I have my 87U and R2 side by side and there isn't a significant difference.
The 45g keys on my 87U are slightly stiffer than my R2. I've had my 87U for a long time and when I measure it, it doesn't seem to have changed much.
My HHKB is older than both, by quite a bit, and while it is slightly stiffer, that's to be expected and isn't isn't significantly so.
There is a fair bit of variability with Topre...so it wouldn't surprise me one is slightly more stiff than the other. Have you measured them? I can't be bothered to do that right now..