Why DON'T we have a dating section..

[njbair]

Maybe we don't want to be another Ashley Madison?

I pretty much work too much to know what's going on in the outside world, so who's that?

dating site for cheating spouses

only gay cheating happened there though.  literally no women from what i heard.

Yup, it was a scam all along.


Women don't need a website to cheat..


They just go to work dressed up..  Say, Hello,  and boom..



If A guy wants to cheat,  he has to go workout for 3 months, cut carbs,  pay a months worth of some other female's food bill, Listen to and REMEMBER the things she says,  THEN maybe, he gets to cheat..


So,  honestly.....  Yea,  getting the short end here...

The best part is, if he did that stuff for his wife, he'd have no reason to look elsewhere.

[tp4tissue]

Yup, it was a scam all along.


Women don't need a website to cheat..


They just go to work dressed up..  Say, Hello,  and boom..



If A guy wants to cheat,  he has to go workout for 3 months, cut carbs,  pay a months worth of some other female's food bill, Listen to and REMEMBER the things she says,  THEN maybe, he gets to cheat..


So,  honestly.....  Yea,  getting the short end here...

The best part is, if he did that stuff for his wife, he'd have no reason to look elsewhere.

Um..

It'd probably work for the wife , about as well as it'd work on any-other-woman...


The key issue here is,  the difference in expenditure required for gratification.



I think a major part of the problem with women with children is that they're pretty much completely locked to raising kids.

So, overall their time to work on personal social / economic improvement is hindered.


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

That leading to lower desire for their partner, then less romantic interplay, then the partner decides, hai, where did I see a TP4 thread justifying what I'm about to do, ok here it is, Yup.. Social inequality, Time to workout and save some bux to pay another female.

[Elrick]

Um..

It'd probably work for the wife , about as well as it'd work on any-other-woman...


The key issue here is,  the difference in expenditure required for gratification.



I think a major part of the problem with women with children is that they're pretty much completely locked to raising kids.

So, overall their time to work on personal social / economic improvement is hindered.


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

That leading to lower desire for their partner, then less romantic interplay, then the partner decides, hai, where did I see a TP4 thread justifying what I'm about to do, ok here it is, Yup.. Social inequality, Time to workout and save some bux to pay another female.

Another fantasy segment catering to all other loners who THINK they know how real life happens, to other people but never to them.

First mistake you make is comparing money to finding EXTREME happiness, not so.  Yeah makes things easier in our societies all over the globe but it comes down to attentiveness to HER.  Women know when you are faking something, especially the Mrs, she knows you better than any family member or even all your previous lovers, since she has been with you over a long period of time to witness ALL your frailties and weaknesses.

She may take advantage of that OR she may support you so, you'll get someone who helps you with all your deficiencies and stands by you regardless BUT it's a two way street, in which you need to contribute to her needs and wants as well.

Only living with someone for some time will sort out which person works with your own psychological needs and you find out if she is the ONE.  Couldn't imagine coming home to an empty house now because she is what makes it a true home for both of us.

When you find real love you will know it, it's almost like someone switching on a bright light in a darkened room.....the best I can describe this, being that I am a confirmed Rock-Ape.

[SamirD]

Couldn't imagine coming home to an empty house now because she is what makes it a true home for both of us.

When you find real love you will know it, it's almost like someone switching on a bright light in a darkened room.....

Well said.  Been married only 3 years, but now I don't remember what my life before her was like.

But to help tp4tissue, this is where he needs to go register a gh exhibit:
http://geekgirlcon.com/exhibitors-artists/

[inanis]

Um..

It'd probably work for the wife , about as well as it'd work on any-other-woman...


The key issue here is,  the difference in expenditure required for gratification.



I think a major part of the problem with women with children is that they're pretty much completely locked to raising kids.

So, overall their time to work on personal social / economic improvement is hindered.


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

That leading to lower desire for their partner, then less romantic interplay, then the partner decides, hai, where did I see a TP4 thread justifying what I'm about to do, ok here it is, Yup.. Social inequality, Time to workout and save some bux to pay another female.

You are painting an entire gender with a very wide brush there. I think you are probably right about you statements when it comes to women who expect to be taken care of by a husband. Those people are out there, sometimes that is by thier upbringing and/or culture and sometimes it is just because it is something appealing to them.

However, most women do not have kids and then magically care about nothing else and other than raising them. Just as men don't suddently stop caring about other aspects of life. Having a kid is a big deal, but you don't lose your personality and personal interests. And most certainly women can both work and be a mother (and a good one). Cheating happens for a bunch of different reasons, none of which are good. It often involves a fair amount of stupidity, selfishness and bad decision making. 

Your trouble is that you want a girl who is independant and can take care of herself, but you also want a woman to meet your outdated expectations. You can't have both, and I don't think you could handle a woman who doesn't need a provider, cause you say crazy **** that will make them want to punch you in the face. 

[jamster]

Um..

It'd probably work for the wife , about as well as it'd work on any-other-woman...


The key issue here is,  the difference in expenditure required for gratification.



I think a major part of the problem with women with children is that they're pretty much completely locked to raising kids.

So, overall their time to work on personal social / economic improvement is hindered.


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

That leading to lower desire for their partner, then less romantic interplay, then the partner decides, hai, where did I see a TP4 thread justifying what I'm about to do, ok here it is, Yup.. Social inequality, Time to workout and save some bux to pay another female.

And this is exactly the sort of post that shows why GH should not have a dating section.

[Computer-Lab in Basement]

This is not a dating site.

[fohat.digs]

most women do not have kids and then magically care about nothing else and other than raising them.

How long have you been married and how many kids do you have?

[inanis]

most women do not have kids and then magically care about nothing else and other than raising them.

How long have you been married and how many kids do you have?

5 years, 2 kids

[drewba]

Tp4, based on your general thoughts on women you don't seem very dateable.

[trenzafeeds]

Tp4, based on your general thoughts on women you don't seem very dateable.

****ing accurate

[tp4tissue]

Um..

It'd probably work for the wife , about as well as it'd work on any-other-woman...


The key issue here is,  the difference in expenditure required for gratification.



I think a major part of the problem with women with children is that they're pretty much completely locked to raising kids.

So, overall their time to work on personal social / economic improvement is hindered.


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

That leading to lower desire for their partner, then less romantic interplay, then the partner decides, hai, where did I see a TP4 thread justifying what I'm about to do, ok here it is, Yup.. Social inequality, Time to workout and save some bux to pay another female.

You are painting an entire gender with a very wide brush there. I think you are probably right about you statements when it comes to women who expect to be taken care of by a husband. Those people are out there, sometimes that is by thier upbringing and/or culture and sometimes it is just because it is something appealing to them.

However, most women do not have kids and then magically care about nothing else and other than raising them. Just as men don't suddently stop caring about other aspects of life. Having a kid is a big deal, but you don't lose your personality and personal interests. And most certainly women can both work and be a mother (and a good one). Cheating happens for a bunch of different reasons, none of which are good. It often involves a fair amount of stupidity, selfishness and bad decision making. 

Your trouble is that you want a girl who is independant and can take care of herself, but you also want a woman to meet your outdated expectations. You can't have both, and I don't think you could handle a woman who doesn't need a provider, cause you say crazy **** that will make them want to punch you in the face. 

Tp4,  #Ronery4ever

CONFIRMED..

[inanis]

Tp4,  #Ronery4ever

CONFIRMED..

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TP4 just needs to learn empathy and then he'll be fine. Find a woman that can teach you that. :)


Geekhack should totally have a dating thread so we can all see how weak everyone's game is. Or maybe learn from a master, who knows!

[CPTBadAss]

We had a thread like that. It was hilarious and sad.

[beehatch]

Geekhack should totally have a dating thread so we can all see how weak everyone's game is. Or maybe learn from a master, who knows!

how about

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

[inanis]

Geekhack should totally have a dating thread so we can all see how weak everyone's game is. Or maybe learn from a master, who knows!

how about

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Come on, I'm sure you could find some humor in judging the people who choose to put themselves out there.....isn't that how the internet works? And why the world is so terrifying? Maybe that last one is just me.

[beehatch]

Geekhack should totally have a dating thread so we can all see how weak everyone's game is. Or maybe learn from a master, who knows!

how about

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Come on, I'm sure you could find some humor in judging the people who choose to put themselves out there.....isn't that how the internet works? And why the world is so terrifying? Maybe that last one is just me.

no

[hwood34]

Geekhack should totally have a dating thread so we can all see how weak everyone's game is. Or maybe learn from a master, who knows!

how about

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Come on, I'm sure you could find some humor in judging the people who choose to put themselves out there.....isn't that how the internet works? And why the world is so terrifying? Maybe that last one is just me.

no

that's the spirit

[beehatch]

Geekhack should totally have a dating thread so we can all see how weak everyone's game is. Or maybe learn from a master, who knows!

how about

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Come on, I'm sure you could find some humor in judging the people who choose to put themselves out there.....isn't that how the internet works? And why the world is so terrifying? Maybe that last one is just me.

no

that's the spirit

only you give me spirit

[fohat.digs]

Tp4, based on your general thoughts on women you don't seem very dateable.

Thank goodness there are still the cousins.

[Leslieann]

They just go to work dressed up..  Say, Hello,  and boom..
If A guy wants to cheat,  he has to go workout for 3 months, cut carbs,  pay a months worth of some other female's food bill, Listen to and REMEMBER the things she says,  THEN maybe, he gets to cheat..


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

Jeebus, have you developed fire yet or are you still learning to walk upright?
I know you are stuck in the stone age for computers, but you don't have to hold onto stone age gender stereotypes too. As for cheating, some people are not monogamous by nature, others are but still cheat, when they do, it's often because emotional needs are not being met at home. Yes, even for men. It's often less about sex, and almost never because of money (it's pretty rare when an affair will help you monetarily unless it's prostitution).

And no, you don't have spend a fortune on food if you do it right, I'm more impressed by a nice local place I never heard of than an expensive restaurant, it shows he did some research instead of breaking out his wallet and isn't just trying to buy me. The same with looking like Brad Pitt in his prime, you don't have to be sexy, smart, rich, or powerful, there are poor, fat, ugly, strange, short, and nerdy guys who get laid on a regular basis. If you spent as much time and effort on women as you do on keyboards and archaic computers (and GH!), you could too. Where is your focus in life? The guys who have sex often is because they worked at it, figured out what to say, how to say it, and put themselves out there. You may hate the "players", but they invested themselves in figuring out the game while you spent your time learning how to install Windows. On the other hand, it's good you have a hobby because for some guys, that IS their hobby, and when they finally meet that one person they want to be with, they suddenly need a new hobby.


Oh and there's nothing wrong with a van down by the river (lake, beach, mountains, etc...) if you have the right van (note: not mine).

[njbair]

They just go to work dressed up..  Say, Hello,  and boom..
If A guy wants to cheat,  he has to go workout for 3 months, cut carbs,  pay a months worth of some other female's food bill, Listen to and REMEMBER the things she says,  THEN maybe, he gets to cheat..


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

Jeebus, have you developed fire yet or are you still learning to walk upright?
I know you are stuck in the stone age for computers, but you don't have to hold onto stone age gender stereotypes too. As for cheating, some people are not monogamous by nature, others are but still cheat, when they do, it's often because emotional needs are not being met at home. Yes, even for men. It's often less about sex, and almost never because of money (it's pretty rare when an affair will help you monetarily unless it's prostitution).

And no, you don't have spend a fortune on food if you do it right, I'm more impressed by a nice local place I never heard of than an expensive restaurant, it shows he did some research instead of breaking out his wallet and isn't just trying to buy me. The same with looking like Brad Pitt in his prime, you don't have to be sexy, smart, rich, or powerful, there are poor, fat, ugly, strange, short, and nerdy guys who get laid on a regular basis. If you spent as much time and effort on women as you do on keyboards and archaic computers (and GH!), you could too. Where is your focus in life? The guys who have sex often is because they worked at it, figured out what to say, how to say it, and put themselves out there. You may hate the "players", but they invested themselves in figuring out the game while you spent your time learning how to install Windows. On the other hand, it's good you have a hobby because for some guys, that IS their hobby, and when they finally meet that one person they want to be with, they suddenly need a new hobby.


Oh and there's nothing wrong with a van down by the river (lake, beach, mountains, etc...) if you have the right van (note: not mine).

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Nobody is monogamous by nature. There is absolutely nothing natural about maintaining an exclusive romantic relationship. It's a ton of work, most of which is not directly self-beneficial. It's also the only hope for any semblance of long-term emotional stability.

And FWIW, I think tp4 is quite progressive for a China-born man.

[tbc]

They just go to work dressed up..  Say, Hello,  and boom..
If A guy wants to cheat,  he has to go workout for 3 months, cut carbs,  pay a months worth of some other female's food bill, Listen to and REMEMBER the things she says,  THEN maybe, he gets to cheat..


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

Jeebus, have you developed fire yet or are you still learning to walk upright?
I know you are stuck in the stone age for computers, but you don't have to hold onto stone age gender stereotypes too. As for cheating, some people are not monogamous by nature, others are but still cheat, when they do, it's often because emotional needs are not being met at home. Yes, even for men. It's often less about sex, and almost never because of money (it's pretty rare when an affair will help you monetarily unless it's prostitution).

And no, you don't have spend a fortune on food if you do it right, I'm more impressed by a nice local place I never heard of than an expensive restaurant, it shows he did some research instead of breaking out his wallet and isn't just trying to buy me. The same with looking like Brad Pitt in his prime, you don't have to be sexy, smart, rich, or powerful, there are poor, fat, ugly, strange, short, and nerdy guys who get laid on a regular basis. If you spent as much time and effort on women as you do on keyboards and archaic computers (and GH!), you could too. Where is your focus in life? The guys who have sex often is because they worked at it, figured out what to say, how to say it, and put themselves out there. You may hate the "players", but they invested themselves in figuring out the game while you spent your time learning how to install Windows. On the other hand, it's good you have a hobby because for some guys, that IS their hobby, and when they finally meet that one person they want to be with, they suddenly need a new hobby.


Oh and there's nothing wrong with a van down by the river (lake, beach, mountains, etc...) if you have the right van (note: not mine).

Show Image

Nobody is monogamous by nature. There is absolutely nothing natural about maintaining an exclusive romantic relationship. It's a ton of work, most of which is not directly self-beneficial. It's also the only hope for any semblance of long-term emotional stability.

And FWIW, I think tp4 is quite progressive for a China-born man.

i think...i've been offended for the first time on the internet.

that's actually quite an achievement.

[tbc]

most women do not have kids and then magically care about nothing else and other than raising them.

How long have you been married and how many kids do you have?

you're 60-70 right?

[njbair]

They just go to work dressed up..  Say, Hello,  and boom..
If A guy wants to cheat,  he has to go workout for 3 months, cut carbs,  pay a months worth of some other female's food bill, Listen to and REMEMBER the things she says,  THEN maybe, he gets to cheat..


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

Jeebus, have you developed fire yet or are you still learning to walk upright?
I know you are stuck in the stone age for computers, but you don't have to hold onto stone age gender stereotypes too. As for cheating, some people are not monogamous by nature, others are but still cheat, when they do, it's often because emotional needs are not being met at home. Yes, even for men. It's often less about sex, and almost never because of money (it's pretty rare when an affair will help you monetarily unless it's prostitution).

And no, you don't have spend a fortune on food if you do it right, I'm more impressed by a nice local place I never heard of than an expensive restaurant, it shows he did some research instead of breaking out his wallet and isn't just trying to buy me. The same with looking like Brad Pitt in his prime, you don't have to be sexy, smart, rich, or powerful, there are poor, fat, ugly, strange, short, and nerdy guys who get laid on a regular basis. If you spent as much time and effort on women as you do on keyboards and archaic computers (and GH!), you could too. Where is your focus in life? The guys who have sex often is because they worked at it, figured out what to say, how to say it, and put themselves out there. You may hate the "players", but they invested themselves in figuring out the game while you spent your time learning how to install Windows. On the other hand, it's good you have a hobby because for some guys, that IS their hobby, and when they finally meet that one person they want to be with, they suddenly need a new hobby.


Oh and there's nothing wrong with a van down by the river (lake, beach, mountains, etc...) if you have the right van (note: not mine).

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Nobody is monogamous by nature. There is absolutely nothing natural about maintaining an exclusive romantic relationship. It's a ton of work, most of which is not directly self-beneficial. It's also the only hope for any semblance of long-term emotional stability.

And FWIW, I think tp4 is quite progressive for a China-born man.

i think...i've been offended for the first time on the internet.

that's actually quite an achievement.

Which part? The part where I observed that it's hard for people to stay faithful to their spouses; the part where I rightly pointed out that cheating breeds emotional chaos; or the part where I recognized that China's legendary male-dominated culture produces men who are usually more misogynistic than our friend tp4?

[livingspeedbump]

A Geekhacker needs to marry someone who isn't into keyboards. Someone they would have to answer to if they blew all their money on keyboards. Otherwise you're just going to end up bankrupt. Or living in a van down by the river.

Whatcha ya got against living in a van by the river? Seems dreamy to me. 

[njbair]

A Geekhacker needs to marry someone who isn't into keyboards. Someone they would have to answer to if they blew all their money on keyboards. Otherwise you're just going to end up bankrupt. Or living in a van down by the river.

Whatcha ya got against living in a van by the river? Seems dreamy to me. 

Crappy Internet by the river.

[livingspeedbump]

Oh and there's nothing wrong with a van down by the river (lake, beach, mountains, etc...) if you have the right van (note: not mine).

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THANK YOU! Glad someone understands what living the dream actually means. Though any old van would do for me...

[tbc]

They just go to work dressed up..  Say, Hello,  and boom..
If A guy wants to cheat,  he has to go workout for 3 months, cut carbs,  pay a months worth of some other female's food bill, Listen to and REMEMBER the things she says,  THEN maybe, he gets to cheat..


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

Jeebus, have you developed fire yet or are you still learning to walk upright?
I know you are stuck in the stone age for computers, but you don't have to hold onto stone age gender stereotypes too. As for cheating, some people are not monogamous by nature, others are but still cheat, when they do, it's often because emotional needs are not being met at home. Yes, even for men. It's often less about sex, and almost never because of money (it's pretty rare when an affair will help you monetarily unless it's prostitution).

And no, you don't have spend a fortune on food if you do it right, I'm more impressed by a nice local place I never heard of than an expensive restaurant, it shows he did some research instead of breaking out his wallet and isn't just trying to buy me. The same with looking like Brad Pitt in his prime, you don't have to be sexy, smart, rich, or powerful, there are poor, fat, ugly, strange, short, and nerdy guys who get laid on a regular basis. If you spent as much time and effort on women as you do on keyboards and archaic computers (and GH!), you could too. Where is your focus in life? The guys who have sex often is because they worked at it, figured out what to say, how to say it, and put themselves out there. You may hate the "players", but they invested themselves in figuring out the game while you spent your time learning how to install Windows. On the other hand, it's good you have a hobby because for some guys, that IS their hobby, and when they finally meet that one person they want to be with, they suddenly need a new hobby.


Oh and there's nothing wrong with a van down by the river (lake, beach, mountains, etc...) if you have the right van (note: not mine).

Show Image

Nobody is monogamous by nature. There is absolutely nothing natural about maintaining an exclusive romantic relationship. It's a ton of work, most of which is not directly self-beneficial. It's also the only hope for any semblance of long-term emotional stability.

And FWIW, I think tp4 is quite progressive for a China-born man.

i think...i've been offended for the first time on the internet.

that's actually quite an achievement.

Which part? The part where I observed that it's hard for people to stay faithful to their spouses; the part where I rightly pointed out that cheating breeds emotional chaos; or the part where I recognized that China's legendary male-dominated culture produces men who are usually more misogynistic than our friend tp4?

the part where you compared me to tp4 :(

feelz assploded

#notallchinamen

EDIT:

although japan is far far worse ftr

[njbair]

They just go to work dressed up..  Say, Hello,  and boom..
If A guy wants to cheat,  he has to go workout for 3 months, cut carbs,  pay a months worth of some other female's food bill, Listen to and REMEMBER the things she says,  THEN maybe, he gets to cheat..


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

Jeebus, have you developed fire yet or are you still learning to walk upright?
I know you are stuck in the stone age for computers, but you don't have to hold onto stone age gender stereotypes too. As for cheating, some people are not monogamous by nature, others are but still cheat, when they do, it's often because emotional needs are not being met at home. Yes, even for men. It's often less about sex, and almost never because of money (it's pretty rare when an affair will help you monetarily unless it's prostitution).

And no, you don't have spend a fortune on food if you do it right, I'm more impressed by a nice local place I never heard of than an expensive restaurant, it shows he did some research instead of breaking out his wallet and isn't just trying to buy me. The same with looking like Brad Pitt in his prime, you don't have to be sexy, smart, rich, or powerful, there are poor, fat, ugly, strange, short, and nerdy guys who get laid on a regular basis. If you spent as much time and effort on women as you do on keyboards and archaic computers (and GH!), you could too. Where is your focus in life? The guys who have sex often is because they worked at it, figured out what to say, how to say it, and put themselves out there. You may hate the "players", but they invested themselves in figuring out the game while you spent your time learning how to install Windows. On the other hand, it's good you have a hobby because for some guys, that IS their hobby, and when they finally meet that one person they want to be with, they suddenly need a new hobby.


Oh and there's nothing wrong with a van down by the river (lake, beach, mountains, etc...) if you have the right van (note: not mine).

Show Image

Nobody is monogamous by nature. There is absolutely nothing natural about maintaining an exclusive romantic relationship. It's a ton of work, most of which is not directly self-beneficial. It's also the only hope for any semblance of long-term emotional stability.

And FWIW, I think tp4 is quite progressive for a China-born man.

i think...i've been offended for the first time on the internet.

that's actually quite an achievement.

Which part? The part where I observed that it's hard for people to stay faithful to their spouses; the part where I rightly pointed out that cheating breeds emotional chaos; or the part where I recognized that China's legendary male-dominated culture produces men who are usually more misogynistic than our friend tp4?

the part where you compared me to tp4 :(

feelz assploded

#notallchinamen

EDIT:

although japan is far far worse ftr

Sorry for offending... I might have been better to say "quite progressive for someone raised in Chinese culture."

[tbc]

They just go to work dressed up..  Say, Hello,  and boom..
If A guy wants to cheat,  he has to go workout for 3 months, cut carbs,  pay a months worth of some other female's food bill, Listen to and REMEMBER the things she says,  THEN maybe, he gets to cheat..


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

Jeebus, have you developed fire yet or are you still learning to walk upright?
I know you are stuck in the stone age for computers, but you don't have to hold onto stone age gender stereotypes too. As for cheating, some people are not monogamous by nature, others are but still cheat, when they do, it's often because emotional needs are not being met at home. Yes, even for men. It's often less about sex, and almost never because of money (it's pretty rare when an affair will help you monetarily unless it's prostitution).

And no, you don't have spend a fortune on food if you do it right, I'm more impressed by a nice local place I never heard of than an expensive restaurant, it shows he did some research instead of breaking out his wallet and isn't just trying to buy me. The same with looking like Brad Pitt in his prime, you don't have to be sexy, smart, rich, or powerful, there are poor, fat, ugly, strange, short, and nerdy guys who get laid on a regular basis. If you spent as much time and effort on women as you do on keyboards and archaic computers (and GH!), you could too. Where is your focus in life? The guys who have sex often is because they worked at it, figured out what to say, how to say it, and put themselves out there. You may hate the "players", but they invested themselves in figuring out the game while you spent your time learning how to install Windows. On the other hand, it's good you have a hobby because for some guys, that IS their hobby, and when they finally meet that one person they want to be with, they suddenly need a new hobby.


Oh and there's nothing wrong with a van down by the river (lake, beach, mountains, etc...) if you have the right van (note: not mine).

Show Image

Nobody is monogamous by nature. There is absolutely nothing natural about maintaining an exclusive romantic relationship. It's a ton of work, most of which is not directly self-beneficial. It's also the only hope for any semblance of long-term emotional stability.

And FWIW, I think tp4 is quite progressive for a China-born man.

i think...i've been offended for the first time on the internet.

that's actually quite an achievement.

Which part? The part where I observed that it's hard for people to stay faithful to their spouses; the part where I rightly pointed out that cheating breeds emotional chaos; or the part where I recognized that China's legendary male-dominated culture produces men who are usually more misogynistic than our friend tp4?

the part where you compared me to tp4 :(

feelz assploded

#notallchinamen

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although japan is far far worse ftr

Sorry for offending... I might have been better to say "quite progressive for someone raised in Chinese culture."

derrr, i just joking

not sure if you're also joking

:)

[njbair]

They just go to work dressed up..  Say, Hello,  and boom..
If A guy wants to cheat,  he has to go workout for 3 months, cut carbs,  pay a months worth of some other female's food bill, Listen to and REMEMBER the things she says,  THEN maybe, he gets to cheat..


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

Jeebus, have you developed fire yet or are you still learning to walk upright?
I know you are stuck in the stone age for computers, but you don't have to hold onto stone age gender stereotypes too. As for cheating, some people are not monogamous by nature, others are but still cheat, when they do, it's often because emotional needs are not being met at home. Yes, even for men. It's often less about sex, and almost never because of money (it's pretty rare when an affair will help you monetarily unless it's prostitution).

And no, you don't have spend a fortune on food if you do it right, I'm more impressed by a nice local place I never heard of than an expensive restaurant, it shows he did some research instead of breaking out his wallet and isn't just trying to buy me. The same with looking like Brad Pitt in his prime, you don't have to be sexy, smart, rich, or powerful, there are poor, fat, ugly, strange, short, and nerdy guys who get laid on a regular basis. If you spent as much time and effort on women as you do on keyboards and archaic computers (and GH!), you could too. Where is your focus in life? The guys who have sex often is because they worked at it, figured out what to say, how to say it, and put themselves out there. You may hate the "players", but they invested themselves in figuring out the game while you spent your time learning how to install Windows. On the other hand, it's good you have a hobby because for some guys, that IS their hobby, and when they finally meet that one person they want to be with, they suddenly need a new hobby.


Oh and there's nothing wrong with a van down by the river (lake, beach, mountains, etc...) if you have the right van (note: not mine).

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Nobody is monogamous by nature. There is absolutely nothing natural about maintaining an exclusive romantic relationship. It's a ton of work, most of which is not directly self-beneficial. It's also the only hope for any semblance of long-term emotional stability.

And FWIW, I think tp4 is quite progressive for a China-born man.

i think...i've been offended for the first time on the internet.

that's actually quite an achievement.

Which part? The part where I observed that it's hard for people to stay faithful to their spouses; the part where I rightly pointed out that cheating breeds emotional chaos; or the part where I recognized that China's legendary male-dominated culture produces men who are usually more misogynistic than our friend tp4?

the part where you compared me to tp4 :(

feelz assploded

#notallchinamen

EDIT:

although japan is far far worse ftr

Sorry for offending... I might have been better to say "quite progressive for someone raised in Chinese culture."

derrr, i just joking

not sure if you're also joking

:)

I was making light of this topic because it was getting too intense IMO. But when I thought you were offended and angry I got a bit defensive...

[tp4tissue]

Tp4, based on your general thoughts on women you don't seem very dateable.

Thank goodness there are still the cousins.

Fohat.. whats wrong with you..  You've one-tracked this cousins thing the entire time LOLOLOL...


Fohats must possess some sort of incestuous tendencies/ fantasies.

[nubbinator]

So, hey, uhh, any ladies in the SoCal area, I'm student loan debt free and only have the awkward parts of being into keyboards and living with my parents.

[tp4tissue]

So, hey, uhh, any ladies in the SoCal area, I'm student loan debt free and only have the awkward parts of being into keyboards and living with my parents.

u gotta use the official Profile...



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[Leslieann]

Nobody is monogamous by nature. There is absolutely nothing natural about maintaining an exclusive romantic relationship. It's a ton of work, most of which is not directly self-beneficial. It's also the only hope for any semblance of long-term emotional stability.

I actually agree with you despite how the other post sounds.
I tend to think of what most people term monogamy as serial monogamy, but some people can't even handle that very well.

Why is the bar for a successful marriage only achievable if someone dies and anything else is a failure? That's just insanity, try using that metric for anything else. Relationships aren't meant to last 60 years, it happens, but rarely as monogamous and wonderful as people make it out to be. To anyone who disagrees, think about this, what happens when people regularly live to 150 years old(?), do we hold them to the same standard? Sorry, I'm not staying with anyone for 130 years. Marriages should be more like contracts and have a renegotiation or expiration date, where after say 4 years, you re-evaluate.

[tp4tissue]

Nobody is monogamous by nature. There is absolutely nothing natural about maintaining an exclusive romantic relationship. It's a ton of work, most of which is not directly self-beneficial. It's also the only hope for any semblance of long-term emotional stability.

I actually agree with you despite how the other post sounds.
I tend to think of what most people term monogamy as serial monogamy, but some people can't even handle that very well.

Why is the bar for a successful marriage only achievable if someone dies and anything else is a failure? That's just insanity, try using that metric for anything else. Relationships aren't meant to last 60 years, it happens, but rarely as monogamous and wonderful as people make it out to be. To anyone who disagrees, think about this, what happens when people regularly live to 150 years old(?), do we hold them to the same standard? Sorry, I'm not staying with anyone for 130 years. Marriages should be more like contracts and have a renegotiation or expiration date, where after say 4 years, you re-evaluate.

Tell that to Disney...  they're responsible for the bulk of the misconception..  we also aught to send a letter to De'beers to tell them that their rocks don't work..

They're not even rocks,  more like pebbles.

[njbair]

Nobody is monogamous by nature. There is absolutely nothing natural about maintaining an exclusive romantic relationship. It's a ton of work, most of which is not directly self-beneficial. It's also the only hope for any semblance of long-term emotional stability.

I actually agree with you despite how the other post sounds.
I tend to think of what most people term monogamy as serial monogamy, but some people can't even handle that very well.

Why is the bar for a successful marriage only achievable if someone dies and anything else is a failure? That's just insanity, try using that metric for anything else. Relationships aren't meant to last 60 years, it happens, but rarely as monogamous and wonderful as people make it out to be. To anyone who disagrees, think about this, what happens when people regularly live to 150 years old(?), do we hold them to the same standard? Sorry, I'm not staying with anyone for 130 years. Marriages should be more like contracts and have a renegotiation or expiration date, where after say 4 years, you re-evaluate.

Well if you said "till death do us part" or some permutation thereof, then you are the one who set the standard for success/failure. If not, then why get married at all? What are you committing to if the terms are so vague as "till I cite irreconcilable differences" or "till I find someone younger and hotter."

I will admit that I may be old-fashioned on this, but old fashioned does not necessarily mean wrong.

[tp4tissue]

Nobody is monogamous by nature. There is absolutely nothing natural about maintaining an exclusive romantic relationship. It's a ton of work, most of which is not directly self-beneficial. It's also the only hope for any semblance of long-term emotional stability.

I actually agree with you despite how the other post sounds.
I tend to think of what most people term monogamy as serial monogamy, but some people can't even handle that very well.

Why is the bar for a successful marriage only achievable if someone dies and anything else is a failure? That's just insanity, try using that metric for anything else. Relationships aren't meant to last 60 years, it happens, but rarely as monogamous and wonderful as people make it out to be. To anyone who disagrees, think about this, what happens when people regularly live to 150 years old(?), do we hold them to the same standard? Sorry, I'm not staying with anyone for 130 years. Marriages should be more like contracts and have a renegotiation or expiration date, where after say 4 years, you re-evaluate.

Well if you said "till death do us part" or some permutation thereof, then you are the one who set the standard for success/failure. If not, then why get married at all? What are you committing to if the terms are so vague as "till I cite irreconcilable differences" or "till I find someone younger and hotter."

I will admit that I may be old-fashioned on this, but old fashioned does not necessarily mean wrong.

It'd make more sense to say.. -- commit to until our kids are through college --..

That pretty much fulfills the required role as caregivers,   the social planners honestly don't give a damn about what you do after..

[SamirD]

although japan is far far worse ftr

You think that's bad.  India is known for raping women because it's so easy to get away with it. 

And then the fobs (fresh off the boats) come here and then think they can treat women like crap and realize that they are in the wrong country for that.  But by then the damage is done and all Indian guys are stereotyped--at least in the Bay Area.  Apparently it's horrible there if your brown and want to get down.

[Leslieann]

Tell that to Disney...  they're responsible for the bulk of the misconception.. 

It predates Disney by at least 1500 years.

Well if you said "till death do us part" or some permutation thereof, then you are the one who set the standard for success/failure. If not, then why get married at all? What are you committing to if the terms are so vague as "till I cite irreconcilable differences" or "till I find someone younger and hotter."

I will admit that I may be old-fashioned on this, but old fashioned does not necessarily mean wrong.

Committing to something doesn't always have to mean committing to it for life and even if it does only last 4 or 8 years by design, how is that any different than divorce rates? It's not being non-committal, it's being realistic.

I wonder how courts would look upon a 4 year term marriage?

And no, I would not say till death do us part.

[dutC4]

 

[abswyfe]

Um..

It'd probably work for the wife , about as well as it'd work on any-other-woman...


The key issue here is,  the difference in expenditure required for gratification.



I think a major part of the problem with women with children is that they're pretty much completely locked to raising kids.

So, overall their time to work on personal social / economic improvement is hindered.


Then, they see what all these other women from much more affluent family units have,  and they feel ****ty that their husband and partner can't provide those things for them..

That leading to lower desire for their partner, then less romantic interplay, then the partner decides, hai, where did I see a TP4 thread justifying what I'm about to do, ok here it is, Yup.. Social inequality, Time to workout and save some bux to pay another female.

You are painting an entire gender with a very wide brush there. I think you are probably right about you statements when it comes to women who expect to be taken care of by a husband. Those people are out there, sometimes that is by thier upbringing and/or culture and sometimes it is just because it is something appealing to them.

However, most women do not have kids and then magically care about nothing else and other than raising them. Just as men don't suddently stop caring about other aspects of life. Having a kid is a big deal, but you don't lose your personality and personal interests. And most certainly women can both work and be a mother (and a good one). Cheating happens for a bunch of different reasons, none of which are good. It often involves a fair amount of stupidity, selfishness and bad decision making. 

Your trouble is that you want a girl who is independant and can take care of herself, but you also want a woman to meet your outdated expectations. You can't have both, and I don't think you could handle a woman who doesn't need a provider, cause you say crazy **** that will make them want to punch you in the face.

Inanis is so on point here

Also tp4
If you want some advice on how to keep a woman
Learn to eat ****

Is that serious enough for you dutC4?

[absyrd]

Haha. All her migraine meds + posting on GH. Dangerous.

[sth]

Also tp4
If you want some advice on how to keep a woman
Learn to eat ****

just had to quote this

abswyfe pls write some guest posts for my blog

[fohat.digs]

Life is a journey. When people's paths intersect, they may lock together and continue indefinitely, or they may diverge after some amount of time in parallel.

I believe that marriages in earlier generations were more permanent and stable because the majority of people married very young, finished maturing together, and because life was much simpler and more difficult (ie the majority of time and energy devoted to mere survival) stayed the course without hardly even considering alternatives.

Today, few people marry before they are fully mature, with their own courses much better established, and modern life has made life so much easier that not only are alternatives more abundant, but they are far easier to take advantage of.

[absyrd]

Also tp4
If you want some advice on how to keep a woman
Learn to eat ****

just had to quote this

abswyfe pls write some guest posts for my blog

She just blacked out on the couch after taking all her migraine meds. I'll point her to your blog when she gets up. I'm sure she'll still be in a "who gives a ****" mode.  )

[SamirD]

I believe that marriages in earlier generations were more permanent and stable because the majority of people married very young, finished maturing together, and because life was much simpler and more difficult (ie the majority of time and energy devoted to mere survival) stayed the course without hardly even considering alternatives.

Today, few people marry before they are fully mature, with their own courses much better established, and modern life has made life so much easier that not only are alternatives more abundant, but they are far easier to take advantage of.

Well said.  I remember when people moving from and living in several different countries inside a decade was unheard of.  Now, people move all the time for a job--and that in itself brings all sorts of new challenges to 'staying the course'.

[Computer-Lab in Basement]

This is not a dating site.

[fohat.digs]

This is not a dating site.

We heard you before. However, in tp's case, this is as close as he can expect to get.