Its strange. I dont look at my phone when Im with people, because Id rather put all my focus on what they are doing/saying rather than some bull**** I dont really care about, or could care about later when Im not with them. My fiance has a clear addiction and spends so much time with her phone its kinda scary
Spoke with her about it and explain to her that when she pulls out her phone or looks at her tablet when Im speaking with her, that is a major insult to me. Because to me that signals that what ever is on the device is more interesting than what I have to say. She didnt see it that way and her only reason was the fact that everyone of her friends does that to her. Its normal and Im the odd one, the one who does not want to compete for peoples attention with a ****ing phone. Slowly she has come to agree with me (thank you lord), but still isnt offended enough to say anything to her friends. When I do people act shocked, like they never even considered the fact that they are taking attention away from being social.
Ive said for a long time that social media and stuff like 9gag/instagram makes you a passive observer. Nothing wrong with that but when that becomes your main hobby, the thing you spend MOST of your free time doing its a serious issue. Im sure that is going to become the next smoking, the thing that damages the next generation. The end result would be lack of concentration or focus, because its so easy and take so little effort to entertain yourself. At least to a point were you arent bored out of your mind. All you get is a instant fix, one click, see one image, get an emotion, hold it for 0.01sec, release it, and never look back or remember it again. Then you get the next image instantly and you repeat for hours and hours. I believe this numbs your brain and being a passive observer for too long will make doing anything but being passive a task that demands too much effort. To a point that making a comment on someones post is the same social interaction and any long term goals gets too far away, making any task that demands too much focused concentration unattainable in the end. The end of learning anything hard or time consuming
Was at a party with one of my friends who I caught scrolling 9gag, so I took his phone out of his hand (its super easy, people who scroll dont really hold on to their phone and have NO ****ING CLUE what is going on around them) and said he would get it back when I left. He felt ashamed and didnt really complain, but he couldnt stop thinking about his phone. Was like having a ****ing puppy stalking you because you smelled like bacon... AND HE IS A GROWN ****ING MAN!
/end rant
I find rants of this type to be self-serving and unfair to the younger generation.
Let me first say, I never look at the fone unless I have to.. I just don't enjoy the squinting, it gives me wrinkles..
However, one must realize, BEFORE we had fones, people had always had a drink in their hands.. WHY ?
Because AFK interactions are fundamentally not that interesting. While you are out with people, the majority of the time, you're actually just -bored- despite being -in the company of others-...
There's a reason why the younger generation pull out their fones, it's their way of taking a sip from the glass of booze..
The modern human handles a tremendous amount of data.. Real life doesn't offer up content fast enough.. Things don't happen "information-ally" as quickly..
AFK parties -without alcohol / strippers - are just boring..
Is this due to the fact that we're now completely adjusted to Async information.. YES, but make no mistake ... THIS IS PROGRESS.
AFK is a waste of time,
the majority of the time.. I'm glad afk is waning, just as I'm glad the living room is dead..
AT the end of the day, Humans are now processing more data than Ever on an individual basis..
If you feel personally offended, ask yourself, are you as interesting as Reddit. There's no one to blame.. That is just the state of our technology.
If your argument is, hey, we both made the commitment, and taken to the expense to be here together, we should respect the effort and investment made to do this.. YES.. that's fine..
But--- have you considered, the mistake is NOT when that kid pulls out his fone, the mistake was, the two of you should've never gone out and instead just stayed home to text each other...