I don't like rap music because it's slow and there's little, if any, actual music. I don't like dance because it's repetitive and every song has the same beat which means I tune most of it out and ignore it after about 10 seconds. Pop music is also repetitive and the relationship/love centric lyrics make me depreesd if I put in the effort not to tune it out (being reminded that I'm missing out on a big part of life by avoiding them) Classical is good but the slow, quiet and silent bits don't keep the legs moving on a cycle commute.
You'll probably struggle if that's how you look at it. I used to be in the same boat; mostly listened to metal/rock, thought a lot of rap had no musicality, thought dance music was repetitive and boring, etc. I only came to think otherwise via gateways; singular tracks from the aforementioned genres which caught my attention, which then opened me up to a few more, and so on and so on. Now rap (especially grime, drill, and some of the more experimental American stuff) is among my most listened to, and repetitive dance music makes up the majority of my collection. Coming to understand that complexity and density doesn't reflect musicality or rather, training my ears to think that way, expanded my listening a lot; some of the most
simple and silly tracks are some of my favourites. Energy and rhythm are what draw me to rap, not chord progressions. Repetition can be pretty powerful even outside of the club, it'll really put you in a trance if the track's right. Hell, don't you think a lot of metal's pretty repetitive?
Touching on what you said about pop music, you'll find a lot of people with similar thoughts gravitating towards rap and dance because of their instrumentality or because they touch directly on issues of mental health, depression, touch absence, etc.
You probably won't like them, but it's worth a shot. Fairly diverse assortment of things within rap/dance that you probably won't have come across or considered.
Repetitive dance with metal-ish sonicsHeavier than metalHeavier than metal w/ rapReptition->trance, ex. 1Reptition->trance, ex. 2Repetition->trance, ex. 3Unrepetitive dance, ex. 1Unrepetitive dance, ex. 2Reptitive beat, unrepetitive instrumentationAggressionAtypical rap, ex. 1Atypical rap, ex. 2Drill and trance meetParticularly weird dancehallMostly I listen to metal which avoids all of the above but surely there must be other options?
Beyond that, I'd say look towards folk, punk, and experimental stuff. Hell, even
dub might be up your alley. Too many genres to mention. I put stress on the dance/rap aspect because I've found that I've only really been able to appreciate a large quantity of genres
since listening to things differently and thought you might be in a similar position.