What's Bothering You? (The thread about what is bothering you.)

[Belfong]

Turning 30 in just over a week.  Still have no clue what I'm going to do.  It's made worse that most of my friends are still in Seattle and most of the people I've met down here are fake as ****, offensively ultra-conservative,  and/or hyper-religious.

I suppose you don't mean you don't know what to do during your birthday but more of don't know what to do now that you are turning 30. I used to be very bothered that I am turning 30 and realised I have spent 30 years of my life doing nothing of consequence. After some soul searching, I have to tell you that religion helps. It does, in a way  )  And then you turn 40 and the same question will come up again. Life's a *****!

[nubbinator]

Turning 30 in just over a week.  Still have no clue what I'm going to do.  It's made worse that most of my friends are still in Seattle and most of the people I've met down here are fake as ****, offensively ultra-conservative,  and/or hyper-religious.

I suppose you don't mean you don't know what to do during your birthday but more of don't know what to do now that you are turning 30. I used to be very bothered that I am turning 30 and realised I have spent 30 years of my life doing nothing of consequence. After some soul searching, I have to tell you that religion helps. It does, in a way  )  And then you turn 40 and the same question will come up again. Life's a *****!

No, it really is a case of I actually have no clue what to do.  I still don't have much in the way of friends down here and I desperately need a real break from work since it's driving me insane.  I'm still trying to figure out how to meet good people down here, something easier said than done.  So I'm sitting here realizing I need some sort of break and want to do something for the 30 milestone, but also realize the only people I really want to share it with are thousands of miles away from me.

I've never really been bothered by aging, what I'm doing with my life, and so on.  I've found that if I'm happy with who I am and live in the moment, there's nothing more I can ask.  As for religion, well, I would never want to take it away from someone who needed it to be fulfilled with their life, but it's not for me.  Spirituality, living in the moment, centering yourself, those are all things I can appreciate, but religion isn't my cup of tea.

[swimmingbird]

Turning 30 in just over a week.  Still have no clue what I'm going to do.  It's made worse that most of my friends are still in Seattle and most of the people I've met down here are fake as ****, offensively ultra-conservative,  and/or hyper-religious.

I suppose you don't mean you don't know what to do during your birthday but more of don't know what to do now that you are turning 30. I used to be very bothered that I am turning 30 and realised I have spent 30 years of my life doing nothing of consequence. After some soul searching, I have to tell you that religion helps. It does, in a way  )  And then you turn 40 and the same question will come up again. Life's a *****!

No, it really is a case of I actually have no clue what to do.  I still don't have much in the way of friends down here and I desperately need a real break from work since it's driving me insane.  I'm still trying to figure out how to meet good people down here, something easier said than done.  So I'm sitting here realizing I need some sort of break and want to do something for the 30 milestone, but also realize the only people I really want to share it with are thousands of miles away from me.

I've never really been bothered by aging, what I'm doing with my life, and so on.  I've found that if I'm happy with who I am and live in the moment, there's nothing more I can ask.  As for religion, well, I would never want to take it away from someone who needed it to be fulfilled with their life, but it's not for me.  Spirituality, living in the moment, centering yourself, those are all things I can appreciate, but religion isn't my cup of tea.

You should take some time off if you can - doesn't sound like you're in a good situation at all 

[nubbinator]

Well, I did take the week off.  Maybe I'll just go shooting and get a massage.

[beehatch]

Well, I did take the week off.  Maybe I'll just go shooting and get a massage.

So are you paying for a massage or looking for volunteers?

[Belfong]

Ah, Hoffman is your friend, if you like his beard. Or you could ask Bro Caps out for tea, exchanging ideas .. or stalk Clackman. You are in CA and so many of these great guys are within driving distance and you have no one to go out with?

If I have a week off, I would game all my backlog to completion. That's what I'd do.

[Belfong]

Well, I did take the week off.  Maybe I'll just go shooting and get a massage.

So are you paying for a massage or looking for volunteers?

THIS IS GONNA GET INTERESTING! Don't mind me here.

[swimmingbird]

Well, I did take the week off.  Maybe I'll just go shooting and get a massage.

Do it at the same time for extra relax points 

[beehatch]

Well, I did take the week off.  Maybe I'll just go shooting and get a massage.

Do it at the same time for extra relax points 

Grosssssssssssssssss

[swimmingbird]

Well, I did take the week off.  Maybe I'll just go shooting and get a massage.

Do it at the same time for extra relax points 

Grosssssssssssssssss

Oh I actuallly meant firing guns while being massaged.

Not his love gun  )

[Floody]

Girl who set up a date and went ghost just came back. Don't know what to do. Tbh don't remember much about her

[rowdy]

Well, I did take the week off.  Maybe I'll just go shooting and get a massage.

So are you paying for a massage or looking for volunteers?

Are you offering?

[atlas3686]

Customs...    Finally got my PBT topre spacebars and customs charges me 100% duties, they marked it as "textiles" (which carries some of our highest duties). Gotta be the most expensive spacebars ever! At least they look and work well 

[jd29]

I'm not sure if I should quit art. I'm reading posts by people on Deviantart and such who've practiced ten hours a day for years and still suck. I can't afford that kind of time. Figuring 10,000 hours of hard, focused study to git gud, I'll have to put in six hours every day for the next five years. And in a few years I'll probably be working ten hour workdays. And I also want to get married and have kids. The math is against me.

I don't want to spend all my free time in college doing this only to later find out that I'm not going to make it. I wish I had started studying back in grade school, when I did have a ton of time to spare...

As of now, it looks like my best shot is to be an engineer for a few years, live really frugally, and then take the money I save to go live in the mountains or something while I practice. But then what will interviewers think when I return to the workforce? Will they be cool with that massive gap in my history?

[fanpeople]

I'm not sure if I should quit art. I'm reading posts by people on Deviantart and such who've practiced ten hours a day for years and still suck. I can't afford that kind of time. Figuring 10,000 hours of hard, focused study to git gud, I'll have to put in six hours every day for the next five years. And in a few years I'll probably be working ten hour workdays. And I also want to get married and have kids. The math is against me.

I don't want to spend all my free time in college doing this only to later find out that I'm not going to make it. I wish I had started studying back in grade school, when I did have a ton of time to spare...

As of now, it looks like my best shot is to be an engineer for a few years, live really frugally, and then take the money I save to go live in the mountains or something while I practice. But then what will interviewers think when I return to the workforce? Will they be cool with that massive gap in my history?

Cant you become an engineer and do art stuff in your spare time, for the love and enjoyment of art? Isn't becoming an engineer a passion in itself?

[jd29]

Cant you become an engineer and do art stuff in your spare time, for the love and enjoyment of art? Isn't becoming an engineer a passion in itself?

I don't know. I think I'm just ranting because I'm very afraid I'll always be mediocre. I do enjoy drawing, but for this the destination is more important than the journey. If I'm never good, my effort will have been wasted. I'm even more afraid that, by the time I'm good, the passion will be gone. 10,000 hours is a lot of time to give to something and still have love for it. There are so many competent artists online that put up just a dozen or so pieces before disappearing. Why weren't they more prolific? Did they put in the time just for the sake of getting there only to realize that they stopped caring long ago?

I'll keep practicing, when I can.

[E3E]

Cant you become an engineer and do art stuff in your spare time, for the love and enjoyment of art? Isn't becoming an engineer a passion in itself?

I don't know. I think I'm just ranting because I'm very afraid I'll always be mediocre. I do enjoy drawing, but for this the destination is more important than the journey. If I'm never good, my effort will have been wasted. I'm even more afraid that, by the time I'm good, the passion will be gone. 10,000 hours is a lot of time to give to something and still have love for it. There are so many competent artists online that put up just a dozen or so pieces before disappearing. Why weren't they more prolific? Did they put in the time just for the sake of getting there only to realize that they stopped caring long ago?

I'll keep practicing, when I can.

Dedication, discipline, and commitment are one of the most difficult aspects of doing anything yourself, whether it be starting and running your own business, sticking with a passion, teaching yourself a subject otherwise taught through a class (one of the hardest things to do, at least for me). A lot of people just aren't driven enough to stay persistent.

Thinking too far ahead is never good. Considering the hours you feel like you need to put in, imagining that such a long time frame will suck the passion out of you, and wondering why others stop so quickly... All of that sort of speculation is meaningless and only serves to manifest doubt, cutting yourself short before you even had a chance.

I know, it's tough. I find myself trapped in those mindsets too at times.

In the end, you just have to do it for yourself! I think a lot of the reason people stop uploading publicly is because they aren't getting attention and are becoming demotivated, perhaps feeling like they aren't improving. Ignore that aspect and just keep going, doing your best to learn new things, stick to what you are doing, and you will improve naturally. People tend to notice someone who's really driven and passionate too!

It's a super healthy mindset to be in, being invigorated and passionate, especially if it's coming from you alone out of creativity. So don't think about losing it! Just think about kindling it.

[Belfong]

Customs...    Finally got my PBT topre spacebars and customs charges me 100% duties, they marked it as "textiles" (which carries some of our highest duties). Gotta be the most expensive spacebars ever! At least they look and work well 

That sucks. At least it’s not a $200 clack that gets 100% duty. Ha ha ha.

[retrochick]

I've seemed to have lost/misplaced my trans-blue brobot v2 a couple weeks now. I has a sad. 

[HoffmanMyster]

This guy who has managed to post 70 completely inane comments today alone to get his post count up to join in on a bro sale.

Every single keycaps thread from three months ago has been revived with a ****ing pointless comment.

What a monumental waste of my morning.  Wellp, at least he's down to 9 posts now. 

No, it really is a case of I actually have no clue what to do.  I still don't have much in the way of friends down here and I desperately need a real break from work since it's driving me insane.  I'm still trying to figure out how to meet good people down here, something easier said than done.  So I'm sitting here realizing I need some sort of break and want to do something for the 30 milestone, but also realize the only people I really want to share it with are thousands of miles away from me.

I don't know how into blind man-dates you are, but my best friend just moved to Orange for school if you want someone to hang out with.  I'm sure he'd be okay with meeting someone new.  I should warn you though, he's not much of a beer or coffee drinker. 

[ice31000]

Acne. Never have I had such a self-confidence hit than from acne. I get frustrated every time I look in the mirror.

[iri]

Something filled with liquid, a bottle or a can. I don't know what that was exactly as the car was moving very fast, so the object flew by in a blink of an eye and probably fell into a river -- we were crossing a bridge. They missed a little and the liquid spilled in front of us.

I think it's a common thing here as it tends to happen with us every three months.

Russia or England?

UK.

Also people yelling at pedestrians and cyclists is quite annoying. A woman I know nearly fell off her bike while cycling along the street when a bypassing driver suddenly screamed at her.

There is a lot of hatred for cyclists on roads, rightly or wrongly. Unfortunately it's always the people doing nothing wrong who get all the ****.

In Russia everybody hates everybody, but I've never seen drivers who scream loudly at bypassing pedestrians in attempt to scare them. Here it seems to be the national pastime.

[SpAmRaY]

Worked right through lunch and now it's too late to eat and my head hurts.

[inanis]

Worked right through lunch and now it's too late to eat and my head hurts.

I have done this more times than I care to admit, and I always suffer for it. Take some aspirin, get some food and relax in the quite for a while. Hopefully the headache goes away soon. And make sure to drink plenty of water! It is the key to making those "I didn't eat anything" headaches go away.

[whmeltonjr]

Worked right through lunch and now it's too late to eat and my head hurts.

I work as an athletic director/summer camp director at a recreation facility, and I do this almost daily during the summer. Nothing like getting home and thinking to yourself that you haven't eaten all day.

What's bothering me is seeing the new posts page full of one liners from one user. I know Hoffman already deleted one round of them today, looks like another one is going now.

[nubbinator]

Worked right through lunch and now it's too late to eat and my head hurts.

I know that feeling.  It's 2:30 and I'm just now getting the chance to eat lunch.

[swimmingbird]

Worked right through lunch and now it's too late to eat and my head hurts.

I know that feeling.  It's 2:30 and I'm just now getting the chance to eat lunch.

I've found that you've got to set boundaries with yourself at work for this stuff because if you are willing to skip lunch, work late or whatever people will start expecting it of you and exploit the crap out of you

[noisyturtle]

Housing prices. Looking for a new place because I'm paying through the nose for a studio apartment right now, and I can't find anything remotely in the area for under $1200.
For a studio apartment, not even 1 bedroom. What the hell.

[nubbinator]

Worked right through lunch and now it's too late to eat and my head hurts.

I know that feeling.  It's 2:30 and I'm just now getting the chance to eat lunch.

I've found that you've got to set boundaries with yourself at work for this stuff because if you are willing to skip lunch, work late or whatever people will start expecting it of you and exploit the crap out of you

It's the exception for me.  Don't know about for Ray.  It's on the DL and only when I'm in the field since government jobs tend to be more strict about that kind of thing.

[raymogi]

The amount of thread getting necroed since the Monster Mash Sale announcement.

[SpAmRaY]

Worked right through lunch and now it's too late to eat and my head hurts.

I know that feeling.  It's 2:30 and I'm just now getting the chance to eat lunch.

I've found that you've got to set boundaries with yourself at work for this stuff because if you are willing to skip lunch, work late or whatever people will start expecting it of you and exploit the crap out of you

It's the exception for me.  Don't know about for Ray.  It's on the DL and only when I'm in the field since government jobs tend to be more strict about that kind of thing.

Oh yeah I'm one of those who eats at the same time everyday so its definitely not normal for me.

And I know I'm the last person the complain but all these spammers are awful, can we have a 20 posts per hour limit and then a time out?

[nubbinator]

The amount of thread getting necroed since the Monster Mash Sale announcement.

What, you don't like people making pointless comments and spamming?

[raymogi]

The amount of thread getting necroed since the Monster Mash Sale announcement.

What, you don't like people making pointless comments and spamming?

It gets old fast, nub

"welcome bro"

"look good bro"

"i wish i can get into the sale but i only have 10 post now"

[whmeltonjr]

HoffmanMyster may not feel this way, but it was entertaining for me to see one of those guys get all of his posts deleted and him be muted. He clearly didn't get the message though. Going around doing it again. It's really not that hard to actually post something meaningful.

[HoffmanMyster]

HoffmanMyster may not feel this way, but it was entertaining for me to see one of those guys get all of his posts deleted and him be muted. He clearly didn't get the message though. Going around doing it again. It's really not that hard to actually post something meaningful.

It's certainly not at the top of my list of desired activities after an 11 hour work day. 

But I can understand how it's entertaining. 

[SpAmRaY]

What bugs me is people who say they are going to buy something then don't. This is how you get on my don't deal with again list. 

[alienman82]

removed.

[romevi]

What bugs me is people who say they are going to buy something then don't. This is how you get on my don't deal with again list. 

I know!  Someone made arrangements to meet me in person to save on shipping then called it off after I adjusted my schedule for them the day of.  Really made me mad

I can understand interest checks, but yeah, full-fledged deals? The worst. I've had a few Craigslist no-shows where I had to rearrange my whole day.

[SpAmRaY]

What bugs me is people who say they are going to buy something then don't. This is how you get on my don't deal with again list. 

I know!  Someone made arrangements to meet me in person to save on shipping then called it off after I adjusted my schedule for them the day of.  Really made me mad

Yeah my wife used to try to buy/sell locally through some of these mommy facebook groups and people would pull that crap all the time, finally I told her it wasn't worth her time to even mess with them.

[whmeltonjr]

What bugs me is people who say they are going to buy something then don't. This is how you get on my don't deal with again list. 

I hope I'm not on your don't deal list by not taking the freebie you offered up.  I just didn't want to take something that someone else could potentially use.

[SpAmRaY]

What bugs me is people who say they are going to buy something then don't. This is how you get on my don't deal with again list. 

I hope I'm not on your don't deal list by not taking the freebie you offered up.  I just didn't want to take something that someone else could potentially use.

Oh no that was totally unrelated.

[RenegadeParadox]

The mail man who refuses to use my doorbell or knock on my door, deciding instead its easier to just slip a note in my mail box to pick up my artisans at the local office. This is literally the 3rd time I have been home and been checking my door and he didn't ring the bell. It's like he is trying to ninja me out of my packages at this point.

[asdfjkl36]

Newegg Returns.

Bought an In-Win 909 Case from them (Some crazty ****.) for $450 (Sarah's case she wanted to get even though i told her it was a bad idea )

Ended up being too big and heavy (as i thought) and now we're gonna return it.

Newegg takes 15%!!! GADDAAAMN!!! That's like $70 right there.

The box was opened and then the case was taken out and then put back in.

$70 bucks to open the box pretty much.

I hate my life -___-


At least i got them to waive the return shipping cost? 

[HoffmanMyster]

Newegg Returns.

Bought an In-Win 909 Case from them (Some crazty ****.) for $450 (Sarah's case she wanted to get even though i told her it was a bad idea )

Ended up being too big and heavy (as i thought) and now we're gonna return it.

Newegg takes 15%!!! GADDAAAMN!!! That's like $70 right there.

The box was opened and then the case was taken out and then put back in.

$70 bucks to open the box pretty much.

I hate my life -___-


At least i got them to waive the return shipping cost? 

Sorry to say it, but people have become a bit too accustomed to just not paying for things.  Could you imagine running your own store and having people buy things only to return them later, expecting you to accept the risk/cost associated with that?  Granted, this is a huge corporation that can absorb the cost, but that shouldn't really change the principle of the idea.  If they didn't charge you, they would have to add that cost to the base price of all their products, and then we'd all be paying for a few people's indecisiveness / poor decisions.  :-/  I know that's not really what you want to hear right now, so sorry. 

[asdfjkl36]

Sorry to say it, but people have become a bit too accustomed to just not paying for things.  Could you imagine running your own store and having people buy things only to return them later, expecting you to accept the risk/cost associated with that?  Granted, this is a huge corporation that can absorb the cost, but that shouldn't really change the principle of the idea.  If they didn't charge you, they would have to add that cost to the base price of all their products, and then we'd all be paying for a few people's indecisiveness / poor decisions.  :-/  I know that's not really what you want to hear right now, so sorry. 

It actually makes me feel better.
I always forget these kinds of things.

Of course, I'm a bit bias since my experience with Newegg has only gone down hill over the years.
I would understand paying for the shipping, but i feel like in the situation of me simply having it opened, I shouldnt have to pay a restock (or at least if it was lower i'd be fine).


But of course, i'll just do it anyway and it's worth it in the end to end up with a more reasonable case

[skycrimes]

So my college never told me I'm missing 4 credits and technically haven't graduated even though I graduated a year and a half ago. Worst part is the 4 credits are for pure electives since I've completed all the requirements for generals/major/minor. Gonna talk to them tomorrow - hopefully I don't have to take a course(s) for the remaining credits because not having a diploma is going to make applying for law school pretty hard.

Then again doing an online language course could be cool since I've been wanting to work on learning a new one. Also if this causes issues in applying to law school I mean I guess that gives me more time to hopefully get a 99th percentile score.

 

[dutC4]

 

[asdfjkl36]

You're spot on with that. People get really used to dealing with the few companies that can afford to hand you all your money back with a smile and then, unless it's a sealed return, throw away your item or try to sell it discounted. I'm sure people running small businesses get really frustrated because everyone expects it now. Not to mention that even though the item is free shipping, it's not free for newegg, that money is going out of what they make off the case. The restocking fee helps recuperate some of the cost of shipping a bulky forty pound chunk of metal. Also, holy crap! That's a lot of money for a case.

Yea. A business like Newegg i dont care about really. Smaller local places I'm completely understanding of.
Again, my item is in perfect condition and all it has is the box was opened. I'd gladly pay for shipping if the restock was a lot smaller of a percentage.

And yes. I told Sarah that it was an unnecessary amount for a case, but it was what she wanted and we had already planned it for some time now so it wasnt just a random purchase. I'd never spend that much on a case, or even a single component haha.

[suicidal_orange]

I have a Bro dibs ticket.  I really want a Hallowed Grumpkin - just that one.  The other caps are great and I'd happily add away if it were a raffle and I could have the joy of "winning" them (I'd go for three) but should I gamble and not use dibs and risk missing out on the Grumpkin or "waste" my dibs on a single cap when it's good for a cart-full?  Or should I become that guy I've always looked down on who buys lots with the intention of trading away on arrival?

It's a completely different feeling to the normal "I want that cap but probably won't get it" and I really don't like it

[E3E]

I have a Bro dibs ticket.  I really want a Hallowed Grumpkin - just that one.  The other caps are great and I'd happily add away if it were a raffle and I could have the joy of "winning" them (I'd go for three) but should I gamble and not use dibs and risk missing out on the Grumpkin or "waste" my dibs on a single cap when it's good for a cart-full?  Or should I become that guy I've always looked down on who buys lots with the intention of trading away on arrival?

It's a completely different feeling to the normal "I want that cap but probably won't get it" and I really don't like it

As someone who isn't a big artisan guy but who has observed the market a little, I'd say get a whole batch of caps so that you have ammo for trading later. TBH, trading seems like a really fun aspect when it comes to artisans, bringing that damn '90s pokemon card vibe even closer to home, lol. Playing the market with the intent to sell is kind of lame.