Anger management

[PollandAkuma]

I seem to have issues with this, I remember once I just threw my phone and stepped on it and the screen broke to pieces... Can anyone suggest some ways to help me manage my anger so that I don't feel like a timed bomb?

[SpAmRaY]

Type on an IBM it can take the abuse.

[Geroximo]

Throw and break cheap stuff instead of smartphones ...

[E3E]

Or you can do what itzmeluigi did to a HHKB2 he bought and whip the keys with the USB cable and shatter them to pieces.

[dante]

I've found that I'm very susceptible to anger if I'm consuming too much protein; specifically beef.

[tp4tissue]

I've found that I'm very susceptible to anger if I'm consuming too much protein; specifically beef.

hahahahahahahah... whaaaaaaa........!!!

[dante]

I've found that I'm very susceptible to anger if I'm consuming too much protein; specifically beef.

hahahahahahahah... whaaaaaaa........!!!

Can't say it will work for everyone.   I can eat a lot of chicken and have no problems but beef ... HULK SMASH ...

[tp4tissue]

If your type of anger is Habitual,  then you need to begin developing a counter-ritual..

--Do something mild to trigger your anger

--- Take a step back, slow down, analyze that feeling in the moment,

---- Begin THINKING-ABOUT,  at this moment, TO THINK ABOUT, a solution to the trigger,  -Rather- than engage in any manifestation of the emotion which is unproductive, such as physical violence.

-----  Replay these steps in your mind, and whenever you've been triggered,  Remember to think about the solution rather than give in to a hissy-fit.



If your type of anger is a physiological deficit, a short chain somewhere in your brain,   then the only hope is medication.   See if you can get an FMRI, or some sort of brain scan done.. Don't know if you got insurance that covers this..

Whatever you do , DO NOT go to a general psychiatrist.  The majority of those are just pill-pushers, and it's nearly impossible to determine the good doctor from bad..

[tp4tissue]

I've found that I'm very susceptible to anger if I'm consuming too much protein; specifically beef.

hahahahahahahah... whaaaaaaa........!!!

Can't say it will work for everyone.   I can eat a lot of chicken and have no problems but beef ... HULK SMASH ...

Hrrrrrmmmmmmmmmm...  I suppose it's possible that your body responds sharply to the hormones... Although I'm not sure if a medically significant quantity can enter your blood stream within the quantity of beef you'd consume..

Perhaps if you ate beef all week..

[Jokrik]

I seem to have issues with this, I remember once I just threw my phone and stepped on it and the screen broke to pieces... Can anyone suggest some ways to help me manage my anger so that I don't feel like a timed bomb?

The problem with mind is that you have to trick the way you think to fix it

I know this sounds confusing, it will be easier to break it down by points
1. You must know what is your triggering point, and when is it
2. How long is your recovery when you get triggered
3. Write it all down in a note
4. Get back to the note when you are better, reflect back and think like an engineer as how to trick the situation
3. When it started to effect the people around you or the people who you love most, seek some help from a professional

I know this because I read a lot of psychological book, I might not be an expert but those points will get you started

Remember it will take time, don't be frustrated or give up half way

and deep breath always help, really

[audax989]

I always resort to my keyboards to kind of take my mind off of things. 

[tp4tissue]

I always resort to my keyboards to kind of take my mind off of things. 

p o r n h u b . c o m


I see what you did there.. 

[fanpeople]

I was like this. I smashed a samsung galaxy s4 when it was about 6 months into a 24 month contract because my wife was pissing me off about something. I also used to punch holes in doors and i smashed a keyboaed once with clenched fists of anger (was a ****tly wireless). I was kind of a silent explosion. I never yelled or anything just got angery, could not control or vent it then bang id break something.

I just eventally stopped giving a  **** about anything and my anger issues stopped. I dont know what exactly changed but something did i dont break **** anymore.

My issues were communication though. Ie i did my want to communicate my anger so i would just get to a point where i would have a physical spazm.

[Elrick]

Remember it will take time, don't be frustrated or give up half way

Exactly in a pub it will take time to smash your opponent's head in with an empty bottle then rub his face in the glass shards upon the table top.

and deep breath always help, really

Only after shredding his face into pieces everywhere then rubbing his blood all over your body, that concludes your victory over the now lifeless corpse that lays before you  .

[fublamchu]

Or you can do what itzmeluigi did to a HHKB2 he bought and whip the keys with the USB cable and shatter them to pieces.

wut... context?

[dante]

I seem to have issues with this, I remember once I just threw my phone and stepped on it and the screen broke to pieces... Can anyone suggest some ways to help me manage my anger so that I don't feel like a timed bomb?

I was like this. I smashed a samsung galaxy s4 when it was about 6 months into a 24 month contract because my wife was pissing me off about something. I also used to punch holes in doors and i smashed a keyboaed once with clenched fists of anger (was a ****tly wireless). I was kind of a silent explosion. I never yelled or anything just got angery, could not control or vent it then bang id break something.

I just eventally stopped giving a  **** about anything and my anger issues stopped. I dont know what exactly changed but something did i dont break **** anymore.

My issues were communication though. Ie i did my want to communicate my anger so i would just get to a point where i would have a physical spazm.

This is why I still use a flip phone.  All you smart phone users are insane to put up with perpetually beta technology.

[Elrick]

My issues were communication though. Ie i did my want to communicate my anger so i would just get to a point where i would have a physical spazm.

Nothing beats a fist to the face or jaw and even a kicked head, when your opponent falls to the floor.

We as men have always had that ability to EXPLODE when confronted with meaningless people around us, just let loose and appreciate the fear upon your fellow species  .

[pixelpusher]

I seem to have issues with this, I remember once I just threw my phone and stepped on it and the screen broke to pieces... Can anyone suggest some ways to help me manage my anger so that I don't feel like a timed bomb?

Yeah it never really gets better unless you do something about it, and even then I still struggle.  It's always just been my nature and I see it in my son as well.  Exercise helps some to naturally release stress. It usually relates to my general mood.  If I'm in a good mood and hit a snag in life I'm aokay, but if I'm already stressed or really focused on solving a problem (like when I realize that I didn't clip the stabilizers on the backspace of my otherwise favorite board ever) I'm prone to go into a rage in no time flat.

I'll say that exercise and learning to leave situations when you see it starting escalate is a good start

[fanpeople]

My issues were communication though. Ie i did my want to communicate my anger so i would just get to a point where i would have a physical spazm.

Nothing beats a fist to the face or jaw and even a kicked head, when your opponent falls to the floor.

We as men have always had that ability to EXPLODE when confronted with meaningless people around us, just let loose and appreciate the fear upon your fellow species  .

In one way its good becuase i am a ****ing jet at patching holes in walls now, but im also ****ing sick of the process haha

[tp4tissue]

I was like this. I smashed a samsung galaxy s4 when it was about 6 months into a 24 month contract because my wife was pissing me off about something. I also used to punch holes in doors and i smashed a keyboaed once with clenched fists of anger (was a ****tly wireless). I was kind of a silent explosion. I never yelled or anything just got angery, could not control or vent it then bang id break something.

I just eventally stopped giving a  **** about anything and my anger issues stopped. I dont know what exactly changed but something did i dont break **** anymore.

My issues were communication though. Ie i did my want to communicate my anger so i would just get to a point where i would have a physical spazm.

Wow, I'm surprised you didn't tell us you beat your wife..  oh wait..  is that case still open..

everyone....  shhhhhhhhhhhh.................

hahahahahahahahahhahahaha

[fanpeople]

I was like this. I smashed a samsung galaxy s4 when it was about 6 months into a 24 month contract because my wife was pissing me off about something. I also used to punch holes in doors and i smashed a keyboaed once with clenched fists of anger (was a ****tly wireless). I was kind of a silent explosion. I never yelled or anything just got angery, could not control or vent it then bang id break something.

I just eventally stopped giving a  **** about anything and my anger issues stopped. I dont know what exactly changed but something did i dont break **** anymore.

My issues were communication though. Ie i did my want to communicate my anger so i would just get to a point where i would have a physical spazm.

Wow, I'm surprised you didn't tell us you beat your wife..  oh wait..  is that case still open..

everyone....  shhhhhhhhhhhh.................

hahahahahahahahahhahahaha

Shhh tp cops monitor gh for the latest keycap sets for their cruisers

I have never even yelled at my wife once. I just rage in another room. She hit me a few times but its like butterflys landing on your body and i may have been activating her fear of small spaces with a blanket.

[tp4tissue]

Wow, I'm surprised you didn't tell us you beat your wife..  oh wait..  is that case still open..

everyone....  shhhhhhhhhhhh.................

hahahahahahahahahhahahaha

Shhh tp cops monitor gh for the latest keycap sets for their cruisers

I have never even yelled at my wife once. I just rage in another room. She hit me a few times but its like butterflys landing on your body and i may have been activating her fear of small spaces with a blanket.

Most intriguing...   This is getting more and more sinister..

[OfTheWild]

^^ every once in a while, TP has some profound input  )

[tp4tissue]

^^ every once in a while, TP has some profound input  )

People live very fulfilled lives these days..

That pushes them towards extreme- excursions..

You never know what crazy stuff they're all in to..


Meanwhile.. Tp4 sits @ PC, watch movies, while eating the white rice..

[fohat.digs]

Counting to 10 before acting violently is always good.

Exercise and meditation are good for reducing overall stress levels in general.

[PollandAkuma]

Meanwhile.. Tp4 sits @ PC, watch movies, while eating the white rice..

 ) Thanks for making me laugh

[PollandAkuma]

Thanks for all your advices, I figured the reason why I get mad is because I think that it is a way in which I can be "in control" of a situation. Just like a certain someone in my life 

[OfTheWild]

[tp4tissue]

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Ok..

Gotta step back a moment and explain the self help industry.

They design books around general half-truths.


What this allows people to do , is read into a pick your poison situation, where you merely find what you agree with.   



These books are not realistic treatments,  because they simply can not be designed for your personal idiosyncrasies, which may need alteration/ modification for a certain maladaptive condition to improve.

Self-Help books are written as GENERAL as possible to cover the widest audience possible, only offering the most superficial of incite/ help..


This is in contrast to how the Majority of psychiatric problems actually need very detailed and custom-tailored solutions.

[atarione]

well... if you live long enough eventually you will run out of f***s to give about a lot of stuff


man since I turned 45 I just do not give a goodly god d*** about a lot of stuff that would have sent me into a rage in the past.

I've had a fair bit of anger issues in the past... and I honestly can't think of one time where blowing up actually made stuff better.    Now if people tick me off I'm super calm about it and all but I hold my ground and 100% of the time so far, people have backed off..     Being 6'2" 250lbs and totally calm but assertive that whatever isn't gong to work, seems to make people think about what to do.

One thing I did.... I just stopped telling myself I have a short temper... and I learned to just smirk and let things go when people are being d*cks .... rather than reacting to it..   The idea of taking a minute before reacting in anger is good also...

also ...I have found headphones help    no seriously put on headphones and people leave you be mostly and you don't have to listen to their inane blabbering. 

[tp4tissue]

well... if you live long enough eventually you will run out of f***s to give about a lot of stuff


man since I turned 45 I just do not give a goodly god d*** about a lot of stuff that would have sent me into a rage in the past.

I've had a fair bit of anger issues in the past... and I honestly can't think of one time where blowing up actually made stuff better.    Now if people tick me off I'm super calm about it and all but I hold my ground and 100% of the time so far, people have backed off..     Being 6'2" 250lbs and totally calm but assertive that whatever isn't gong to work, seems to make people think about what to do.

One thing I did.... I just stopped telling myself I have a short temper... and I learned to just smirk and let things go when people are being d*cks .... rather than reacting to it..   The idea of taking a minute before reacting in anger is good also...

also ...I have found headphones help    no seriously put on headphones and people leave you be mostly and you don't have to listen to their inane blabbering. 

Good advice there...

Buhhhhh... it only works for people who haz a female..

You can't be a young single person and ignore other people..  Then you turn into Tp4 who lives in a dungeon..  hahahahahahhahahaha

[OfTheWild]

well... if you live long enough eventually you will run out of f***s to give about a lot of stuff


man since I turned 45 I just do not give a goodly god d*** about a lot of stuff that would have sent me into a rage in the past.

I've had a fair bit of anger issues in the past... and I honestly can't think of one time where blowing up actually made stuff better.    Now if people tick me off I'm super calm about it and all but I hold my ground and 100% of the time so far, people have backed off..     Being 6'2" 250lbs and totally calm but assertive that whatever isn't gong to work, seems to make people think about what to do.

One thing I did.... I just stopped telling myself I have a short temper... and I learned to just smirk and let things go when people are being d*cks .... rather than reacting to it..   The idea of taking a minute before reacting in anger is good also...

also ...I have found headphones help    no seriously put on headphones and people leave you be mostly and you don't have to listen to their inane blabbering.

Truth.
I also moved to headphones while at work for two reasons, one so people wouldnt interrupt me to try and engage in conversation... and 2, so i wouldnt have to overhear other conversations that might make irritate me enough to join in on the negativity. That was when i was working in a packed noc style environment but now i have my own desk again, surrounded by creative intelligent people, and its quiet so i'm much happier. Previous job duties were just plain toxic.

[Elrick]

I've had a fair bit of anger issues in the past... and I honestly can't think of one time where blowing up actually made stuff better.    Now if people tick me off I'm super calm about it and all but I hold my ground and 100% of the time so far, people have backed off.. 

YES size helps always because it's the minuscule morons that really like to kick up a fuss about everything and anything.  Helps when you align your foot next to their heads and compare them to oversized cockroaches needing to be stepped on.

IN my job no one tries to get nasty because they can't afford to,  being far away from any town or city helps to further isolate them and that is what usually forces them to tow the line  .

[chyros]

I used to be a huge hothead, and about some small things I still am, but generally I'm not anymore. Basically I discovered that you only get bothered by anything as much as you'll let it bother you. So if you're feeling angry or miserable you can either choose to blow up/be sad, or not let it have power over you and don't do the beforementioned things.

[fohat.digs]

My biggest problem is when someone does something thoughtless that wastes my precious time and energy. You can't get it back.

[atarione]

My biggest problem is when someone does something thoughtless that wastes my precious time and energy. You can't get it back.

I mean... this is something people are surprisingly good at..   You can't get back the time..but do you want to waste more time being annoyed about it?    I've learned to bid my time (well and also 99% of the time just get over it) and take revenge later     but mostly honestly just chill out and almost always whatever it was won't seem like enough of a big deal to be bothered to get upset about.


I've learned to just laugh at an awful lot of people's bullsh*t..  life is short.. not giving people the satisfaction of acknowledging their BS is often pretty good revenge in and of itself... if there is one thing people don't like it is being ignored.

[fohat.digs]

this is something people are surprisingly good at

I was actually thinking about things like people (wife, kids, co-workers) neglecting or forgetting things which forces me to drive half an hour each way to do it for them or to bring it to them, for whatever reasons.

For every one time I ask anyone for something like this, I have been asked at least 10-20 times. I accept cleaning up my own messes, but I hate cleaning up other people's messes.

[PollandAkuma]

Letting it get to me is quite easy, but now I know what to look out for. Sometimes I get annoyed at my friends when I have to do a favour for them in which they don't care about it being at my inconvenience...

Times like when my mother screams and *****es at me I can't stop myself from wanting her to just... She never listens to me. No one ever does, nobody in the world understands me.

[tp4tissue]

Letting it get to me is quite easy, but now I know what to look out for. Sometimes I get annoyed at my friends when I have to do a favour for them in which they don't care about it being at my inconvenience...

Times like when my mother screams and *****es at me I can't stop myself from wanting her to just... She never listens to me. No one ever does, nobody in the world understands me.

Hhahahahahahhahahaha

Hello PollandAkuma..

When you're a very young kid, older people will boo-boo you, and for a WHILE, you'll at least feel like there's something to what you say/feel/want.

But in reality,  YOUR DESIRE, YOUR INTELLECT, YOUR ENTIRETY, as a child, only occupies the very bottom rung of the social order..


Because no one is dependent or _Needs_ you,  they will not truly listen to you, as you are not responsible for their meal ticket..


What is a boss, more than organization of labor, they hold people's food..  That's the only reason you listen to THE BOSS..


Because people Hold your-food..  You have to listen.. You've not yet gained the power/ leverage to dictate terms..

[PollandAkuma]

Hhahahahahahhahahaha

Hello PollandAkuma..

When you're a very young kid, older people will boo-boo you, and for a WHILE, you'll at least feel like there's something to what you say/feel/want.

But in reality,  YOUR DESIRE, YOUR INTELLECT, YOUR ENTIRETY, as a child, only occupies the very bottom rung of the social order..


Because no one is dependent or _Needs_ you,  they will not truly listen to you, as you are not responsible for their meal ticket..


What is a boss, more than organization of labor, they hold people's food..  That's the only reason you listen to THE BOSS..


Because people Hold your-food..  You have to listen.. You've not yet gained the power/ leverage to dictate terms..

I guess... It's time for me to become a dictator 

[tp4tissue]

I guess... It's time for me to become a dictator 

Hahaha.. Yup..

There's a very good reason where in public education they Always emphasis TAKING ORDERS, doing what the teacher tells you to do.

This is BY DESIGN.. to indoctrinate the general population into servitude..


See, there's this confusion about Leadership..   You can certainly teach everyone to be leaders..  but what would happen if no one wanted to take orders..

hahaha..

The biggest difference I saw was when I met some people who went to the super wealthy private schools, where the relationship between them and their school is very different, where the staff/teachers are in service to the student..   None of those teachers are part of any union.



That's partially why the wealthy continue to rule, this disparity in education and attitude.

[PollandAkuma]

The biggest difference I saw was when I met some people who went to wealthy private schools, where the relationship between them and their school is very different, where the staff/teachers are in service to the student..   None of those teachers are part of any union.


That's partially why the wealthy continue to rule, this disparity in education and attitude.

I've heard stories like this too, but just that the students did not give a **** about their grades whatsoever. The gap between the two can only be closed by people who have lived or are living in both worlds...

[iamtootallforthis]

Have you tried weightlifting or exercising to vent your anger?

It really did wonders for me.

[fanpeople]

The biggest difference I saw was when I met some people who went to wealthy private schools, where the relationship between them and their school is very different, where the staff/teachers are in service to the student..   None of those teachers are part of any union.


That's partially why the wealthy continue to rule, this disparity in education and attitude.

I've heard stories like this too, but just that the students did not give a **** about their grades whatsoever. The gap between the two can only be closed by people who have lived or are living in both worlds...

**** things must be so different in the US, I knew some private school people when I was also at school and they were pretty much at the mercy of their teachers. The punishments were swift and plentiful. This includes the Kings School and Barker two pretty elite schools here. A school kid should never view their teachers as in service to them it really lays foundation for a bad mindset, i guess unless they are guaranteed a high position in their parent's company where they don't have to earn their place. In that case it probably matters not.


It's funny because there are plenty of people that have clawed their way out of poverty to become pretty wealthy and seem to remember where they came from but this then seems to be lost on their children that know nothing but wealth. 

I know a guy whos parents are rich as ****, but they did not want to give him an advantage in life, now hes berried in debt, can't even get a phone on a plan because of his credit rating and has bulk kids to different parents. So in a way his parents allowed him to dig the hole that they could easily get him out of but they choose not to. It still does not matter because as soon as they kick the bucket he can pretty much retire into cocaine and the titties of hookers for the rest of his life. Maybe he has just never given a **** because he knows its only a matter of time and is simply waiting his parents out to have the last laugh.

But then I know/knew someone in a similar situation with regards to wealthy parents that also would not give him a head start. He saved and bought his car outright, saved a house deposit with no help from his parents and was very good with his money (Dutch not Jew, I know someone was thinking it). I have not seen that guy in a few years but he was doing really well on his own.