think about these days, how improved my life would be with the freedom of mobility. It impedes basically every single facet of my life.

****, I didn't want to be sad today


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Re: What's Bothering You? (The thread about what is bothering you.)
« Reply #28411 on: Mon, 01 March 2021, 02:11:07 »
My birthday gift from my mom was rendered useless due to me not having a car. I thought I knew all the ways not having a car my entire adult life ruins things, but I never expected it to ruin a birthday present. It's almost all I think about these days, how improved my life would be with the freedom of mobility. It impedes basically every single facet of my life.

****, I didn't want to be sad today
you are in the UK right? aren't cars cheap there? well cheaper than in France i mean The US have it even better it seems with car prices. i understand that your situation is bad, but i am pretty sure that you could find a car for cheap and set a gofundme or paypal link and get your car paid by random strangers online :) and then with mobility maybe it will be easier to find a job, that is one thing employers do like.
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