This forum needs a cheer-up/venting thread.

[himynameisbunny]

I've had a pretty stressful week and I just need a vent. Seems like I can't say anything without upsetting the people around me so I figured venting to a lot of like-minded individuals could do me a lot of good...

I'll try make it so it's not tl;dr.

• I'm 22 years old
• Work full time in an Accountancy firm...
• ...while going to University full time, final year of my Bachelor of Information Systems.
• Continuing onto a Bachelor of Commerce next year, majoring in Accountancy so I can take over the business after graduation. That's 3 years away.

So yeah, got a lot on my plate. My life as of late has consisted of:

• Breaking it off with my girlfriend of 4 years. She just didn't appreciate me anymore. Spoke to me like I was rubbish. I kinda miss the company though
• First week of Uni this week. Realised that one subject is programming at its' core, the other subject being DBMS. I haven't covered either topic in 2-3 years and I was wobbly with it THEN let alone NOW
• Parents yelling at me for being upset/miserable about the whole thing, so I try not to hang around the house so I go to the pub to chill with mates instead. For which they yell at me incessantly.
• Boss is a family member so I can't spill about Uni being **** because it then stresses him out
• Work is normally bearable but the past week has just consisted of the boss yelling and screaming about anything and everything. Isn't exactly morale-boosting
• Have some rather bad debt lingering over my head...which is incredibly hard to get ahead of when you spend little/no time at home and all of it out...
• Trying and failing to give up smoking before family discovers habit
• Stopped going to the gym after breakup, going back to Uni chews up most of my time now.

inb4 JUST MOVE OUT, I can't afford to...see debt. Topre stuff doesn't help in the slightest.
inb4 Rippykins calling "first world problems"

Anyway, if you've got some handy hints for me or if you just wanna vent yourself go ahead...

[keyboardlover]

Your sig pic is too big.

Also you should stop wasting your money on expensive keyboards and going to the bar. Get rid of your debt, THEN do that stuff.

[himynameisbunny]

Your sig pic is too big.

Trying to troll somebody when you already know they're upset? Really?

If that is the only thing that's grinding your gears right now you need to get out of the basement.

Besides, if it WAS too big Geekhack would have rejected it upon upload due to the sizing rules.

Be a good boy and go back to chasing Rippykins around the forums.

Also you should stop wasting your money on expensive keyboards and going to the bar. Get rid of your debt, THEN do that stuff.

Head says this, but you end up doing differently when you're not even comfortable in your own home...

[keyboardlover]

I thought you said this thread was for venting?

[himynameisbunny]

I thought you said this thread was for venting?

There's a difference between venting and trolling KL.

[Reptile]

KL your a **** man. Hey I am also 22 and have gone through most of the same things you listed and more! I think the best thing to do would be to forget the girl. If she didn't enjoy your company then why should you be around her. right? It's not like your in your 30's and need to settle down with someone. Plus you live in a big city! You know you notice hot girls and you never talked to them because you had a girlfriend. maybe? lol anyways hit them up! Discover new people, new friends!

About the money situation. How much debt are we talking about? Topre stuff is expensive and I think you could handle holding off for a bit :bounce:

Anyways to the point. Your young you shouldn't have THAT much debt and look at each day as a new opportunity to meet new people and have new experiences.

[keyboardlover]

I'm a **** for venting in a thread for venting?

Must be 22-year old logic.

[DanGWanG]

I heard smoking weed helps a lot

[Reptile]

Smoking weed helps me a lot

This

[keyboardlover]

Problem is this guy is looking to DECREASE his debt.

[DanGWanG]

Dude you guys quoted me so fast...I changed my original post so I didn't look like a bad person

[alaricljs]

It's all over your sub-forum... if you didn't want people to know you sorta handled that one wrong...

As for the part where life sucks and debt sucks more... yup, that's the way it is.  Need to get past that and realize that you take things one small step at a time.  You prioritize your woes and handle them.  debt worry you more than quitting the smoke?  Guess what... quit smoking and you help your debt.  In fact almost everything you're complaining about rolls into the debt wall.  Lose the GF, less debt... don't hang out at the pub so the `rents stop *****ing, less debt... and so on

[keyboardlover]

Dude you guys quoted me so fast...I changed my original post so I didn't look like a bad person

I took your quote out of my post. I ain't no ****.

[DanGWanG]

I took your quote out of my post. I ain't no ****.

Ah no biggie lol alaricjls was right no reason to be a ninja

[IvanIvanovich]

Cheer up bunny!
[video=youtube_share;qYx7YG0RsFY]http://youtu.be/qYx7YG0RsFY[/video]

[himynameisbunny]

I think the best thing to do would be to forget the girl.
You know you notice hot girls and you never talked to them because you had a girlfriend.
About the money situation. How much debt are we talking about? Topre stuff is expensive and I think you could handle holding off for a bit :bounce:

• I'm trying to, but considering I've introduced her into my group of friends and she's just one of the team now it's a bit hard to have her around and put space there at the same time.
• Haha, I have been chasing tail a bit. Got a couple of nibbles! ;)
• In the vicinity of $8k. tl;dr had car accident, had to seek funds for premium etc, just kept going from there. I haven't used any credit in a couple of weeks though. If I dropped the booze then it would go away in 6 months I reckon. But that's my escape from reality, which brings me nicely to:

I heard smoking weed helps a lot

I use it maybe a couple of times a year casually with old mates. Good to space yourself out and have a good giggle but it would be **** being a regular thing.

Last Friday I had some, got me in the best headspace. Sat there playing COD: MW3 while my mates...er...casual sexual partner sat there whinging about being bored. Felt bad and laughed my ass off at the same time.

Problem is this guy is looking to DECREASE his debt.

Guess what... quit smoking and you help your debt.

I probably smoke a pack a week; I'm in no way bad but I do have a dependency there. And it is another slow leak of funds. I have picked up an eCig though. It's been helping.

Need to get past that and realize that you take things one small step at a time.  You prioritize your woes and handle them. In fact almost everything you're complaining about rolls into the debt wall.

I understand all this...it is hard but I know it can be done.

I'm not meaning to complain, I just needed a vent after my boss yelling all morning :dance: I figured most of the peeps here share very similar ideas so this would be the best place to go! And in a way it has...

1.  Work on Health
2.  Ignore Parents/Boss/Old GFs
3.  Don't Give Up, remember you live in a World of Wonders

• I HAVE to get back on the "acquiring aesthetics" bandwagon. Gotta tell you that month or so of going to the gym I felt great! Since the breakup thought I hit the comfort food...
• Haha, the old GF thing can be done, parents can be done somewhat, ignoring my boss would be impossible but :lol:
  
• Agreed!

And speaking of First World Problems, you DO live in one of the most beautiful cities in the World.  Take the ferry to the Zoo!

I deadset haven't been to the zoo since 2000ish...I know where I'm taking my next date!

It is a beautiful city though. I've been to some "less fortunate" cities (Bangkok) and it's like chalk and cheese...

Cheer up bunny!

Thanks brah :)

[Iknorite]

This thread reminds me.. I need to test weed and have sex some day.

Oh well, back to watching Robot Chicken.

[telepete]

Keep at it buddy. Before uni hit I was a pretty good violinist. When something is bothering me I hide and play. Best stress killer is to find some time to do something your good at. You'll feel like a champ. Also, an ex of mine is in my close group of friends. It was weird but only for a bit. Now I get along with her better than when we were a couple.

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[JoeC]

Venting... ok
I hate it when my computer crashes due to BIOS problems that I have to fix weekly!!!!
I'm done.

[audioave10]

here is some good news for you...
You are ONLY 22 years old!

[Input Nirvana]

1.  Work on Health
2.  Ignore Parents/Boss/Old GFs
3.  Don't Give Up, remember you live in a World of Wonders

Everything else kinda works itself out.  

And speaking of First World Problems, you DO live in one of the most beautiful cities in the World.  Take the ferry to the Zoo!

Himynameisbunny:
I really like Ripsters post. What he is saying, is the "boiled down to brass tacks" advice of what's important in a persons entire life.
Input Nurvana translation of Ripsters points:
1-Take care of yourself.
2-Who cares about what other people think or want you to be? It's YOUR life.
3-Odds are drastically in favor you will wake up tomorrow, so you might as well work on being in a better spot than you are in today.

Everything DOES work itself out one way or another.

I'd like to offer, that you have absolutely 100% control of what you do, say, think, act, and can be anywhere doing anything with anyone...if you choose to be. It is fortunate you are already in a large world class city, that makes opportunities much easier to come by. Sydney girls seemed to like me, so I'm a big fan

Don't get too caught up in the minutiae of situations, have bigger long term goals. Do things you enjoy, and always be fully accountable to yourself. If you aren't honest with yourself, life will be a lot harder.

[Roguemaster8]

Graduated high school, worked a part time job, went in the Air Force, got discharged after 3 months due to medical reasons, and am now wasting life away as a cashier at Publix.
College and university cost money, something which I don't have much of. My grades weren't that great when I got out of high school, so scholarships and grants are hard to come by.

And gas costs ****ing $3.80 a gallon. And insurance is ridiculously high.

Alright, I'm done.

[cactux]

^ Believe me in the internet world you do not longer need to have a university degree nor a phd to become someone successful. Times are hard in the states, but man there are planty of oportunities out there in some other countries. Keep your eyes open and you will see :-)

good luck and never give up

[JoeC]

OK, now THAT is a First World Problem.

continuation venting...
BIOS was never updated according to manufacturer.
...Things that make you go 'FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU'
20 hours later, It's updated, reconfigured, and most importantly, I spent a lot of stress on it.

[zirb]

[...]
good luck and never give up

This is the perfect quote for this thread.

Stay strong!

[glossywhite]

This poor guy is quite obviously in distress, and yet all you give him is a crossfire of nerd ego battles? You're brilliant with keyboards, but not so hot with the emotional support side. Not everyone is, but I'd suggest keeping it zipped, until you consider how you would feel, coming from the same perspective as he is.

Don't worsen his suffering by bickering over your inherent self-image induced ego insecurities. Being a man is about compassion and understanding, shutting up and listening when someone else is in trouble, not bombarding them with ill-conceived "advice" and telling them what mistakes they're making. A calmer, sympathising approach is what is needed.

Smoking weed helps me a lot

Really? Maybe you'd pass on to him the wisdom that this chemically (read: synthetic, counterfeit) induced "wisdom" has enlightened you to, then? Smoking weed numbs the mind, which masks the problems, which is as much "help" as painting over rust: it's still there, still eating away, but you just don't see it... for now.

Too many egos in here, fighting to be seen as the champion. You're missing the point entirely, when it boils down to it, as being a man IS NOT about who's toughest, who knows most about what, or how to get "revenge" on someone who hurled an insult at you. Being a man is about learning how to forgive those who intentionally hurt you, shut your own ego and opinions off, think how to detach your ego from the situation, and think calmly about the hurt and distress that a fellow human being is going through, and then trying to help them. Selflessness is what is required, and yes - that's a big hurdle to get over if you've been conditioned by a society to live that way, but we should know better.

There's no escaping the grace and eternal love of God, and if you are struggling, OP, then as much as I am against "converting" people to Christianity or in any way ramming it down your throat, look at these problems from God's perspective - they're nothing to him, creator of everything you can see, and everything you can't. He created atoms themselves, he created natural laws, nature itself, the forces that govern EVERYTHING and the people that we are. If he can do all that, then I'm certain he can help you with what seems to be insurmountable strife and depressing burdens upon you.

I'm not into religion, I am into God. He's my guide, not a grouping or a common (and often wrong) mindset

"Unforgiveness is like drinking poison, but expecting your enemy to drop dead"

Bless you

[squarebox]

[FinancialWar]

Girlfriends are overrated. My hands does the job and are so much cheaper.

[Typhaeon]

You never considered proposing an open relationship to your girl when she started to notably get bored of you?  Oh well.  Perhaps that'll crop up when you learn to become friends again, in a slightly different way.

[sth]

This poor guy is quite obviously in distress, and yet all you give him is a crossfire of nerd ego battles? You're brilliant with keyboards, but not so hot with the emotional support side. Not everyone is, but I'd suggest keeping it zipped, until you consider how you would feel, coming from the same perspective as he is.

Don't worsen his suffering by bickering over your inherent self-image induced ego insecurities. Being a man is about compassion and understanding, shutting up and listening when someone else is in trouble, not bombarding them with ill-conceived "advice" and telling them what mistakes they're making. A calmer, sympathising approach is what is needed.



Really? Maybe you'd pass on to him the wisdom that this chemically (read: synthetic, counterfeit) induced "wisdom" has enlightened you to, then? Smoking weed numbs the mind, which masks the problems, which is as much "help" as painting over rust: it's still there, still eating away, but you just don't see it... for now.

Too many egos in here, fighting to be seen as the champion. You're missing the point entirely, when it boils down to it, as being a man IS NOT about who's toughest, who knows most about what, or how to get "revenge" on someone who hurled an insult at you. Being a man is about learning how to forgive those who intentionally hurt you, shut your own ego and opinions off, think how to detach your ego from the situation, and think calmly about the hurt and distress that a fellow human being is going through, and then trying to help them. Selflessness is what is required, and yes - that's a big hurdle to get over if you've been conditioned by a society to live that way, but we should know better.

There's no escaping the grace and eternal love of God, and if you are struggling, OP, then as much as I am against "converting" people to Christianity or in any way ramming it down your throat, look at these problems from God's perspective - they're nothing to him, creator of everything you can see, and everything you can't. He created atoms themselves, he created natural laws, nature itself, the forces that govern EVERYTHING and the people that we are. If he can do all that, then I'm certain he can help you with what seems to be insurmountable strife and depressing burdens upon you.

I'm not into religion, I am into God. He's my guide, not a grouping or a common (and often wrong) mindset

"Unforgiveness is like drinking poison, but expecting your enemy to drop dead"

Bless you

Hey man,













shut up.

[Typhaeon]

The signature completes it.

[glossywhite]

I wonder if he is still banned at Deskthority.net.

Even I know that God is a dirty word to Europeans.

Hey, I'm European... I'm British. That's such a silly thing to say, but you're entitled to think that God only exists outside Europe, if you're happy with that irrational logic. You make that such a sweeping statement, as if you're speaking for everyone on Europe, which is pretty ignorant a thing to say, let alone plain ridiculous. It shows you're in denial of God, nothing else, as on all other counts you seem to be an extremely intelligent and courteous person.

Hey, if you're in denial, fair enough. God still loves you. You can't prove a keyboard had a creator, you see signs... but you have NO proof... you didn't witness it being created but you believe it, regardless. So why is believing in someone who created the universe and all things in it SO hard to grasp? Evolution you'll say... to which I ask this: Would you say it was feasible that an explosion in a plastic granule silo caused a keyboard moulding to, by some amazing coincidence, form, out of the blue, fully formed and functional? You'd say I was insane... so why is that logic not applied to creation of the universe? Makes NO sense.

God exists, I cannot force you to believe, and nor does he want you to be forced. He still exists, however, and noone needs to prove it to you, as you have all the proof you need, all around you.

All the best

[Quarzac]

Hey, I'm European... I'm British. That's such a silly thing to say, but you're entitled to think that God only exists outside Europe, if you're happy with that irrational logic. You make that such a sweeping statement, as if you're speaking for everyone on Europe, which is pretty ignorant a thing to say, let alone plain ridiculous. It shows you're in denial of God, nothing else, as on all other counts you seem to be an extremely intelligent and courteous person.

Hey, if you're in denial, fair enough. God still loves you. You can't prove a keyboard had a creator, you see signs... but you have NO proof... you didn't witness it being created but you believe it, regardless. So why is believing in someone who created the universe and all things in it SO hard to grasp? Evolution you'll say... to which I ask this: Would you say it was feasible that an explosion in a plastic granule silo caused a keyboard moulding to, by some amazing coincidence, form, out of the blue, fully formed and functional? You'd say I was insane... so why is that logic not applied to creation of the universe? Makes NO sense.

God exists, I cannot force you to believe, and nor does he want you to be forced. He still exists, however, and noone needs to prove it to you, as you have all the proof you need, all around you.

All the best

Please take your religious zealotry elsewhere. It never fails to cause debate, and this is hardly the place for it. I'm sure that if the OP could fine solace in God, he would have done so instead of posting here. Instead, he came looking for tangible support. So don't tell him to lean on a potentially imaginary shoulder, and instead lend him your own.

[squarebox]

Christians are the only religion that force their religion down other people's throat.
Yet, Christians always see Muslims/Islam are bad/evil religion when the Qur'an and Bible are very similar, even their teachings are similar just that they believe in the prophet, just like Catholics who believe in Mary.

[isp]

I wish god would come get his people so the rest of us could live in peace....

no more proselytizing!

[keyboardlover]

So are people allowed to vent in this thread or are they still getting called ****s?

Btw, I'm a Christian but I don't force my religion down anyone's throat. I ain't no ****.

Actually though, the Quran and the Bible couldn't be more dissimilar.

[squarebox]

That seems to be a strongly bias site... Indifferent to Christ hating sites that post about contradictions and more...

I live in a multi racial and cultural country which allow the freedom to practicing any religion, and yet Christians are the only ones that try to force their crap down on me.
Islam, buddhism, hindism never once approach me only to piss me off.
If I want to believe in your god(s), I would walk in due to free will.

[Wildcard]

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aaaaaarh.

I know. And those 3d click clack keys were pretty cool

This is kind of funny, while doing some research today we came across what I believe is the best alias for an online criminal

"Optimus Crime"

haha

[Wildcard]

Girlfriends are overrated. My hands does the job and are so much cheaper.

If you're paying your girlfriend, well then lets just say you might be dating a "professional"

BTW, the reply with quote has you on record now, until the next site roll back.

[squarebox]

If you're paying your girlfriend, well then lets just say you might be dating a "professional"

BTW, the reply with quote has you on record now, until the next site roll back.

I like how this post looks especially with your avatar

[Typhaeon]

You always do end up paying literal money in relationships, even if they aren't transactional in nature.  I was going to type "it's just the price of admission," but that might have some unfortunate connotations, so I'll settle with "you both engage in more than a little bit of give and take, financially or otherwise."

Wait, that isn't much better, is it?

[Tycn]

Sorry to hear about your predicament bro.

You seem like a resourceful chap, I'm sure everything will sort itself out.