Still can't quote you, but I hate haggling...
I couldn’t help being amused thinking how that statement, taken on its own, could sound like you were resisting haggling with the forum admins about restoring your quoting abilities. :?)
I totally understand and respect your views, dude, and thanks for explaining them. You’re obviously sincere, and your values are honourable. If your prices are always firm, and you’ve made that clear—in all fairness, buyers can’t read your mind—then no one has the right to contest them.
On a larger scale, though, negotiation is going on all the time, all around us. Not just in selling and buying, but in nearly every agreement people make to do anything. Negotiation and compromise are part of the fabric of life—whether it’s a kid negotiating a later bedtime, a couple negotiating where to have dinner out, or two countries negotiating a trade agreement.
You may approve or disapprove of eBay’s selling and buying options—but their
purpose is to give buyers and sellers various means to make deals they’re both willing to make. No seller is required to accept any offer, any more than a buyer is required to make one. It’s all based on agreement. If there’s no agreement, there’s no deal.
Assuming people know how to use eBay properly, they go into it with their eyes wide open, using it as a tool to find people whose interests correspond with their own. And while I’m not trying to tell you how to be—I wouldn’t dream of that—it’s generally the people who are good at
not taking things personally who find the most agreement, whether they’re buying, selling or both.
I don’t think I’ve ever known a successful businessperson, in any field, who didn’t consider that one of the most valuable skills they could have. These weren't sneaky or selfish; they considered the ability to be open-minded, accommodating and resilient as key to serving as many people as they could, on terms agreeable to everyone.
And just an interesting side note: In many cultures, haggling in the marketplace isn't just a tradition, it's expected. I’ve been to countries where merchants felt insulted if you
didn’t try to negotiate lower prices. In these places, it’s considered disrespectful and antisocial for sellers to dictate terms and deny the buyer’s right to be part of the trading process. It just shows you how subjective these things can be. We all have ideas about what’s appropriate and what’s not, and they make complete sense to us—but they’re seldom universal.