I'm not in this at all with products, money, or time. But I AM in it as far a GH is concerned.
I play the supportive role because its what we do. But, if it looks like a scam, feels like a scam, the results are scammy....it's probably a scam, unfortunately. Perhaps he'll resurface with a vengeance, show some hospital pics, and show screenshots/email forwards of his actions to correct the problem with the various money institutions. Along with a detailed group email explanation/apology to at least one person here that can distribute it. Time will tell, personal misfortune DOES happen. I know this, I almost totally and completely failed in everything last year. Living with a backpack was a consideration.
Although I truly feel Toilet Paper 4 Tissue is acting out like a douche, he does make one point I am in agreement with. The "principle" trumps the money. Your entire life will be spent making, spending, finding and losing money. It happens. Factor losses in, because they will happen.