Sorry you've taken offence fella, but you been completely absent here. You didn't confirm postage. Nothing. Quite a while between initially paying and your subsequent request for postage. No confirmation. Then a month goes by. For all I know you didn't get any of my payments.
I've been bumped a few times for being too easy going and too trusting and lost my money. How many times must a person let their trust be abused. With eBay at least I realise that one has to be straight in there or lose out. I have very much less patience these days than I used to.
And I was right wasn't I? They were missing. That's not my fault either.
I've run, or administered or overseen, a few group buys for my own club. Busy or not, I don't leave people uninformed. Anyway if I did the crap hits the fan quite fast. I also over see the classifieds and recently I had to ban someone for taking payments and not sending good to some of the people. He'd been member for a while and was trusted. I had to prepare to use cops and lawyers and it wasted my time. Not for the first time either, we successfully sued another trusted member before as he did a group buy, took the money and didn't send any goods. And I just recalled a few times more, it causes a load of aggro for months first usually while we try and get their good delivered or money back. I'm grumpy old man now with a harsh temperament toward this kind of thing.
Now what we normally do for group buys is the club collects the payments and pays for the goods. I'm doing one now for shock absorber kits, £300 for a set of Koni, 12 people on the list. That's a big risk for member of a club to just trust another member and too big a risk from my (the clubs) point of view to trust member with that much in light of what's happened before. And if someone drops out it's not a problem, and there usually a queue for spares, as there was with these Korean Stickers. Earlier this year we did one for bespoke stainless 4 into 1 exhaust manifolds, eventually it grew to 27 or so people in all so I bought 30. All non profit just to help the community.