57 miles each way. 75-90 minute drive in the morning, 90-120 minute drive on the way home 
Commuter options really suck here.
Friday's I work from home.
Damn. Where abouts in CT do you live/work?
I live in Central CT and work in Stamford. So I have to drive through Bridgeport and Fairfield. First 40 miles takes about 40 minutes. The last 17/18 can take up to an hour.
Can't you move closer to your work? That sort of commuting sounds like a total nightmare Oo .
It's an option, but the closer to work I get the higher the housing costs. Also making my commute better would make the wife's worse. Son's doing well at this school, daughter has a great nanny. No sense in upsetting the apple cart. Plus with my luck I'd sell my house (which I don't really want to do anyway), buy a new one closer to work, and then immediately get laid off 
At least I don't have to deal with what noisyturtle goes through. Any farts are my own.
Hrrrrrmm... 4 hours commute..
Let's assume abjr makes $100,000 right now.. $75,000 after tax
Quits now, and finds a closer to home replacement job @ a paycut, $85,000, $63,750 after tax
Assuming abjr were going to tough out the long commute for 8 more years till the offsprings reach college..
That is only a $90,000 difference
But for it, lets say we go from 4 hours to 1 hour.. 250 work days * 3 hours * 8 years, 6000 hours of one's life..
Assuming one makes NO PROGRESS on increasing the salary in 8 years, (unlikely), that would only be $90,000
for 6000 Waking HOURS of one's life.. 
If --abjr-- is the industrious type and does not squander those hours.. with 6000 waking hours, he can master any upper level human skill.. want to be an
engineer?, boom, engineer,
chemist?, boom chemist,
Master-pimp?, boom Master-pimp