My experience with a dozen or so confirms that the older, heavier ones feel more solid and have a more resonant sound. As far as how heavy the actual force is, that may be hard to judge because we are accustomed to taking cues from the sound.
I like a very light touch, and I am not sure that age or model makes as much difference as manufacturing and wear.
As the previous owner of Thinkpad Fan's Unicomp, I will say that I loved the very light feel of it, but sold it because the higher pitched sound seemed "wrong" somehow. Maybe that was a false perception. Sold it way too cheap, too.
On the other end of the scale, I have a couple of 131s, and they are brutes. But I really like them a lot, maybe it is psychological. But they are not what I use day-to-day.
Having done a few bolt-mods and one flossing, I believe that these are some worthwhile modifications. Flossing significantly decreases the sound, especially the "ping" part which is sacrilege in many circles. I must say that I miss it, but the family doesn't.
Personally, I am partial to the 1990-93 "middle period" Ms Made in USA by IBM. They are just a bit lighter than the earlier behemoths, but still quite solid. The ones I have are well balanced between solidity and functionality.
Now that I have a collection to work with, my final goal will be to have about 3 boards in my collection representing the major "styles" of Model M. In each case I will try to keep the touch as light as possible. I think I have found that that means tightening the bolts with the socket in my fingers, no ratchet handle at all, and giving them each a good firm "hand tight" twist but no more.
1. The Beast - I intend to bolt-mod the autumn-1986 131 with its heavy plate and wire stabilizers for the original bulldozer style.
2. The Business model - I have a really nice black label 1401 from about 1990-91 without the stabilizer bars (and I am not so sure that it doesn't feel better that way) to bolt-mod and I will stuff the case with some felt or foam or something, as well as flossing the springs, to keep it as quiet as possible.
3. The Featherweight - I have a nice almost-new 1999 42H from Greenock that I will bolt-mod to the lightest specifications, and strive to keep as light as possible in every way.
I think that this should cover the spectrum, and I can vary my Model M experience depending on my mood and environment.
Afterwards, I will have a small handful of great boards to sell on ebay or wherever, but I am surprised that my (really nice) bolt-modded M that is up there now has not sold at the very fair price of $70.
Oh well, a computer keyboard hobby is just a place to waste time and money, in my wife's opinion at least.