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Title: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 17:53:50
Hey guys & gals!

I need an advice.

I'm about to date a lady. She is very important to me. I used to date with her five years ago, but that time my life was kinda complicated, and our relationship ended up with a huge cliffhanger.
Since then 5 years have passed, and I still couldn't forget that day. I think I'm still in love with her.

She is in a relationship with a dude for four years, but she is unhappy, so now I'm cool with dating her.

Today is her birthday. Btw she is 24.
I don't want to buy her, but I absolutely want to express my feelings for her in special way. I don't want to be cheesy.
Any ideas would be appreciated.
 
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: metalliqaz on Mon, 10 June 2013, 17:56:27
Jewelry if you want to get in her pants.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lastpilot on Mon, 10 June 2013, 17:56:34
Are you much of a writer? You could try sending her a handwritten letter some other day besides her birthday. As for a present right now, it shouldn't be anything too flashy because it would be too soon. ;)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: linziyi on Mon, 10 June 2013, 17:58:19
24 origami paper hearts
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 10 June 2013, 17:58:50
dude if she's cheating on her current SO with you, what the **** do you think she's gonna do when she gets unhappy with YOU? tell her to make her mind up before you get too emotionally invested man.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Jocelyn on Mon, 10 June 2013, 17:59:28
dude if she's cheating on her current SO with you, what the **** do you think she's gonna do when she gets unhappy with YOU? tell her to make her mind up before you get too emotionally invested man.

This^ 2+2=4
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lastpilot on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:00:23
Oh wait what? She is still taken right now? Oh no man, don't do that.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: The_Beast on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:00:37
600 emails expressing your true feels
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: SpAmRaY on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:02:29
A couple roses and dinner and a movie.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Tarzan on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:03:46
Flowers never go out of style, especially if you can recall her favorite kind from five years ago.

Plus a spa gift certificate.  Or a sky-diving trip.  Gift an experience, not stuff.   Stuff gets lost, thrown away, discarded.  Experiences last a lifetime.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: thegunner100 on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:05:04
dude if she's cheating on her current SO with you, what the **** do you think she's gonna do when she gets unhappy with YOU? tell her to make her mind up before you get too emotionally invested man.

Not really experienced with this kind of stuff, but what sth said seems to make a lot of sense. GL RiGS!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:06:10
nobody is worth risking your emotional well-being over like that. it sucks but sometimes you just have to say NEXT and focus on better, newer things.

i do hope there is more to this and that you guys can be happy but don't let her dictate your own happiness.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: dante on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:09:16
I think I missed the part where you said she would cheat on him?  Just because a couple may be facing hard times doesn't mean they will cheat.  Well ... maybe your generation does (oh no he didn't!)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:09:59
I think I missed the part where you said she would cheat on him?  Just because a couple may be facing hard times doesn't mean they will cheat.  Well ... maybe your generation does (oh no he didn't!)

they're already 'dating' -- danger zone.
(http://www.dangerzone.me/images/archer_head.png)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: dante on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:11:25
never mind. my reading comprehension has reached new lows.  fail fail fail.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:19:10
dude if she's cheating on her current SO with you, what the **** do you think she's gonna do when she gets unhappy with YOU? tell her to make her mind up before you get too emotionally invested man.

We haven't actually met since that day. But we talk daily via email and sometimes on phone for a couple of months.
Initially she refused to meet with me, because she was afraid, that she still had strong feelings for me, and didn't want to mess her relationship.
However I believe she arrived to a turning and finally she wants to meet me and explore what if...
I don't want to rush this thing.
As I said today is her birthday and I just can't leave it unnoticed.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:21:02
Are you much of a writer? You could try sending her a handwritten letter some other day besides her birthday. As for a present right now, it shouldn't be anything too flashy because it would be too soon. ;)

That day I also gave her a handwritten letter. She kept it since that day and protects it in her special box. LOL she even showed it to his bf.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:21:13
dude if she's cheating on her current SO with you, what the **** do you think she's gonna do when she gets unhappy with YOU? tell her to make her mind up before you get too emotionally invested man.

We haven't actually met since that day. But we talk daily via email and sometimes on phone for a couple of months.
Initially she refused to meet with me, because she was afraid, that she still had strong feelings for me, and didn't want to mess her relationship.
However I believe she arrived to a turning and finally she wants to meet me and explore what if...
I don't want to rush this thing.
As I said today is her birthday and I just can't leave it unnoticed.


Tell her happy birthday and take her off your mental pedestal. it's not really appropriate or respectful for you to be giving her any kind of remotely romantic gift. You dont have to rush anything but dont let her flip flop on you or be indecisive.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:23:05
I don't want to do romantic gifts. I just want something appropriate for this kind of situation.

Life not always that black and white.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: noisyturtle on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:40:55
What you need to do is send her 600 emails.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:44:02
Why 600? Sending a mail bomb doesn't make sense to me.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: The_Beast on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:44:47
Why 600?

Because 599 isn't enough
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 18:56:32
nobody is worth risking your emotional well-being over like that. it sucks but sometimes you just have to say NEXT and focus on better, newer things.

i do hope there is more to this and that you guys can be happy but don't let her dictate your own happiness.

Well, it's too late. We already tried that several times over the years, but that just hasn't worked out. She is not just a girl. I believe she is THE girl.
It seems we always find a way back to each other.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: metalliqaz on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:02:43
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Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lastpilot on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:03:16
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LOL yes.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:04:41
nobody is worth risking your emotional well-being over like that. it sucks but sometimes you just have to say NEXT and focus on better, newer things.

i do hope there is more to this and that you guys can be happy but don't let her dictate your own happiness.

Well, it's too late. We already tried that several times over the years, but that just hasn't worked out. She is not just a girl. I believe she is THE girl.
It seems we always find a way back to each other.


there is no such thing, dude. i dont know the exact details of your situation but you sound like you're pining hard, and that's a waste of your valuable time.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Sifo on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:07:27
600 emails expressing your true feels

This is solid advice.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Leslieann on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:09:55
Send her a nice birthday wish, and let her control the tempo.

Just because it's her birthday changes nothing, and just because she is unhappy doesn't mean you should step in as the night in shining armor. Doing anything that jeopardizes her current relationship can seriously blow up in your face should they decide to stick it out even a little longer.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:10:51
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That's funny ****, but I did.
Now she in a messed up relationship and she keeps trying to escape from it, but it's kinda hard, since the dude lives with her family and she doesn't have the courage to handle the situation.
Somehow she always reaches out to me. It is really frustrating.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: funkymeeba on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:12:24
I was actually kind of sad to see no tp4 post in this thread so far. :(

It sounds like bad business in my book, though. Either way, have yourself some fun!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:17:53
nobody is worth risking your emotional well-being over like that. it sucks but sometimes you just have to say NEXT and focus on better, newer things.

i do hope there is more to this and that you guys can be happy but don't let her dictate your own happiness.

Well, it's too late. We already tried that several times over the years, but that just hasn't worked out. She is not just a girl. I believe she is THE girl.
It seems we always find a way back to each other.


there is no such thing, dude. i dont know the exact details of your situation but you sound like you're pining hard, and that's a waste of your valuable time.

You are probably right, but trust me there is.
See I don't think of it like that. I enjoy my life without her as well, but it feels that we are somehow connected and I really want to explore this a bit more.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Leslieann on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:18:19
That's funny ****, but I did.
Now she in a messed up relationship and she keeps trying to escape from it, but it's kinda hard, since the dude lives with her family and she doesn't have the courage to handle the situation.
Somehow she always reaches out to me. It is really frustrating.
There is three reasons she is reaching out to you every time...

Either you are now in friend-zone, she still holds a torch for you, or you're her fallback.
If she breaks up and wants to try again, beware, if it doesn't work between you both, run, because you will never be the one she really wants. She will constantly go running back to you when her main interest falls apart and leaving you the first chance she gets, knowing you will still be there waiting for her every time.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: SmallFry on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:19:24
I was actually kind of sad to see no tp4 post in this thread so far. :(
This. He must be under the weather.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:20:58
If she breaks up and wants to try again, beware, if it doesn't work between you both, run, because you will never be the one she really wants. She will constantly go running back to you when her main interest falls apart and leaving you the first chance she gets, knowing you will still be there waiting for her every time.

boom. even if you think she is 'the one'* it's not worth you getting wrecked over her inability to commit or be anything but selfish in that context. you have to take care of your OWN emotional wellbeing before you can take care of others, and if you base that on a relationship status and it backfires you're being unfair to everybody. sounds like she might be being unfair to you, herself and her current SO, but again I dont know or want to know the particulars.


also TJ's got it, see below


* NEO
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tjcaustin on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:22:11
I'm surprised no one suggested you do something nice like cook her a nice spaghetti dinner.

You know how to make spaghetti, right?

You're her security blanket, not a love interest.  You're comfortable and nice to use to boost her emotions when they're low, don't take that to mean she cares about you when she doesn't want something from you.

/personal experience
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:22:15
oops double
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:25:52
I'm surprised no one suggested you do something nice like cook her a nice spaghetti dinner.

You know how to make spaghetti, right?

You're her security blanket, not a love interest.  You're comfortable and nice to use to boost her emotions when they're low, don't take that to mean she cares about you when she doesn't want something from you.

/personal experience
There's certainly some truth to that. It still kinda sucks. :)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Leslieann on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:27:59
I'm surprised no one suggested you do something nice like cook her a nice spaghetti dinner.

You know how to make spaghetti, right?

You're her security blanket, not a love interest.  You're comfortable and nice to use to boost her emotions when they're low, don't take that to mean she cares about you when she doesn't want something from you.

/personal experience
She is still in a relationship, so cooking a nice dinner could go severely wrong.

Also, she may or may not be his blanket, but it's very possible. It depends on who it goes next time they get in   relationship since it seems they only dated once(?), or if she has already stuck him in friend zone. If he is a blanket though, he needs to cut and run. If they have dated more than once, yeah, definite blanket.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:30:25
That's funny ****, but I did.
Now she in a messed up relationship and she keeps trying to escape from it, but it's kinda hard, since the dude lives with her family and she doesn't have the courage to handle the situation.
Somehow she always reaches out to me. It is really frustrating.
There is three reasons she is reaching out to you every time...

Either you are now in friend-zone, she still holds a torch for you, or you're her fallback.
If she breaks up and wants to try again, beware, if it doesn't work between you both, run, because you will never be the one she really wants. She will constantly go running back to you when her main interest falls apart and leaving you the first chance she gets, knowing you will still be there waiting for her every time.

I think each of it applies. But why me? And why did she keep my handwritten letter?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tjcaustin on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:31:42
I'm surprised no one suggested you do something nice like cook her a nice spaghetti dinner.

You know how to make spaghetti, right?

You're her security blanket, not a love interest.  You're comfortable and nice to use to boost her emotions when they're low, don't take that to mean she cares about you when she doesn't want something from you.

/personal experience
She is still in a relationship, so cooking a nice dinner could go severely wrong.

Also, she may or may not be his blanket, but it's very possible. It depends on who it goes next time they get in   relationship since it seems they only dated once(?), or if she has already stuck him in friend zone. If he is a blanket though, he needs to cut and run. If they have dated more than once, yeah, definite blanket.

That wasn't meant to be the serious part of my comment.

Considering she goes to him when "things are bad", yeah, security blanket.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tjcaustin on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:33:15
That's funny ****, but I did.
Now she in a messed up relationship and she keeps trying to escape from it, but it's kinda hard, since the dude lives with her family and she doesn't have the courage to handle the situation.
Somehow she always reaches out to me. It is really frustrating.
There is three reasons she is reaching out to you every time...

Either you are now in friend-zone, she still holds a torch for you, or you're her fallback.
If she breaks up and wants to try again, beware, if it doesn't work between you both, run, because you will never be the one she really wants. She will constantly go running back to you when her main interest falls apart and leaving you the first chance she gets, knowing you will still be there waiting for her every time.

I think each of it applies. But why me? And why did she keep my handwritten letter?

Just because your words (literally in this case) make her feel better, it doesn't equate to her having genuine feelings.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:35:06
She not only gets to me when she is bored. It is kinda random. He keeps digging into my stuff.

However one thing I am certain about is that she has genuine feelings for me. She even admitted it. And she is very careful with her words. When she says something she really means it.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:41:37
She not only gets to me when she is bored. It is kinda random. He keeps digging into my stuff.

However one thing I am certain about is that she has genuine feelings for me. She even admitted it. And she is very careful with her words. When she says something she really means it.

yeah unless she's lying and/or semi-unintentionally manipulating you. be careful :\
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:58:30
I think a friendly meeting won't hurt anyone.
If she is for real, I will sense it from her body language.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tjcaustin on Mon, 10 June 2013, 19:59:44
I think a friendly meeting won't hurt anyone.
If she is for real, I will sense it from her body language.

All I'm saying is I've thought literally this same exact thing and got burned so bad I needed a skin graft.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 20:03:15
I appreciate your concern, but it sounds like you are projecting.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 10 June 2013, 20:06:02
I appreciate your concern, but it sounds like you are projecting.

You deserve any heartbreak you incur after ****ING EVERYBODY who has responded has told you to move on.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: metalliqaz on Mon, 10 June 2013, 20:09:54
Don't be mean.

Look just lay it down.  Say it clearly.  You want her back and she should get rid of the loser.  If she says no, then you've saved yourself a helluva lot of time and effort.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 20:10:03
Thanks. I will take it as a word of warning.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 10 June 2013, 20:15:38
Don't be mean.

no u
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 10 June 2013, 20:25:41
It's worth a try even if there is a possibility to hurt myself. However I'll be cautious.

Send her a nice birthday wish, and let her control the tempo.

Just because it's her birthday changes nothing, and just because she is unhappy doesn't mean you should step in as the night in shining armor. Doing anything that jeopardizes her current relationship can seriously blow up in your face should they decide to stick it out even a little longer.
I will take your advice. Thanks!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: noisyturtle on Mon, 10 June 2013, 20:37:54
Is this what GH is being reduced to, high school break up threads for saddos?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tjcaustin on Mon, 10 June 2013, 20:40:32
Careful, you didn't give him a cheat code to unlock her heart, so you're clearly just projecting.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Leslieann on Mon, 10 June 2013, 21:10:34
However one thing I am certain about is that she has genuine feelings for me. She even admitted it. And she is very careful with her words. When she says something she really means it.

Yeah, my buddy had the same thing, he even has two kids with the girl who did it to him.
She likes/loves him, but only gets with him when she is single. It's not a matter of boredom, it's a guy she likes a lot, but not enough to marry or even be in a long term relationship with. She knows he will always be there waiting for her and she knows he will also always be there for the kids when she needs someone to watch them. In fact having kids with him, only further cemented her hold over him for a long time, and who better to do it with than the guy who you KNOW will be at your beck and call? She did this for about ten years before he found someone else and married her instead, otherwise, I know for certain she would still be doing it to him.

Be careful, your situation is very, very similar.

Women can be/are dogs too, the difference is that we typically hide it better because we would be slut shamed for it while guys just get a high five.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Mon, 10 June 2013, 21:47:16
Is this what GH is being reduced to, high school break up threads for saddos?

:D
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Mon, 10 June 2013, 21:58:55
It's worth a try even if there is a possibility to hurt myself. However I'll be cautious.

Send her a nice birthday wish, and let her control the tempo.

Just because it's her birthday changes nothing, and just because she is unhappy doesn't mean you should step in as the night in shining armor. Doing anything that jeopardizes her current relationship can seriously blow up in your face should they decide to stick it out even a little longer.
I will take your advice. Thanks!

I agree with keeping things simple.

Since it seems you genuinely intend to court this girl for reasons outside of gratification, I will refrain from offering my usual psychological manipulations.   

Had you posted, yo dawg, how i get up in dis ha'oh, my advice would be different

Truth is though deep down I wish there does exist Love, and that people have it. 

Though through my schooling and real world interaction, it always seem mechanical rather than magical.

Perhaps the best advice would be to approach this with a balance of the two. What I mean by that is, make her believe that you two will ride a unicorn into the sunset, except that unicorn would actually be a Ferrari when it comes time.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: SmallFry on Mon, 10 June 2013, 22:05:16
TP4, that was the suckiest troll post ever. Please try again.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Mon, 10 June 2013, 22:11:32
TP4, that was the suckiest troll post ever. Please try again.

I am not trolling... And I generally wouldn't in this type of thread.. Not that I ever troll, ever.. in any thread.

Edit:

There are dire consequences for providing improper models of human pair bond relationships,  Primarily, single parents, discarded/orphaned children, and real dead babies.

It's funny to joke about it, but, it potentially ruins 3 lives, which may perpetuate terrible social conditions further.

This is the one thing people should take seriously on the internet.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: demik on Mon, 10 June 2013, 22:48:40
whip it out
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 10 June 2013, 23:06:17
whip it out

helicopter for bonus points
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: jabar on Mon, 10 June 2013, 23:14:01
run away, you're too young for this crap
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Input Nirvana on Mon, 10 June 2013, 23:19:09
I agree with keeping things simple.

Since it seems you genuinely intend to court this girl for reasons outside of gratification, I will refrain from offering my usual psychological manipulations.   

Had you posted, yo dawg, how i get up in dis ha'oh, my advice would be different

Truth is though deep down I wish there does exist Love, and that people have it. 

Though through my schooling and real world interaction, it always seem mechanical rather than magical.

Perhaps the best advice would be to approach this with a balance of the two. What I mean by that is, make her believe that you two will ride a unicorn into the sunset, except that unicorn would actually be a Ferrari when it comes time.

WTF? ??? ????
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Input Nirvana on Mon, 10 June 2013, 23:20:46
whip it out

Classic
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: demik on Mon, 10 June 2013, 23:24:04
run away, you're too young for this crap

which is also possibly the reason why he's in this crap
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Mon, 10 June 2013, 23:40:33
run away, you're too young for this crap

which is also possibly the reason why he's in this crap

at least she's not married. :D
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: metalliqaz on Tue, 11 June 2013, 00:15:01

at least she's not married. :D

Married chicks are way easier to seduce
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: missalaire on Tue, 11 June 2013, 00:25:16
****... people asking for dating advice now on a keyboard forum? I say we open a new subforum called the "Love Line"!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: demik on Tue, 11 June 2013, 00:30:58
man i used to love love line.

too bad adam carolla stop being funny.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: ApocalypseMaow on Tue, 11 June 2013, 00:47:29
600 emails expressing your true feels
Oh tears of joy! This is rich right here.  :blank:
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: ApocalypseMaow on Tue, 11 June 2013, 00:51:56
whip it out
If she bolts, it was never meant to be. If she stays...
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Andrew3000 on Tue, 11 June 2013, 01:09:44
Hasn't anyone suggested a TKL as a gift yet? It's page 3 already!  :))
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: demik on Tue, 11 June 2013, 01:16:05
we try to not bring up keyboards in this part of geekhack
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Tym on Tue, 11 June 2013, 02:26:36
Reading trough this thread; getting depressive as crap then Sth & Demik make my laugh my right nut off.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Tue, 11 June 2013, 04:31:25

at least she's not married. :D

Married chicks are way easier to seduce
(http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Tue, 11 June 2013, 07:47:12

at least she's not married. :D

Married chicks are way easier to seduce
Show Image
(http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg)


I often think this is whole older women "milf-chase", is just a fantasy, because I've never met anyone where this type of relationship actually occurs. 

Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: AriesX on Tue, 11 June 2013, 08:01:13
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Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Tue, 11 June 2013, 08:03:35

at least she's not married. :D

Married chicks are way easier to seduce
Show Image
(http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg)


I often think this is whole older women "milf-chase", is just a fantasy, because I've never met anyone where this type of relationship actually occurs. 



my friend is witha woman 20 years older than him, and actually moved to utah to live with her.. but i dont see it lasting

does she fit the description in the picture posted though?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: AriesX on Tue, 11 June 2013, 08:09:49

at least she's not married. :D

Married chicks are way easier to seduce
Show Image
(http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg)


I often think this is whole older women "milf-chase", is just a fantasy, because I've never met anyone where this type of relationship actually occurs. 



my friend is witha woman 20 years older than him, and actually moved to utah to live with her.. but i dont see it lasting

does she fit the description in the picture posted though?

hits 4 out of the 5 points
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: vun on Tue, 11 June 2013, 08:16:28
Is this what GH is being reduced to, high school break up threads for saddos?

****... people asking for dating advice now on a keyboard forum? I say we open a new subforum called the "Love Line"!
No, calm your **** guys, it's one thread. One. No need to get up in arms, take your sensationalism elsewhere, it's not funny. It's a guy posting an off-topic thread in the off-topic forum.
And it's not people asking for advice about love on a keyboard forum(technically it is), it's someone asking for advice about love from other people.


OT;
Obligatory "the internet is not the best place for advice on love and medical issues."
Good luck, though, I do hope it works out for you.

Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Tue, 11 June 2013, 08:22:29
^ This.
I already got what I wanted from this thread. Thank you for your help.
I got some really nice advices through PM as well.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Soarer on Tue, 11 June 2013, 12:36:03
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Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: daerid on Tue, 11 June 2013, 12:38:55
dude if she's cheating on her current SO with you, what the **** do you think she's gonna do when she gets unhappy with YOU? tell her to make her mind up before you get too emotionally invested man.

This needs to be re-iterated. x1000 times.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Tue, 11 June 2013, 12:52:55
She is not cheating on anyone. We haven't even met for five years.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: SpAmRaY on Tue, 11 June 2013, 12:59:02
She is not cheating on anyone. We haven't even met for five years.

I wonder if the person you were in 'love' with 5 years ago is still that same person?

I mean that in a most sincere way, I know after being married for almost 7 years that my wife is definitely not the same person I first met but obviously we have made many life changes together and are committed to each other.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Tue, 11 June 2013, 13:13:42
We both changed over the years that is for sure, and I will never know the truth unless I meet her again.

However thanks to you now I'm inclined to believe that she wants to keep me in her friend zone and uses me as her security blanket.
It seems like a lost cause, but that's fine. Finally I am aware of it. I definitely won't stress about it and I'm going to keep on doing what I'm doing.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Findecanor on Tue, 11 June 2013, 13:40:47
What you need to do is send her 600 emails.
:)) RiGS: If you have not read this yet, do! It is hilarious and sad at the same time:
http://vgperson.tumblr.com/post/21533650696/help-the-girl-i-like-wont-respond-to-my-emails
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: WhiteFireDragon on Tue, 11 June 2013, 13:44:36
Any ideas would be appreciated.

Steak, football tickets, and beer. Works every time. Don't do flowers, they die too easily.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Tue, 11 June 2013, 13:49:38
I simply texted her my friendly and somewhat personal birthday wishes. She appreciated it and called me back.

What you need to do is send her 600 emails.
:)) RiGS: If you have not read this yet, do! It is hilarious and sad at the same time:
http://vgperson.tumblr.com/post/21533650696/help-the-girl-i-like-wont-respond-to-my-emails
That is some serious ****!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Malphas on Tue, 11 June 2013, 14:24:12
Depends on the girl, but jewellery is the easiest one - all women like jewellery, but I'd get vintage; it's much less gauche and flashy. If she's pseudo-intellectual or "creative", then books (out-of-print or early edition obviously, not just paperbacks from Amazon) or art (plenty of inexpensive artists going about) are good ones. All of these things are good for making up some BS story about as well, to make the whole thing more interesting instead of the reality of you purposefully finding it on eBay.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Malphas on Tue, 11 June 2013, 14:24:59
Oh it's too late, nevermind.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: TheSoulhunter on Tue, 11 June 2013, 15:01:59
dude if she's cheating on her current SO with you, what the **** do you think she's gonna do when she gets unhappy with YOU? tell her to make her mind up before you get too emotionally invested man.

^ That!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: noisyturtle on Tue, 11 June 2013, 16:11:39
I have my kitty cat, and that's all the **** I need to pet for now. I will just keep telling myself this lie.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Tym on Tue, 11 June 2013, 16:14:41
I have my kitty cat, and that's all the **** I need to pet for now. I will just keep telling myself this lie.

Buy a Russian bride? I'm sure we have some Russians here; oh yeah!

Ask iri to set you up!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: jdcarpe on Tue, 11 June 2013, 16:19:20
Listen to your boy Young MC:

Quote
Man, that put me in dilema
Case in point a fly girl name Gema
I met this lady at a quiet place
about 5 years ago we were face to face

I stepped up to her
tossed the first line
Like fishin' I was wishin'
that the girl would be mine

I told my best jokes and she started smilin'
a voice inside said yo young your stylin'

But then Gema really startin actin' silly
Cuz she broke up with her boyfriend Billie
She wanted advice and she was coming to me

I said you need dear Abby not the young MC
Because I dont mind being a shoulder to cry on
But I need one who needs a body to lie on

Cuz nowadays I got girls by the bunches
See I got smart and just rolled with the punches!

Roll with the Punches bby Young MC
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Tue, 11 June 2013, 18:03:44
I have my kitty cat, and that's all the **** I need to pet for now. I will just keep telling myself this lie.

hahaha, isn't that also what keyboards are for? trading love for cold complacent mechanical idols? 
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: demik on Tue, 11 June 2013, 19:51:39
I simply texted her my friendly and somewhat personal birthday wishes. She appreciated it and called me back.

What you need to do is send her 600 emails.
:)) RiGS: If you have not read this yet, do! It is hilarious and sad at the same time:
http://vgperson.tumblr.com/post/21533650696/help-the-girl-i-like-wont-respond-to-my-emails
That is some serious ****!

that's it?

tell me you also sent her a picture of your shlong.

women love that
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tjcaustin on Tue, 11 June 2013, 19:54:08
I simply texted her my friendly and somewhat personal birthday wishes. She appreciated it and called me back.

What you need to do is send her 600 emails.
:)) RiGS: If you have not read this yet, do! It is hilarious and sad at the same time:
http://vgperson.tumblr.com/post/21533650696/help-the-girl-i-like-wont-respond-to-my-emails
That is some serious ****!

that's it?

tell me you also sent her a picture of your shlong.

women love that

Esp if you're in government.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Input Nirvana on Tue, 11 June 2013, 20:34:29
....I already got what I wanted from this thread. Thank you for your help.
I got some really nice advices through PM as well.

Your welcome, you obviously liked what I wrote. But you are aware this thread isn't about you. I now know more about everybody that posted than I could have discovered in a year.

Reading trough this thread; getting depressive as crap then Sth & Demik make my laugh my right nut off.

I yukked my left nut completely off and out the door, don't know where it went. It was my favorite of the two.

Buy a Russian bride? I'm sure we have some Russians here; oh yeah!

Ask iri to set you up!

Ukraine girls are soooo hot. I want to try them out. What their test drive policy is? I wonder if losing my left testy will be a problem?

Iri, set me up!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Wed, 12 June 2013, 03:44:49
Ukraine girls are soooo hot. I want to try them out. What their test drive policy is?
1) come near a group of ukrainian girls
2) start speaking english
3) ...................................
4) PROFIT!!!!11111

appendix a: no, she doesn't love you, she just wants a green card
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Wed, 12 June 2013, 09:14:22
Ukraine girls are soooo hot. I want to try them out. What their test drive policy is?
1) come near a group of ukrainian girls
2) start speaking english
3) ...................................
4) PROFIT!!!!11111

appendix a: no, she doesn't love you, she just wants a green card

United States is a great place to live, this is for sure...

Though I would consider it a more lonesome life as people are spread more thinly across..

 
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Grim Fandango on Wed, 12 June 2013, 09:48:44
I would just be careful given the situation you are in. Some tact may be necessary.

I also met my girlfriend when she was still in another relationship. Personally I just demanded that she left him as soon as I noticed we were getting "romantically involved". She did. 6 years later we are still together. She moved in with me about 6 months after she broke up with her boyfriend. Some people of course suspected that she cheated, which she did not.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Wed, 12 June 2013, 10:03:58
I would just be careful given the situation you are in. Some tact may be necessary.

I also met my girlfriend when she was still in another relationship. Personally I just demanded that she left him as soon as I noticed we were getting "romantically involved". She did. 6 years later we are still together. She moved in with me about 6 months after she broke up with her boyfriend. Some people of course suspected that she cheated, which she did not.

Do you know why defectors are often beheaded right after their usefulness has ended...  because if they betray their original party, it is in their character to betray YOU as well...  this isn't a moral thing I'm pushing, I'm merely saying eyes-out...   less of-course you're in an open relationship, in which case, w/eves
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Malphas on Wed, 12 June 2013, 14:06:12
This "omg she's cheating, that means she'll cheat on you someday" line of thinking going on in this thread is one of the most stereotypically pubescent things I've ever read.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Grim Fandango on Wed, 12 June 2013, 15:37:27
I would just be careful given the situation you are in. Some tact may be necessary.

I also met my girlfriend when she was still in another relationship. Personally I just demanded that she left him as soon as I noticed we were getting "romantically involved". She did. 6 years later we are still together. She moved in with me about 6 months after she broke up with her boyfriend. Some people of course suspected that she cheated, which she did not.

Do you know why defectors are often beheaded right after their usefulness has ended...  because if they betray their original party, it is in their character to betray YOU as well...  this isn't a moral thing I'm pushing, I'm merely saying eyes-out...   less of-course you're in an open relationship, in which case, w/eves

Except she never cheated. It is more like we both noticed that we hung out more than you could consider "normal", and it was not behind anyone's back. We had been friends for some time. When I noticed that was going on, I commented on it, she agreed and broke it off with her boyfriend at the time. I think we both were pretty clean and honest about it. There was no kissing, or anything inappropriately intimate before she broke up with him.

Also, I have pretty much zero fear of her cheating on me regardless. And if we were to drift apart and she would find someone else, I wish she would behave the same as she did when she met me. That is , tell me honestly and in advance. I would never want to be with someone who does not want to be in a relationship. If it is over, it is over. Though right now that seems unlikely to happen.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Wed, 12 June 2013, 15:41:07
malphas, this line was posted by a teenager named sth, he doesn't know life. don't take his postings seriously.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Trent on Wed, 12 June 2013, 16:45:06
dude if she's cheating on her current SO with you, what the **** do you think she's gonna do when she gets unhappy with YOU? tell her to make her mind up before you get too emotionally invested man.

This.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Leslieann on Wed, 12 June 2013, 18:18:32
Though I would consider it a more lonesome life as people are spread more thinly across..
Actually, your are more likely to be single living in a big city than is the more rural areas. Scientists think it has to do with so many options that people don't want to settle.

Also, population density depends on the area, Southern (actually much of) of California is entirely too crowded and has a housing shortage. 1/8th of the U.S. now lives in California.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Wed, 12 June 2013, 19:17:20
I have my kitty cat, and that's all the **** I need to pet for now. I will just keep telling myself this lie.

Buy a Russian bride? I'm sure we have some Russians here; oh yeah!

Ask iri to set you up!

Trust me you don't wanna hang with Russian women. My dear mother is Russian! :)
Asian girls FTW.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Wed, 12 June 2013, 19:20:11
This "omg she's cheating, that means she'll cheat on you someday" line of thinking going on in this thread is one of the most stereotypically pubescent things I've ever read.

it's not a guarantee but it's a bad, bad sign if he's looking for a committed relationship. go buy somebody some stereotypical date gifts :P
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Input Nirvana on Wed, 12 June 2013, 21:14:20
Ukraine girls are soooo hot. I want to try them out. What their test drive policy is?
1) come near a group of ukrainian girls
2) start speaking english
3) ...................................
4) PROFIT!!!!11111

appendix a: no, she doesn't love you, she just wants a green card

My dearest Iri...you so don't understand. I'm not handing out green cards, nor am I interested in a Ukraine girl in the U.S. I purely want to go to the Ukraine and sample the goodies like I did in Prague. GREAT times, Input Nirvana knows party.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Wed, 12 June 2013, 22:03:51
Ukraine girls are soooo hot. I want to try them out. What their test drive policy is?
1) come near a group of ukrainian girls
2) start speaking english
3) ...................................
4) PROFIT!!!!11111

appendix a: no, she doesn't love you, she just wants a green card

My dearest Iri...you so don't understand. I'm not handing out green cards, nor am I interested in a Ukraine girl in the U.S. I purely want to go to the Ukraine and sample the goodies like I did in Prague. GREAT times, Input Nirvana knows party.

This is bad if you trick them into thinking they're getting a green card out of the deal...

if you're upfront about it, then that's A-ok.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Wed, 12 June 2013, 22:06:16
Though I would consider it a more lonesome life as people are spread more thinly across..
Actually, your are more likely to be single living in a big city than is the more rural areas. Scientists think it has to do with so many options that people don't want to settle.

Also, population density depends on the area, Southern (actually much of) of California is entirely too crowded and has a housing shortage. 1/8th of the U.S. now lives in California.

I was not talking about relationship between man and women specifically.. but there is much more door to door in other cultures than the privacy obsessed American style.

for example, i tell my friends that when they get to my house, just open the door and come in.. they can't seem to handle this, and always call me when they're in front of the door to come to the door.

One time, a guy even left because I didn't pick up the phone when the battery was out... and then he blamed me for not picking up the phone,, he didn't even ring the doorbell..
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Input Nirvana on Wed, 12 June 2013, 22:06:17
Ukraine girls are soooo hot. I want to try them out. What their test drive policy is?
1) come near a group of ukrainian girls
2) start speaking english
3) ...................................
4) PROFIT!!!!11111

appendix a: no, she doesn't love you, she just wants a green card

My dearest Iri...you so don't understand. I'm not handing out green cards, nor am I interested in a Ukraine girl in the U.S. I purely want to go to the Ukraine and sample the goodies like I did in Prague. GREAT times, Input Nirvana knows party.

This is bad if you trick them into thinking they're getting a green card out of the deal...

if you're upfront about it, then that's A-ok.

I prefer to really screw over people and take advantage of their disadvantages with lies and deception. This is best. I consider it a profession and deduct all incurred expenses as a sex tourist on my taxes. Find me now, you NSA ****ers.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Wed, 12 June 2013, 23:57:08
Ukraine girls are soooo hot. I want to try them out. What their test drive policy is?
1) come near a group of ukrainian girls
2) start speaking english
3) ...................................
4) PROFIT!!!!11111

appendix a: no, she doesn't love you, she just wants a green card

My dearest Iri...you so don't understand. I'm not handing out green cards, nor am I interested in a Ukraine girl in the U.S. I purely want to go to the Ukraine and sample the goodies like I did in Prague. GREAT times, Input Nirvana knows party.

This is bad if you trick them into thinking they're getting a green card out of the deal...

if you're upfront about it, then that's A-ok.

I prefer to really screw over people and take advantage of their disadvantages with lies and deception. This is best. I consider it a profession and deduct all incurred expenses as a sex tourist on my taxes. Find me now, you NSA ****ers.

unrestricted deviance will be your undoing.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Thu, 13 June 2013, 00:36:56
Ukraine girls are soooo hot. I want to try them out. What their test drive policy is?
1) come near a group of ukrainian girls
2) start speaking english
3) ...................................
4) PROFIT!!!!11111

appendix a: no, she doesn't love you, she just wants a green card

My dearest Iri...you so don't understand. I'm not handing out green cards, nor am I interested in a Ukraine girl in the U.S. I purely want to go to the Ukraine and sample the goodies like I did in Prague. GREAT times, Input Nirvana knows party.
oh, i'm pretty sure i understood you quite well. what you need to do is go to ukraine and follow those easy steps.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Thu, 13 June 2013, 04:30:04
Could you elaborate more on step 3? It seems a bit vague to me.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Thu, 13 June 2013, 04:58:36
Could you elaborate more on step 3? It seems a bit vague to me.

step 3 is .............   aka "don't be weird"
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Thu, 13 June 2013, 06:09:54
Weird like doing that helicopter stuff with your weiner?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: TheSoulhunter on Thu, 13 June 2013, 07:15:51
Weird like doing that helicopter stuff with your weiner?
<Mod Edit: Link removed>
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: thegunner100 on Thu, 13 June 2013, 07:27:06
What you need to do is send her 600 emails.
:)) RiGS: If you have not read this yet, do! It is hilarious and sad at the same time:
http://vgperson.tumblr.com/post/21533650696/help-the-girl-i-like-wont-respond-to-my-emails

Thanks for wasting an hour of my morning. That's some real ****ed up **** right there if it was true. Now to go make some breakfast...  :llama:
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Halverson on Thu, 13 June 2013, 07:29:42
What you need to do is send her 600 emails.
:)) RiGS: If you have not read this yet, do! It is hilarious and sad at the same time:
http://vgperson.tumblr.com/post/21533650696/help-the-girl-i-like-wont-respond-to-my-emails

Thanks for wasting an hour of my morning. That's some real ****ed up **** right there if it was true. Now to go make some breakfast...  :llama:

DENKO-CHWAAAN!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: thegunner100 on Thu, 13 June 2013, 07:32:02
Poor Denko :(
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Halverson on Thu, 13 June 2013, 07:32:53
(´・ω・`)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Input Nirvana on Thu, 13 June 2013, 07:33:39
Ukraine girls are soooo hot. I want to try them out. What their test drive policy is?
1) come near a group of ukrainian girls
2) start speaking english
3) ...................................
4) PROFIT!!!!11111

appendix a: no, she doesn't love you, she just wants a green card

My dearest Iri...you so don't understand. I'm not handing out green cards, nor am I interested in a Ukraine girl in the U.S. I purely want to go to the Ukraine and sample the goodies like I did in Prague. GREAT times, Input Nirvana knows party.
oh, i'm pretty sure i understood you quite well. what you need to do is go to ukraine and follow those easy steps.

Non of that is really my game, even though I know it is for others, fun to joke though. But disco all night in Prague with the locals was definitely off the hook. I just think Ukraine girls are hot. Not gonna date, import, marry, fold, spindle or mutilate. But they they are hot (Mila Jovovich).

Input Nirvana OUT!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: thegunner100 on Thu, 13 June 2013, 07:49:33
Quote
I can tell Denko’s just tsundere, man.

I laughed pretty hard at that line xD
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Halverson on Thu, 13 June 2013, 07:53:04
Quote
I can tell Denko’s just tsundere, man.

I laughed pretty hard at that line xD

:D

Dating advice in a nutshell, the romance of a lifetime.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Thu, 13 June 2013, 08:17:20
I just think Ukraine girls are hot
and sluttish. which is good for you!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Malphas on Thu, 13 June 2013, 14:44:47
This "omg she's cheating, that means she'll cheat on you someday" line of thinking going on in this thread is one of the most stereotypically pubescent things I've ever read.

it's not a guarantee but it's a bad, bad sign if he's looking for a committed relationship. go buy somebody some stereotypical date gifts :P
It would be a bad sign if she was deliberately and purposefully trying to maintain two distinct relationships concurrently over longer than short term, with one of the people involved not knowing. That's not at all what is happening here, in fact it doesn't even sound like cheating at all to me. Adult relationships/life in general is messy.

malphas, this line was posted by a teenager named sth, he doesn't know life. don't take his postings seriously.
Well now things make more sense.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Leslieann on Thu, 13 June 2013, 15:26:23
I was not talking about relationship between man and women specifically.. but there is much more door to door in other cultures than the privacy obsessed American style.

for example, i tell my friends that when they get to my house, just open the door and come in.. they can't seem to handle this, and always call me when they're in front of the door to come to the door.

Being from California, I freak out when customers tell me to just go in while they are at work.

Anyhow, the U.S. is quite a diverse place, with many different attitudes depending on where you are.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Grim Fandango on Thu, 13 June 2013, 17:38:40
I was not talking about relationship between man and women specifically.. but there is much more door to door in other cultures than the privacy obsessed American style.

for example, i tell my friends that when they get to my house, just open the door and come in.. they can't seem to handle this, and always call me when they're in front of the door to come to the door.

Being from California, I freak out when customers tell me to just go in while they are at work.

Anyhow, the U.S. is quite a diverse place, with many different attitudes depending on where you are.

This is pretty funny. I grew up this way. Everyone was always welcome at my parents place. We had a piece of rope that came from the little lever that you could pull to open the door, that went through the space in the door intended for mail (this is common in holland), so kids in the neighborhood could let themselves in.

As an adult, I live in a big city, so I can not exactly leave my door open all day. However, 2 of my best friends have a key, and they are welcome to use our apartment when they are in the city. They see this as something pretty special, though for me it is normal. There is also something you get in return for your hospitality, like friends coming over to your place instead of you always having to visit theirs, since they feel at home.

I do tell them not to use my computer though XD
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Leslieann on Thu, 13 June 2013, 18:22:47
I do tell them not to use my computer though XD
Scared they might find your weird porn stash?  ;)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Thu, 13 June 2013, 18:39:02
Ukraine girls are soooo hot. I want to try them out. What their test drive policy is?
1) come near a group of ukrainian girls
2) start speaking english
3) ...................................
4) PROFIT!!!!11111

appendix a: no, she doesn't love you, she just wants a green card

My dearest Iri...you so don't understand. I'm not handing out green cards, nor am I interested in a Ukraine girl in the U.S. I purely want to go to the Ukraine and sample the goodies like I did in Prague. GREAT times, Input Nirvana knows party.

This is bad if you trick them into thinking they're getting a green card out of the deal...

if you're upfront about it, then that's A-ok.

I prefer to really screw over people and take advantage of their disadvantages with lies and deception. This is best. I consider it a profession and deduct all incurred expenses as a sex tourist on my taxes. Find me now, you NSA ****ers.

unrestricted deviance will be your undoing.

better to do and be done than to stay undone
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Input Nirvana on Thu, 13 June 2013, 20:10:07
I just think Ukraine girls are hot
and sluttish. which is good for you!
I just think Ukraine girls are hot
and sluttish. which is good for you!

I know they aren't any more/less sluttish than any other collection of women/men. But they are most certainly some of the hottest. High cheek bones, sultry eyes, bee sting lips....WOWZA!

Too bad they are in such a tough country. Rough winters, low opportunity, etc.  :(

Ukraine girls are soooo hot. I want to try them out. What their test drive policy is?
1) come near a group of ukrainian girls
2) start speaking english
3) ...................................
4) PROFIT!!!!11111

appendix a: no, she doesn't love you, she just wants a green card

My dearest Iri...you so don't understand. I'm not handing out green cards, nor am I interested in a Ukraine girl in the U.S. I purely want to go to the Ukraine and sample the goodies like I did in Prague. GREAT times, Input Nirvana knows party.

This is bad if you trick them into thinking they're getting a green card out of the deal...

if you're upfront about it, then that's A-ok.

I prefer to really screw over people and take advantage of their disadvantages with lies and deception. This is best. I consider it a profession and deduct all incurred expenses as a sex tourist on my taxes. Find me now, you NSA ****ers.

unrestricted deviance will be your undoing.

better to do and be done than to stay undone

True dat brotha!!!!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Fri, 14 June 2013, 01:49:09
Rough winters
in ukraine?! then what winters we have here in central russia, let alone siberia?! "apocalyptic"?!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 17 June 2013, 19:46:29
Just a quick follow up on the date. Today, after five years I met her again. Oh boy, such a disappointment!
I have no idea what I liked about her back then. Maybe it was the fact that she was only eighteen.

(http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg) (http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg)

QFT
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: tp4tissue on Mon, 17 June 2013, 20:03:07
Just a quick follow up on the date. Today, after five years I met her again. Oh boy, such a disappointment!
I have no idea what I liked about her back then. Maybe it was the fact that she was only eighteen.

(http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg) (http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg)

QFT

Post pictures.... where are the pictures....
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 17 June 2013, 20:17:22
Just a quick follow up on the date. Today, after five years I met her again. Oh boy, such a disappointment!
I have no idea what I liked about her back then. Maybe it was the fact that she was only eighteen.

(http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg) (http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg)

QFT

damn!! sorry you got disappointed but maybe it was for the best.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 17 June 2013, 20:23:50
Absolutely!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Input Nirvana on Mon, 17 June 2013, 20:48:12
Rough winters
in ukraine?! then what winters we have here in central russia, let alone siberia?! "apocalyptic"?!

U haz hot girlz ther?

Just a quick follow up on the date. Today, after five years I met her again. Oh boy, such a disappointment!
I have no idea what I liked about her back then. Maybe it was the fact that she was only eighteen.

(http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg) (http://cs418527.vk.me/v418527724/2cd2/x3qmnGjM32I.jpg)

QFT

Aaaahhh....she was a pipe dream all along. It wasn't about her, it was about you after all, which is good. I'm glad you found out what it really was, but sorry you had to be disappointed. I guess my PM to you was kinda right on :)

Someday I should charge for my sage direction and advice. Damn I'm good!
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: RiGS on Mon, 17 June 2013, 21:01:50
Actually I'm quite happy about it. Damn she was really annoying and boring. Also aging is the worst enemy of a fine woman.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Mon, 17 June 2013, 21:09:01
Also aging is the worst enemy of a fine woman.

yo i'ma give you the benefit of the doubt but... ಠ_ಠ
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Input Nirvana on Mon, 17 June 2013, 21:43:35
Actually I'm quite happy about it.....Also aging is the worst enemy of a fine woman.


Ain't gett'in naughty if yo ain't no hottie!!!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
HHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Tru dat.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Thu, 27 June 2013, 06:12:28
Rough winters
in ukraine?! then what winters we have here in central russia, let alone siberia?! "apocalyptic"?!

U haz hot girlz ther?
yesez.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: davkol on Thu, 27 June 2013, 06:53:03
Well, majority is very... Russian. I guess it's a cultural thing, but I wouldn't touch them even with a ten-foot pole.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Tym on Thu, 27 June 2013, 07:18:57
Well, majority is very... Russian. I guess it's a cultural thing, but I wouldn't touch them even with a ten-foot pole.
(http://images.wikia.com/vampirediaries/images/1/11/If_you_know_what_I_mean_.png)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Thu, 27 June 2013, 07:31:25
Well, majority is very... Russian. I guess it's a cultural thing, but I wouldn't touch them even with a ten-foot pole.
why?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: davkol on Thu, 27 June 2013, 12:25:57
Well, majority is very... Russian. I guess it's a cultural thing, but I wouldn't touch them even with a ten-foot pole.
why?

Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Thu, 27 June 2013, 14:24:16
If I go to Karlovy Vary or random porn site, I can almost always tell whether the woman is Russian, or not
just out of curiosity -- how can you tell the etnicity of a naked white woman?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Input Nirvana on Thu, 27 June 2013, 14:29:21
If I go to Karlovy Vary or random porn site, I can almost always tell whether the woman is Russian, or not
just out of curiosity -- how can you tell the etnicity of a naked white woman?
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By smell?
God that's funny?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: davkol on Thu, 27 June 2013, 15:17:55
If I go to Karlovy Vary or random porn site, I can almost always tell whether the woman is Russian, or not
just out of curiosity -- how can you tell the etnicity of a naked white woman?

Sigh, you must have noticed that native people look different in different areas. Most people with Russian origins are easy to recognize. Same thing in case of Nordic countries, south Europe or German-speaking countries.

Unfortunately, I've found out I'm not able to describe people (faces specifically).
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Thu, 27 June 2013, 16:32:36
my spanish teacher is from colombia. at first sight, i thought she was one of the millions of immigrants from central asia that we have here.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: sth on Thu, 27 June 2013, 17:33:36
Well, majority is very... Russian. I guess it's a cultural thing, but I wouldn't touch them even with a ten-foot pole.
why?

  • Looks. If I go to Karlovy Vary or random porn site, I can almost always tell whether the woman is Russian, or not. Some of them are textbook examples of sluttiness (based on looks).
  • Behavior. My experience is that Russian tourists are the most arrogant in the whole Europe. For example a woman that insisted on entering the St. Peter's Basilica dressed as a slut. Yeah, she was Russian.
  • Nationalism. AFAIK many Russians still believe that the Russian Empire can exist again; I've heard random Russians say stuff like "Czechoslovakia 1968? 10/10, would invade again".
  • Mentality.  It's hard to explain... Anyone who's read byliny and compared them to other European folklore probably knows what I mean. Completely different values. It's like when Americans occupied Japan after WW2 and had hard time understanding Japanese culture and society.

regardless, calling women sluts is a bad look bro
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: davkol on Thu, 27 June 2013, 17:55:20
Well, majority is very... Russian. I guess it's a cultural thing, but I wouldn't touch them even with a ten-foot pole.
why?

  • Looks. If I go to Karlovy Vary or random porn site, I can almost always tell whether the woman is Russian, or not. Some of them are textbook examples of sluttiness (based on looks).
  • Behavior. My experience is that Russian tourists are the most arrogant in the whole Europe. For example a woman that insisted on entering the St. Peter's Basilica dressed as a slut. Yeah, she was Russian.
  • Nationalism. AFAIK many Russians still believe that the Russian Empire can exist again; I've heard random Russians say stuff like "Czechoslovakia 1968? 10/10, would invade again".
  • Mentality.  It's hard to explain... Anyone who's read byliny and compared them to other European folklore probably knows what I mean. Completely different values. It's like when Americans occupied Japan after WW2 and had hard time understanding Japanese culture and society.

regardless, calling women sluts is a bad look bro

****s. Better? ^_^
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Fri, 14 March 2014, 14:05:01
how the **** did i post here
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: SpAmRaY on Fri, 14 March 2014, 14:06:27
how the **** did i post here

iri are you on pain meds? :P
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Fri, 14 March 2014, 14:13:05
i'm not in 'murica, and prescription "pain meds" here aren't heavy drugs. i'm just smoking opium. and there is no possibility to delete an accidental post on geekhack :(
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: paicrai on Fri, 14 March 2014, 14:15:50
i'm not in 'murica, and prescription "pain meds" here aren't heavy drugs. i'm just smoking opium. and there is no possibility to delete an accidental post on geekhack :(
Modify it out?
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: nubbinator on Fri, 14 March 2014, 23:02:31
Ohh, dating advice?  I suck at that.

So there's a cute social worker at one of the nut houses I visit as part of my job.  How do I ask her out without it being awkward?  Ask her to grab a coffee or lunch one day?  Ask her hiking?  Regal her with stories about how I fended off the crazy hoards to see her?  Piss my pants out of nervousness and awkwardly leave?

Awaiting demik's answer about how I'm a ***** and wuss and how I need to HTFU.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lastpilot on Fri, 14 March 2014, 23:14:03
Ohh, dating advice?  I suck at that.

So there's a cute social worker at one of the nut houses I visit as part of my job.  How do I ask her out without it being awkward?  Ask her to grab a coffee or lunch one day?  Ask her hiking?  Regal her with stories about how I fended off the crazy hoards to see her?  Piss my pants out of nervousness and awkwardly leave?

Awaiting demik's answer about how I'm a ***** and wuss and how I need to HTFU.
Sure, just ask her out to coffee :3

Just end one of your happier conversations with "Hey...[slight pause]...do you wanna grab a cup of coffee sometime?" /smile.

Oyisss.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: iri on Sat, 15 March 2014, 03:06:00
So there's a cute social worker at one of the nut houses I visit as part of my job.  How do I ask her out without it being awkward?  Ask her to grab a coffee or lunch one day?  Ask her hiking?  Regal her with stories about how I fended off the crazy hoards to see her?  Piss my pants out of nervousness and awkwardly leave?
hiking around los angeles is awesome. so, ask her to grab a coffee.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: Lain1911 on Tue, 18 March 2014, 15:05:52
I advise you to only talk to people still married for at least 10 years.
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: ideus on Tue, 18 March 2014, 15:07:36
I advise you to only talk to people still married for at least 10 years.


What does marriage have to do with dating?  ::)
Title: Re: Dating advice
Post by: fohat.digs on Tue, 18 March 2014, 15:38:10

nut houses I visit as part of my job

coffee or lunch one day?  Ask her hiking?


If you are less of a nut case than the others around her, you start off with some advantage, at least.

Coffee or lunch is as benign and non-threatening as it gets. Try to walk in around break time.

I have been married for almost 22 years, and our first date was a hike in the mountains.