You could piece your own kit together if you wanted. Do you do PCB design? If so you could do it the "hard way" and start from the ground up.
QMK (firmware) is pretty good for split boards, and supports underglow/backlight. The learning curve isn't horrible if you have experience with coding and flashing. As far as parts go, if you design your own PCB you can obviously generate your own BOM with the packages/specs you decide on. Others have published their designs/BOMs/etc on github in some instances, but I can't get you any direct links for those atm. There's a few PCB tutorials around
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Discord servers are a good place to ask questions too,
the "official" r/mk one (most active users iirc) is pretty good for low/mid level questions (you can PM me on there if you'd like, I'm @hineybush#0069). There's many experienced PCB designers there including myself who don't have issues with helping out.
As far as going from the Ergodox link, Mouser/Digikey are good. For bulk components like resistors, caps, etc check out LCSC.